Im almost 21 and I have beeen with my boyfriend for a year and some odd months... But when we are about to do the nasty I can never seem to get in the mood or have a "O" Is it me? Or do I just not have a sex drive at all? I mean I get horny... But When we start it just goes away!!! What should I do? Or what should he be doing?
2006-09-27 10:38:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm not a doctor to give u a precise advice but my experience says that u sud just go ahead and try the actual act of the sex. trust me, u will feel horny once u start doing it unless there is something very wrong with ur mind but certainly not the body, in which case a professional help is advised....enjoy!!!
2006-09-27 10:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remind yourself that having sex is not just physical. As for me, if I am not mentally connected with someone, then there is no mood. Even if it's just sex...there has to be some kind of mental connection with the guy.
Or....you can have more foreplay....there are many different ways to be intimate with your partner than only sexual penetration. It also sounds like you are anticipating your orgasm...trust me, your orgasm with let you know when its time. Just relax....enjoy the moment, without expectations and you'll see how sexy sex can be!
2006-09-27 10:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by salsadive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you're putting too much pressure on yourself. That will make the libido go down and impossble to climax. Maybe he's putting pressure on it too. Try to have FUN not just pleasure, be able to laugh at the situation. If you're losing the urge stop.
You need to know that 'doing the nasty' should be something you WANT to do not NEED to do. I used to be the same way.. honestly it could be your man, i changed men (not because of sex) and i want my new man and those are no longer problems
He needs to make you feel beautiful and be there for YOU until you're more comfortable in bed
2006-09-27 10:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to put foreplay in the mix or try other positions or at least oral sex. That might help. There are a lot of women who enjoy sex but have never had the "O". So relax and enjoy it will happen when you least expect it.
2006-09-27 10:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to find out what feels good to you. How can he please you if you don't know how to please yourself?! This may be taboo but I would suggest spending an evening with your man, discovering each others body parts and sensations. I'm not going to elaborate because I'm sure you know what I am talking about. Let him "discover" you and vice versa. Try not to think too much about it. A glass of wine will help relax your mind. Once you both know your "sensations" go for it. Make love and don't let him turn into a rabbit on you! GUYS, FAST doesn't work all of the time!
2006-09-27 10:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs_Rivera2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax and have lots of foreplay. Don't rush things. Try oral sex to warm you up. If there is anything you really like, talk to your boyfriend about it.
2006-09-27 10:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you two are not compatible sexually. It is no ones fault. Different people, different sex drives. And perhaps you should both study techniques. Sex is expression, not endurance, or absolute need. We can control our desires. Stick with him, if he's for you. Or, consider dating others. Those are your options.
2006-09-27 10:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by robert r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOREPLAY is very important, it sounds to me like he is the one doing it wrong, just let him know what you like, give him encouragement without hurting his feelings, say things like "I like that, keep doing that, etc." Most guys want to rush things, that is one of the biggest mistakes a man can make. It's all about the foreplay.
2006-09-27 10:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a virgin? Because that could explain a lot. Try a drink or two. That does it all the time!
2006-09-27 10:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by O.K.Q.T. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more foreplay before you have sex. He needs to take his time and make sure you enjoy it.
2006-09-27 10:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋