I've got a problem I need to solve, can anyone help?

Question

Please help, any of you psychiatrists out there, real or amateur, I've got a problem with my mum. This problem started in 2004 she seems to have developed an obsession/paranoia about this teenage boy in our street. She is convinced that this boy is going to damage our house in some way, and she is scared stiff. The boy hasn't really done anything to suggest that this is possible, he's done some puerile things like throw eggs at the windows and sit on our garden wall to defy us and little things like that, but nothing threatning. As a result, my mum now refuses to sit in the Living room because the very sight of this boy walking past is enough to cause her a real problem, even although he seems to have matured a little and doesn't cause us a problem any more. She refuses point blank to discuss the matter, and I just feel like beating the living sh1t out of this boy for what he has done to my mum, I'm nearing the end of my ability to stay quiet about it, I'm ready to explode, HELP!

Answer 1

May be it is time to get mom, some help, she needs to speak to a therapist, it sounds like she is paranoid, the best thing you can do for her is to get her help, because she is hurting herself. Thank God she has a wonderful person like you for a son.

Answer 2

Well if the kid is being disruptive, I think you should call the police, even if it's something petty such as throwing eggs, etc. He shouldn't be doing stuff like that in the first place.

With regards to your mom, you really need to take her to a real therapist, since that's the only way they will be able to diagnose if she has any real mental illness. Paranoia and any extreme irrational phobia might be a sign of schizophrenia. You could also check her family history for any mental illnesses because there is a belief that these may be genetic. Please sit down and talk to your mother about seeing a therapist. That's the best way you can help her, while it's early. These type of illnesses worsen in time if they are not treated properly.

Good luck.

Answer 3

if you have insurance for long in depth counseling for your mom then that is the way to go. It might be cheaper (if you do not have ins) to buy the boy a new home far far away, but probably then she would find a new object for her paranoia.

So then there is the do it yourself method, and if you like to read you can learn everything that a psychologist knows cuz that is how he larned et.

Ok for starters, there are 2 areas of the psyche this might be coming from, schizophrenia, or it could be rooted in a past trauma. There are plenty of books on PTSD. You might just try through questioning about her past to discover the earlier trauma which may have been re-triggered by this kid

If it is schezophrenia then they have medications and you probably have a state mental health services to assist in getting meds.

Look back to when this started and see if there is perhaps something else which could have triggered this like a death in the family or something like that, and for now talk to her and listen. If it is not a chemical imbalance and you are trying hard to listen usually the person (your mom) will tell you even if they do not want to. Treat it like you would a mystery or treasure hunt and notice fleeting facial expressions that will tip you off as to what is really going on.. Thats all I got for the information given.

Answer 4

there is something way down inside that happened to her as a child that she has tried to block out and this boy has brought back that horrible memory.

I suggest you get her to a hypnotist and get this problem out to the lite of day so it can be dealt with properly

Answer 5

Try talking to the boy, get him not show his face in the front your house

Its either that or move

Answer 6

TAKE HER TO THE DOCTOR!!!!!!