talk to the kid i like. he's a year older so i really dont have any time to be near him but at dances and stuff i do. how do i go up and talk to him and stuff cause i dont really know him. he's a year older so its kinda intimadating. what should i do cause i want him to like me and ask me to dance.... any advice?
2006-09-27 10:20:29 · 13 answers · asked by kisses_in_the_rain212 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just start a conversation with him like you would with your friends - it is ok to be nervous cause more than likely - he will be too - that is ok - that feeling is part of the fun in a new relationship or even when we just interact with someone we are interested - I love that feeling.
Just ask him about sports if he plays any or what he is doing after the dance -perhaps go up to his group with your group of friends so you don't feel alone or too nervous - is there someone that you know who knows him that could introduce the two of you? Also - you could ask him to dance - that would be ok - Guys - even though he is a year older than you - are technically years behind girls in maturity so he may want to ask you to dance but just might not get the nerve to - may think his friends will tease him or something - so if he doesn't - don't get too upset - it could mean a ton of things other than the fact he is not interested in you.
I would go up and say hi and tell him your name and ask his - ask him about what he does for extra curricular activities or something - if he is a senior you could ask him about college choices he is thinking of, etc - just talk to him like anyone else - go up to them in a group and see if one of your friends will ask one of his friends to dance and then you could ask him - this is when friends are really good to have. You can always compliment a guy and touch his shoulder when you say it - like nice shirt - touch his collar (if there is one on a suit shirt/dress shirt or polo shir) but I would just lightly touch his arm or his shoulder - people like to be touched for the most part - it will show him that you are into him.
You might be nervous but it is better to do it and be nervous than to regret never acting on your feelings - you will be happy that you did cause then the awkward feeling the first time you talk to someone will get less and less each time you talk to him - and if you open up to him then you can talk to him at school - find out when his free period is, classes are, etc and "accidentally" bump into him or something.
Just be you - that is the best way -
:o) Good luck~
2006-09-27 10:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in this case. Is your never really going to have the guts. You'll always scare yourself into not going up to him. Your concious will be talking to you or something of that matter. Well, the best thing to do in this case is just to waltz straight up to him. And say hi. Then if that's all you say that's fine. Least you said a word, right? Then after a while of the hi's and the how're you's. You'll have the courage to have longer conversations. =]
2006-09-27 17:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by hollywood [hobo]â?¢ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up and go over to him and say "girl's choice...how about a dance". Wear a bright smile and look him in the eye. If you accomplish this one time it will give you more confidence in yourself. If for some reason he refuses, keep smiling and say..."OK maybe some other time then. There would be no reason to feel bad or ashamed.
At the very least you would have shown courage and class...that's to be admired, not scorned.
Be brave and go for it.
2006-09-27 17:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just what you said,go up and start tallking to him Find something to compliment him about. Ask him if he had mr Smith or Jones for math last year and what advice he might give.Anything that he mignt think he is an expert on ask him a question. Guys like to focus on themselves.Good luck/Grandma
2006-09-27 17:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to lose you have your whole life a head of you! Just go up to him ask him to dance. No biggie I did it when I was in middle school and high school. And if he says no dont get sad about it. You will have a million more crushes and dances and boyfriends in your life time! =)
2006-09-27 17:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A year older is not that bad...find out what he likes and ask him about it. I liked this guy and I always heard him talking about cars so I asked about a car that I just saw on TV, fibbed and told him I was thinking about getting one and wanted his opinion. Well we ended up together and he ended up buying me the car. Maybe it won't end up like that but the point is...just do it.
2006-09-27 17:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by NoPeace4Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not that intimidating. Just go up and talk to him. Men like confidence. notice something about him...find things out...what's he into? Then go up to him and talk about it. start with something like "hey I noticed you like Nascar (or whatever) " and start a conversation. Eventually if he finds a lot of things in common with you he'll ask you to dance or go out or something of the sort.
2006-09-27 17:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by Veronica K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to dance. If you get a dance - note the body language.
2006-09-27 17:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same proplem exept he is my age. And we r having a dance on halloween and i do not know how to make him ask me 2 dance. heck i can not even talk 2 him!!
2006-09-27 17:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by ~! * CinDerElLa * !~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur this nervous have a friend do it 4 u. it doenst matter how old u r. this method isnt imature. you'll be surprised bcuz it almost works everytime! Good Luck Gurl
2006-09-27 17:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by DJ Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋