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My nephew will be 3 years old in a few months. He has just started biting things. He bites other kids, adults and even his little dog. I told my sister how dangerous that can be and she has tried a lot of things but he is still biting. Has anyone out there had this problem with their kid and was able to stop them from biting? If so please help.

2006-09-27 10:06:31 · 13 answers · asked by Kim M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

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A friend of mine had that problem with her son also. Someone told her to bite him back but PLEASE don't do that. The only thing I can think of is the "time out" thing which I thoroughly believe in. Give him a "time out" whenever he bites anything or anyone. This is that you make him stay in an area with no toys, TV or games for a period of time - say 20 minutes or so. He will raise hell when you do this but I think eventually that will work. Good Luck

ps - please do not do what the first person new-sing said to do!

2006-09-27 10:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie 5 · 2 0

You'll need to try to figure out WHY he is biting. Is he getting new teeth, or does he want attention? Is he biting instead of saying that he's mad?

If it's new teeth, you can give him popsicles made out of fruit juice, or clean wet washcloths that have been in the freezer to try to help with teething pain. Or you can try an over-the-counter medication if necessary.

If he wants attention, ask him if he wants "Good Attention" or "bad attention"? "Good attention" would be when you read to him or play with him. If he wants this, tell him that he needs to 'use his words' and ASK.

"Bad attention" is what happens after he bites someone. You can tell him "Biting hurts! We don't bite our friends." Then take him to a quiet place to cool off. Most kids don't want to be away from 'the fun', so if he bites a friend, and is taken away from the are where the kids are playing each time he bites, he'll get the idea that biting= no fun.

You can also talk to him about how the OTHER kid is feeling. "Look. Jared's crying. He doesn't like to be bitten. It hurts."

Kids that bite should apologize when they've calmed down. You might also have him get his friend a band-aid, or some ice 'to help them feel better'.

Some people may suggest having him bite himself to 'see how it feels'. I wouldn't do that without checking with the pediatrician first. You don't want him to bite into his hand, it could become infected. Also, some kids bite themselves when they're stressed, and you don't want to encourage that.

If he bites when he's mad, try to help him find another way to express the anger. He could SAY he is mad ("use your words"), or he might punch a pillow or kick a ball really hard. Encourage him to do THAT instead of biting.

You DO need to protect other kids and pets from being bitten. One day the dog might decide to bite him back, and you don't want that. And it's not fair to the pet to have to tolerate that kind ofabuse.

If he bites the dog, maybe it could go to Grandma's house for a day or two. You could tell him that it's not safe for the doggie to be there when he is biting, and that the doggie can come home when the biting stops.

Hopefully something here is helpful. If not, I'd ask the pediatrician what they'd recommend, and ask them to document it in the kids file to cover your tush.

2006-09-27 10:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by AD J 2 · 1 0

Do not worry. Your nephew is not the incarnation of the devil from some horror picture.

It’s upsetting and embarrassing when your son or daughter bites another person, but the behavior is common among infants, toddlers and preschoolers. Most children will bite or have bitten someone, and probably have been on the receiving end of a bite or two. They all bite for various reasons,Infants often bite during breastfeeding sessions, and toddlers and preschoolers bite out of frustration or to get attention.” Some infants clamp down during breastfeeding sessions, sometimes so often and so hard that it becomes too painful for mothers to continue breastfeeding. This usually happens around 6 months of age when infants are teething.They bite to alleviate teething pain, but once they get a reaction from mom, the behavior may continue. Most nursing mothers and infants are able to work through the biting and continue breastfeeding.
Whether or not your child bites during the breastfeeding months, chances are you will have to deal with the behavior as he or she grows into a toddler or preschooler.From about 18 months to 3 years old is when most biting occurs – a time when most children have not yet developed the coping and communication skills to deal with frustration, anger or fear. Biting becomes an instinctive reaction to these emotions.Other times, a child may bite because they are seeking attention from parents or mimicking behavior they’ve experienced. For example, in a daycare class where one or two children are expressing themselves by biting, their classmates may begin to bite. Children learn to live what they see..

If an infant bites during breastfeeding end the feeding for a few minutes – even if it happens at the beginning of the session.
Show your child the appropriate way to interact with others by modeling that behavior at home. Never act aggressively toward your spouse, children or anyone else. Children are very perceptive and pick up and repeat aggressive behavior.
Make it clear that biting and other aggressive behaviors are unacceptable by firmly saying “no” or “no biting” and putting the child in time out for one minute for each year of his or her age. Parents should never bite their child to show him or her how it feels. Doing so will only teach them that it’s alright to bite.
When a child bites a sibling, firmly say no to the child that bit and then immediately focus attention on the child who was bitten by showing concern and hugging them. This removes the payoff of attention the child who bit wants.
Ultimately a child will outgrow biting as his or her verbal skills develop. If at any time parents become concerned about their child’s biting or if a child continues to bite after age 4 talk to their child’s doctor

2006-09-27 10:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by Prabhakar G 6 · 0 0

You must apply Punish or Reward method. Typically if the kid starts bite, that you must teach the kid that would result in unfavorable result for him. Perhaps little physical pain to match up or little more to his pain inflicting bite, but not to the level where it would be considered abuse. This should apply with everyone that he have been biting. So if he bites any one of the people that he usually bites, they all come to him and give him a bite right after he bit someone.
Other thing is..
It's possible that the kid bites for attention. Keep him isolated place where something that would prevent you from feeling pain from bite. Alas, allow him to bite area but just ignore him. Give attention only if he properly approaches without any bites.

2006-09-27 10:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by Dj Noeck 4 · 1 1

So typical seeing uneducated people recommending to bite their child back. Obviously you should never bite back to teach a lesson. Biting is a common behavior in most toddlers and increases when a child is tired or frustrated. You should never bite back or overreact when it happens. Toddlers like the reaction. You have to teach your child that it is unacceptable behavior. You could give them these steps:
Some steps to take when your child bites include:

Immediately look him in the eye and give him a loud and firm 'NO.' You may also move him to another area for a time out. Let him know that it is never all right to bite another person because it hurts.
Supervise your child closely when he is with other children, so that you can distract him or interrupt any behavior that may lead to biting.
It is important to not overreact and never bite your child back. Biting him back or using physical punishment will just reinforce that it is okay to hurt others.
Give him lots of praise when he controls himself and doesn't bite.
Biting back will only fuel his anger and cause aggression. Ignore all these dumb people that recommend to bite back. They obviously aren't educated on child development.
I studied this in school:
Children's hands are tools for exploring, an extension of the child's natural curiosity. Biting them back sends a powerful negative message. Sensitive parents that were interviewed all agree that the hands should be off-limits for physical punishment. Research supports this idea. Psychologists studied a group of sixteen fourteen-month-olds playing with their mothers. When one group of toddlers tried to bite another child. They received a bite on the hand; the other group of toddlers did not receive this form of physical punishment. In follow-up studies of these children seven months later, the punished babies were found to be less skilled at exploring their environment. Better to separate the child from the object or supervise his exploration and leave little hands unhurt. I retrieved this off of the child abuse site: Child abuse is physical -- shaking, hitting, beating, burning, or biting a child.

2006-09-27 10:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

First submit I agree that your dogs needs (plenty through breed) of excercise, practise and socialization. preserving him far off from anybody or each dogs will make it worse. danger is you're also tensing up now once you spot different dogs and your dogs reacts to that. i'd paintings flat out on practise at the moment, go away a leash on the dogs contained in the abode for corrections at the same time as he's hard, by no skill go away him unattended with any youthful toddlers (no dogs somewhat must be left unattended) and locate a coach that can help you you with socialization for one or 2 instructions...Im prepared to wager your dogs reacts in yet in a unique way with a coach then with you as they could have a calmer reaction and wont annoying up. Its something that would nicely be nipped contained in the butt now yet its going to get extra sturdy because the dogs receives older, larger and a lot less socialized.

2016-11-24 23:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Babies start putting everything in their mouths when they are growing teeth..but then again ur nephew is 3 so i don't think is teeth...but it could be hurting...or something could be bothering him tha tmakes him bite

2006-09-27 10:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 0 0

BITE BACK and don't be nice about it either, make that booger cry, make it hurt so he realizes he's hurting others

if you (or his parents) won't muster up the guts to bite the kid back, eventually the dog will do it for you, and I think you'd prefer that it was you instead of a dog with those sharp little teeth of theirs!

2006-09-27 10:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 1 3

Biting causes pain - to the biter. Once they realise that, they stop.

2006-09-27 10:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Spank, bite back, even use a wire hanger on the ankles and shoulders if you must. That little spoiled brat is not going through a phaze, and this is CERTAINLY not normal toddler behavior. Tell your sister that if her son will not be disciplined, you will do it for her. It's for his own good.

2006-09-27 10:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 3

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