It's like I learn something new about my man everyday. Today, he made the comment about how it's wrong for a woman to send her husband to jail. He said he has a coworker, whose wife called the police on him because he hit her, & he had to stay in jail for the weekend. My bf seems to feel that how can you say you love someone,& be married to them,& then do something like that which could go on their record? I told him that the husband had no reason to put his hands on his wife, unless she attacked him first&it was self defense. Apparently, the two of them got into an argument,& she ended up yelling&cursing him....that's why the husband hit her. My bf feels this was justified, because people can only take so much yelling&cursing! WHAT? So, I asked him if he were an abuser,& he had the nerve to say he is not an abuser, but a "corrector." I asked what the wife should have done,&he said, just kept quiet to allow cool down time. He was totally serious. Should I hear alarm bells?
2006-09-27 09:58:53 · 16 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Marriage is a partnership. The husband has no business correcting his wife. (or the other way around either) You raise your children, not each other.
2006-09-27 10:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, oh yeah- you should be hearing an alarm when he talks about "corrector"....you know- to argue is one thing, but when you hit a woman you've crossed the line and taken it to the next level.That's called domestic assault & you can go to jail(see it all the time on Cops)...If an argument gets too hot then it's time for the man to walk away and allow some cooling off time..You might want to think about your future with this man of he feels like this.It's a big issue especially if your're thinking marriage....bye bye & good luck
2006-09-27 17:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful. I would definately being hearing alarm bells going off right now, if it were me. I think that the fact that he's okay with the other guy beating his wife would raise some serious issues on whether or not he would do it himself in the future "There's only so much yelling & cursing people can take" as he put it himself.
2006-09-27 17:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Alessa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, more like fire alarm bells!!! Run, get out, don't get serious with him. Any man who thinks he has to "correct" his wife is a potential abuser. Nobody has any right to hit any other person no matter what, and good for that other woman who called the police. Good for you, too, for recognizing the your bf's reaction was not appropriate. It indicates serious problems later.
2006-09-27 17:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by orphanannie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes alarm bells are ringing clearly in my ear. Hes a corrector!?! What the hell is that. run away fast hun, unless you want to get to the point where you are afraid to voice your opinion, which is a stage no woman should ever be at.
2006-09-27 17:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your asking his question because you already do hear alarm bells. Anyone that condones domestic violence would probably under certain stressful circumstances be more likely to engage in it then someone who does not condone such behaviour. If he gives the slightest indication that he would act on these beliefs you should leave and go far away asap.
2006-09-27 17:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, if he thinks that kind of behavior is OK then what's to say he wouldn't do it himself? "abuser" vs "corrector" . . . what's the difference . . none, he's just using a different word to convey the same thing. it's never "correct" to use violence to get your partner "in line." yes, sometimes people get hot-headed and fly off the handle but that is no excuse for abuse.
get out now before you end up in a bad situation!
2006-09-27 17:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RING....RING.... Girl, he was letting you know how he felt. Now if you want to deal with this or not is on you. But do know that relationships do have allot yelling and cursing. Do you want to get hit? Ask your bf this.. If she should love him enough to not call the cops, shouldn't he love her enough not to hit her?
2006-09-27 17:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by denavirgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, no. My boyfriend has pushed me around before but I can honestly say that I was asking for it. I would get in his face and yell and scream and dare him to hit me, so ya, but anyhow, this man has never put his hands on you before so why would he start doing it now.
2006-09-27 17:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah definitely he obviously condones physical abuse and has even admitted to being one i say u run as far away from him as possible. b'coz as far as i'm cooncerned hitting a woman is an absolute no-no. there are good men out there who know how to treat a woman well, u're better off without this guy!!!.
2006-09-27 17:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋