how long should one wait to move in with your boyfriend/girlfriend?

Question

We been bf/gf for 7mths, both 30yrs old, not kids, never been married, good jobs/credit, and responsible.

Answer 1

til you're married

Answer 2

IMO it isn't a good idea to move in before getting married... i did that once and i ended up feeling stuck in the relationship and things ended very badly. that's just my personal experince though. with you two both being older than we were at the time and you've both done the living on your own thing before, it will probably be better than my experince. i still don't think it's a good idea to 'play house' with somebody unless you're actually married and want to have a family together (for me), again, just my opinion from a divorced single mother that is 24 years old

Answer 3

My boyfriend and I have been living together since day one, I don't suggest that but we have made it through two years so far. I think that you should do like a trial run, bc it is really different living with someone then being around them alot. Try staying over there for a few days and then if you like it go for it. But beware, you will discover some habits that may seem atrocious.

Answer 4

I would wait, even though you two are both grown and have your own thing, I would wait for marriage....and 7 months toether isnt that long to make a huge step into living together, you should get married and thats shows a strong commitment. God bless!

Answer 5

depends on what you want out of the relationship. Statistically speaking you're more likely to divorce if you cohabitate first, so if marriage is your ultimate goal, live apart until you're ready to commit for life. If you're just tired of coming home to an empty house and want some close companionship you may be ready now, but you're opening yourself up for hurt later if you're not ready to make it last. With you both 30 you're comfortable with your own routines, (polite for "set in your ways") but you're also more mature, and maybe more able to compromise than younger people who tend to be the bulk of those statistics.

Answer 6

i moved in with my boyfriend just three months after hehe, it's now been over two years, so yeah i think you can move in together, because then you'll really know if you are meant to be if you can live together. It's better than being together for like two years then moving in together and finding out that doesnt work cause that'd be a waste of time

Answer 7

Whenever you feel you are ready. Dont push it if it doesnt feel right and dont resist it if it does.

but on a side note: statistics have shown that marriages have a better chance of surviving if the couple doesnt live together before marriage. This is widely believed to be due to the priorities of the couple when they dont live together. If you focus on getting to know a person and not getting to know their daily routines, you will enjoy them more.

Answer 8

Wait until you both know you both want to, then wait a little bit more to make sure you still want to.

Could be anywhere from a month to several years. All depends on the two of you.

Answer 9

If you want to end up with him, don't move in with him. If he's a descent guy, he'll want to commit to you and then you can move in together. Of course he'd rather not commit yet, and have the living arrangements w/o the ring, but women have a lot more control over these situations than they give themselves credit for.
Don't sell yourself short. If he wants you, he has to get you.

Answer 10

Go for it now but talk about where you both want to be in a year. Moving in is a big step but it's a casual step. Don't move in with him to play house. Move in together because this is the beginning of forever together.

Answer 11

Sounds like your ready. My fiance and I aren't moving together until after we're married but she comes and stays for a couple days at a time to kinda get used to it.