Too Big for a Binky?
If your child still uses a binky at 4, it can be tough to break his dependence on it. Start by setting a deadline for getting rid of it.
Q: I'm embarrassed to admit it, but my 4-year-old still uses a pacifier when she's tired. How can I help her break this habit?
A: Getting rid of an object that a child uses to comfort herself is not easy. "Children who are still using pacifiers by the time they're preschoolers tend to be fairly dependent on them," says Alvin N. Eden, M.D., chairman of the department of pediatrics at Wyckoff Heights Medical Center in Brooklyn, New York, and the author of Positive Parenting.
The first step you'll need to take in order to break the pacifier habit is to decide how important it is to end your child's reliance right away. "If the pacifier isn't interfering with your child's social life"-causing her to be teased, for instance-"and it doesn't particularly bother you, you needn't get rid of it," observes Dr. Eden. "Your child will eventually give it up on her own."
However, if the pacifier is causing social problems for your child or you feel strongly that she needs to put an end to behavior that you find babyish, doing so is not likely to cause any long-term trauma, according to Dr. Eden. The important thing is not to waver on your decision or to prolong the process. Instead, set a deadline. You might tell your child, "Now that you're such a big girl, you don't need to use a pacifier anymore. Mom and Dad talked to the doctor, and we all agree that it's time for you to give it up. So on Saturday we're going to throw all your pacifiers away."
Once you have set a deadline, be sure to keep your word and actually throw away the pacifiers. If you don't, you may find yourself tempted to pull them back out when your child starts begging for one. "Instead, you should focus on reinforcing the idea that she's a big girl and doesn't need a pacifier anymore," says Dr. Eden. "She may be miserable for a little while, but within a few days she's sure to find a new way to soothe herself." To help, you might take your child to the store and allow her to pick out a new toy that she can snuggle with at bedtime. This is a nice way to let your child know that you're proud of her efforts.
2006-09-27 09:58:23
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answered by Anonymous
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I wouldn't say YES or NO. But I think it would be time to start trying to wean it away slowly. Start to set bounderies, only at nap time and bed, working towards not at all(which may take a long time). Try not to give it when your 2yr. old is upset or crying, because as you are trying to stop the need for it, they think that if they cry or throw a fit that you're going to give it to calm them down, this will become a habit. There is going to prob. be alot of crying for "binky" but stick with the bounderies you set on when to have the binky and when not to, it'll be hard. But better in the end.
The sooner, the better. Because it will cause dental problems such as tooth decay or issues with how the teeth are going to form and grow in. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-27 10:31:38
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answered by JB 2
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Yes!!!! A 2 years old is too old to have a binky. I have a niece who is 2 years old and she was out of it around 1 years old. It takes time for a child to know that you are getting too old to have a binky. Get that binky and hide it from them so they will not ask for it. Also do not buy them anymore. They should be able to know not to have binkys anymore and start learn how to be a bigger kid...
2006-09-27 14:17:58
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answered by babydoll_nicole20022002 1
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it truly is compared to potty practise. She would not get to examine at the same time as she is able to get rid of it. A pacifier must be lengthy previous through 1 million or some months after. Seeing 2 year previous with a binky is only Rediculas. quickly you'll supply in and it iwll be a three year previous, then a 4 year previous, then a 5 year previous. only get rid of it. placed the toddler in yoor room for a pair nights.
2016-11-24 23:02:13
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes. It'll have an impact on tooth development and placement.
Start to wean off by only giving it at nap times. I got all my kids off theirs by doing this for a couple of months and telling them that Santa would bring presents but take the binky away.
When they asked for it after Christmas I told them the presents would have to go back. Never got any problems with it past the new year.
2006-09-27 10:05:24
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answered by Gonrecht 3
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No. It is not uncommon for 3 and 4 year olds to use pacifiers. A couple months ago I saw this boy that was like 5 with one, and I'd say that's getting a little big. If your concerned about tooth development they make special orthodontic pacifiers. If you use those you probably could wait until 5 like that one lady that answered. It's really not a big deal.
2006-09-27 17:55:26
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answered by Shell 2
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Of course not. I would try to get her to sleep with it only when she is approaching her school years. I'm also assuming a Binky is a blanket.
2006-09-27 10:02:40
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answered by And For A Moment I Am Happy 6
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yes. if your child is attatched to it, yet not too attatched to it, you should go buy an inexpensive, simple teddy bear or stuffed animal to be dependant on instead, because pacifiers can cause serious teeth issues which can cost a lot of money later. when they start teething is when you should take the binky away.
2006-09-27 10:05:35
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answered by Laura 2
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We took it away from our son when he turned 2. We didn't like that he was starting to talk with his binky in. Its hard to do, but you gotta do it sometime.
Good luck.
2006-09-27 09:56:12
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answered by amber 3
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It needs to go! My nine year old daughter has major dental issues because of it. I didn't take it away soon enough and now she is having a dental appliance put in October 3 to prepare for braces! Her top permanent teeth are arched and she can't close her teeth together. It needs to go bye-bye when the trash man comes! Good luck!
2006-09-27 10:09:03
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answered by Val 1
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