How do men feel about women objectifying themselves to get men's attention in real life. I get so confused. I never cared if women dressed sexy until I got a boyfriend, who enjoys noticing. And it pisses me off, because I believe that if you love somebody, then why do you need keep looking around. I mean if you go to McDonald's and finally decide what to eat, do stare at the menue the whole time your eating it? No, you forget and are happy with what you got. And I know he's happy with what he has, but its just this whole image thing. It seems to have so much power with men, does it not? What is sexy? Let's face it, the male instinct that they always use when we get upset, is a shallow one. And one that does disrespect the woman that they are with, even if they do not act on it.And I feel like I just need to know that their bodies don't intreague him anymore, that is it, right there.I mean, I love him, and other men don't intreague me anymore, in a physical or any other way.I feel down.
2006-09-27 09:23:52 · 10 answers · asked by Green Tea Happy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
men always say it is ok because it is there instince, we'll then I would say it is the female instinct to have competition and jellousy
2006-09-27 09:26:50 · update #1
and our instinct is merely a response to theirs
2006-09-27 09:27:28 · update #2
men like to look they cant help it its a male thing. mine looks but i know hes not going anywhere and this is what i do when he looks i look and tell him what i like about the female then he questions me and then it gets to the point he dont look that much anymore.
2006-09-27 09:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a male, you are a female. Those two types of people (on the whole, by and large) are not the same.
It isn't like picking a food to eat for this meal, so you stop looking at the menu. If you don't look at other men, that means you're not identical to him. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with him.
As long as he doesn't make a big deal about it (panting and drooling are definitely too much), then it's just looking.
Looking doesn't mean he's looking for someone to ditch you for, it's just looking.
Most men do this. Some women do this, too, but it's more common for men.
If you keep butting heads, you will drive him away.
Try to develop a sense of humor about it, the way women laugh at men who'd rather get lost than ask directions. It's just a thing.
But if you nag and harp and throw hissy fits, you will just be this winy bitchy thing, and why would he want to spend time with such a creature.
2006-09-27 14:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and I feel for you. Sometimes it can be difficult because guys like to look at other girls.
The simple answer would be it is a biological thing and the fact is Males on this earth are here to breed and therefore they tend to be very visual and look at the girls that are presenting themselves in a Sexy way.
The real answer is it is just youth. The younger the guy the more he is to look around when you are with him. It doesn't mean he is interested in leaving you... it is more that he doesn't have enough experience in life to understand that when he is looking around that it bothers you.
Even if he makes comments about how hot another girl is it doesn't mean that he wants to leave you. Sometimes guys don't really know how to be in a relationship so they will act more excited about how sexy other girls are than what they really feel.
The key is NOT to act mad or upset when it happens the Key is ignor it and be confident when it happens. Confident does not mean being mean it is better to be happy and laugh a lot.
Remember, what those other girls want is for you to get mad or treat him bad because that makes them seem nicer and a better catch.
A good thing to remember when you see these girls acting all sexy and/or making moves on your boyfriends is to think that if they did get him then they would be in the same situatuion you are in and they would have to worry about other girls trying to look sex in front of her.
Don't forget to still try to look extra sexy at times. Too many girls relax too much when they get a guy. The Key is to do MORE sexy things at home or in private places because that will teach him to want to spend more time alone with just YOU !!
I know it doesn't seem sexy to some girls but here are some things guys really love their girl friends to do that don't involve sex.
Very softly tell him in his ear that you are not wearing any panties when you are out somewhere. I know, sounds stupid but I GUARANTEE that for the rest of the night out he will be thinking and letting his mind visualize that there are no panties on under your clothes. He will be thinking about that so much he will not care so much about the other women.
Remember you are doing it for him. It turns him on.
Another thing is to say, "Guess what color my thong is tonight". And when he guesses either say, "Maybe I'll show you later" or "Well, that is a nice color if I was wear anything at all tonight" and then wink.
Girls will not tell you these things. Girls tell you what they think they sould say or what they want you to do so they can do the opposite and steal your man.
No man is going to ever leave a woman that plays fun little sexual mind games with him.
GOOD LUCK !!
2006-09-27 09:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by CTM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men, will always look at other women... You as a woman cannot deny when you see a good looking man.. If you were walking down the street, and saw a man that looks like the celebrity you find sexy, you know you're going to look.. It's natural.. What you can do is, tell him you understand he's gonna look, just try not to make it obvious like twist his whole back when a chic passes by... One time my bf broke neck for a woman, and I told him, he can look just don't make it so obvious.. He's caught me lookin' a couple of times, but he doesn't say anything... I see him every now and then look at a woman, but he makes sure he looks and that's it.. You shouldn't let that bother you.. he obviously finds you sexy, and attractive and cares for you.. He's with you right?
2006-09-27 09:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt mean when he looks around, he's not happy.. It is a male instinct.. eyes are made to browse around .. Not that he sees a woman and wants to bring her home or break up with u.. its just natural..
The mc donalds example is the perfect example..
i mean u may like one meal but its not wrong to look at other meals..Just looking ... (some even choose to try something else-which is pathetic)..
so, dont argue.. make the meal more exciting than others..if u know what i mean so he wont even wanna look at other meals..
get what i mean?Grab him by the balls..grab his attention with you..the sexy u that he likes so much..
goodluck
2006-09-27 09:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by kim_stolz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him look... As long as he does not go off and try to touch it is all ok.. Nothing is wrong with looking. Don't try to stop him from doing this cause if you do you will lose him. Just always know that even if he does look it is you he will always go to for love.
2006-09-27 09:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Courtney, check this out; guys will ALWAYS continue to look at women...ALWAYS. It doesn't matter if they are married, they still look, and that never goes away. And yes, they WILL find other women sexy.
Get used to it.
2006-09-27 09:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said, "what are we suposed to do, stare at the menue the whole time?" So let him look, it's harmless as long as he knows he's with you.
2006-09-27 09:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a loser.....unless you're a fatty.
2006-09-27 09:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the best answer
2016-01-26 05:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by tishyyy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋