Depression or what? Im so tired of this thats why asking on yahoo?

Question

I get so many mood swings. I even wish i was died (sometimes genuinly). Parents dont have a clue what depression is, nor do they wanna talk about it. I dont have friends, tho im still trying, but ive moved so much (place to place) that any friends i did have are gone. New are impossible to make. Gf? ha, i given up on girls , only have met sluts in my life who just give up at the first sign of a small relationship problem or a better looking idiot walks in her life.

I am sick of life. I do wanna make it work. parents STILL constrict me even tho im 21!! Even writing this question down is depressing. I dont know who i am anymore. I swear i dont . i am not seeking attention on here, i just dont know what to do about things, everything is getting so hard to do. easy to say go to the doctor, but whats the point when your parents surround your life with pure negativity!???

I am evcen considering drinking vodka (to an extent where im tipsy but not drunk) so i dont feel that pain.

Answer 1

Yes Sel, sounds like you are depressed, don't know a thing about your parents but sounds like you're not getting much help from them. I'm not a doctor but do know alcohol is not the answer, just a temporary fix but you will feel worse after. You've already started to do the right thing by asking for help, don't give up ok. Please talk to another adult or family member . Maybe if you do seek counseling your parents will realize how serious you are. Please hang in there Sel.

Answer 2

Parents almost never understand, if your in such a deep depression, and you feel like no one gets it your going to have to start taking care of it yourself. For the friends thing all you have to do is find people who aren't totaly a$$holes or are just like you to an extent. With the Girlfriend thing, if your only getting sluts then that makes me think that the first thing you look at in a girl is her looks, try looking at the second and I'm sure you'll find someone you like who isn't a slut.
If your 21 and your parents give you so much negativity then just try avioding them, or at least tell them your sick of their negativity. If this doesn't work you can always ignore them?
Don't drink vodka or do anything to try and mask the mental pain. I've gone through the same **** and I still am, but if you mask the mental pain one night its just going to keep getting heaveier and heaveir until you end up killing yourself, or just plainly going nuts. I can't say its the best thing to do, just try and deal with your probablems as they come, or find someone (like a close friend or a girlfriend or a family member) and just tell them all the **** thats happening, it might help it might not but thats all I can think of right now... so yeah hope I helped sorry if I didn't..

Answer 3

Hey Sel !!!

I'm really sorry to hear that things are hitting so hard right now. I think if we are all honest...we can say that we have periods in our life, sometimes that seem never ending that really bring us to our knees....or, worse! By the way? Drinking vodka while you are already feeling down is NOT a good idea. It's a depressant, and numbing things that way doesn't make them go away, and doesn't always make things better either!
The cold hard fact is this:
When you are down, upset, defeated, frustrated, fed up - NOTHING ...and I mean NOTHING, no facet of your life is going to go right...or, feel right! It's just that simple.
Whether it's work, a relationship, a friendship, a family tie...any of it...it's all going to suck and NOT because it's all worthless...but, because OUR OUTLOOK IS NEGATIVE...and, as the cycle of negativity rolls on, every facet is affected.
You're letting it take control of you.
You need to take control of IT !!!!
You're 21. If life with the parents is a primary factor in the high stress and problems in your life. ACT ON THAT! Find a room to rent that's affordable and get out there on your own. You are feeling constricted and restricted because you are allowing yourself to be a prisoner of circumstance. So, change it!
You don't have to be working a hot career with a six figure income, or driving the latest hot car, or living in the finest of places...but, you DO and SHOULD consider finding an affordable place to live on your own. Just something that gives you your own free reign.
A suggestion would be to rent somewhere close to a college environment. The rents are usually affordable, and there are plenty of friends to be made within your age group. You are old enough to establish yourself somewhere and plant some roots for yourself (thankfully)...and, it's not your fault you don't have these bonds- you keep moving, so how can you get rooted or attached to anything or anyone? Take a step for yourself by yourself. That alone is very liberating and a great feeling!
I'm not suggesting you cut off all ties with your parents either. I mean, parents that surround your life with pure negativity are best handled at your own pace and your own schedule. You will only acheive the ability to control the exposure to that by stepping out on your own.
Once you address that...you'd be suprised how that weight being lifted can really make you relax a lot more. Noone can bond with someone who is so keyed up, they are almost unapproachable. People can sense the negative vibe...they can see and feel the anger.
Free yourself from the largest stessor, and you will open yourself up to alot more opportunity in every other way.
Yes, women can suck! (I should know...I am one) but, so can guys...and it's not easy to start any kind of relationship with a woman who is too busy playing to really be there with and for you. SO, maybe meeting women where you know they aren't out to play...a library, a church, a coffee/internet shop...anything like that. Remember, negativity attracts the same...positive outlooks will only bring positive results.
It's going to be hard to pull out of the slump at first. It will probably require the move, and a total change in routine...but, after a week or two you will be AMAZED at how much better you feel...and the world seems. All of the sudden, life seems better.
You might also want to consider some outlets...like, even being on here and reaching out to help other people who are in your same situation. Or, some other kind of outlet...whether it's writing, reading, some technical stuff, something outdoors, whatever it is that you need to do for some positive energy and just laid back living!
I honestly believe that there are only a small percentage of people who are clinically depressed and in need of some sort of medication to help them. I DONT think that you are one of them. I think it's your situation and the feeling of being restricted and trapped and just on a downward spiral.
I really do believe that if you give yourself these small goals to acheive toward independance that you will see a huge difference. I know it's not much to offer...but, we could all use a person to talk with or vent to now and then. SO, my email is always open to you if you need an ear.

Hang in there, Sel. I promise it will get better!!!

*Hugs*

Answer 4

Nah, stay away from the vodka- drinking will only make things worse.

Hang in there, and try to distance yourself from your parents a little if it's possible. I strongly recommend talking to a good therapist. I know it sounds wussy, but it can really make a lot of difference to have someone who listens to you and to give you a good neutral opinion of what would be best.

I know it's tough, I've been there too. Sometimes life sucks but you gotta keep going, you never know what might be around the next corner.

As far as the mood swings, if they get too wild, try and get a dr. to prescribe you some anti-depressants- any of the SSRI's are good (except for Paxil, it's a ***** to ever get off of)

Answer 5

i felt like that for a long time, and the only way out is to make changes; but you have to make them yourself because they're not just going to happen. Do something different about your everyday life- look for jobor a better job if you allready have one; and eventually there u will meet new people, or start going to college, or how about going to the gym?

if your parents are being really negative; the best thing for you is to find something to do away from them because negativity is contagious and brings your spirit down. maybe when you start doing something more interesting with your life; you will regain those positive feelings and then you can share them with your parents and lighten them up too.

Don't try too hard to have friends or to be in relationships. sometimes when you give up searching is when they find you. you just focus on finding something that you really enjoy.

Answer 6

Hey, I'm sick of life! Welcome to the club!

I really feel for you. In fact, I'm kind of in a similar situation. Just now I was crying about how my parents won't let me live my own life. Since college applications are coming at me, they're telling me if I do get accepted into those nice private colleges, they won't let me go! It's horrible. I just want to curl up and die sometimes. But, then I just think about how terrifying suicide would be. (Someone who was close to my family actually committed suicide recently, so I'm really upset about that too.)

But there's more...

I'm seventeen. And I've never had a boyfriend before because all the guys in my school are pigs. It basically sucks.

Don't worry about your situation. Because more people are in the same boat as you than you think. Redirect your unhappiness onto something better, I guess. Like, do something you really want to do.

Don't booze either. It's not healthy.

Much luck!

Answer 7

You sound bored. try socializing and see if it helps you to make friends. Also at 21 if you are in a position to make your own money try seeking independence from your parents. What about just hanging out with girls that may be understanding and see how that works instead of starting a relationship if they have let you down in the past?

Answer 8

.yeh u r depressed well thats what i think. you dont need just a regular docter, you need a phciatrist, mine helped me A LOT!. i know its hard right now but things will get better, they did for me, you'll find your girl someday. try to break away from your parents if they are cousing you this much pain.
good luck hun.

Answer 9

First call a suicide hot line! Next GO to a doctor! No excuses. If you sit & make excuses
A. nothing will change or
B. deep down inside you don't want it to change.

The only thing we CAN change is ourselves.

Answer 10

yes you are depressed, and yes you need to go to the doctor. Your parents may not understand depression, but doctors do. Just think, you could be happy again, and wouldn't have to rely on booze to take the pain away. Please go to the doctor!