I still love him, I don't know why it may b bcoz we r still living in the same buliding but differ unit. I live upstair and he lives downstair. everytime i walk bk from school, i cant avoid my eyes to look at his window before i enter to my apartment. Today, i walked to the building, i saw him was smoking outside in front of the entrance, i kept looking at him that's the best i can do, and i know he was looking at me too. but i walk to the other entrance and he was still looking at me. I don't understand why he 's doing this to me why he seems like he still care about me, but he doesnt want to b bk with me?Before he told me that coz we come from differ country so, it's hard for us to keep on relationship. But last nite, he told me he just like to b alone n he told me that he's still have feeling for me,but we can't b together. I don't think i can forget unless i move to the other place.I know in the past, i was the one who alway started the fight wiz him even a small things.
2006-09-27 09:11:57 · 12 answers · asked by LC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I realised how much he is worth for me untill I lose him. I don’t know what to do. When I try to forget him, it even makes me miss him more and more. Last night I was waiting for him to come bk home, I wanted to show my last emotion to him, so I gave him a card that I made it myself,writing about I I feel to him untill now,and I told him that I really want to come bk with him again!. I know that now I don’t have any pride at all, if u were me, what will u do if u cant forget him! 2days agos, he was driving around our aparment, I open my window coz I remember the sounds of his car but I didn’t expect to be his car though. I always do that, but it was always some one else’s car. But at that night it was his car, I open my window little bit, and I saw him stops his car and looking at my window, and he drive away after that. I don’t know what he wants?if u are a guy, can u tell me that does he still have some feeling or like me like before?
2006-09-27 09:12:35 · update #1
even though he still like me, he told me that he cant’ come bk with me anymore, he jus want to b alone and enjoy his single life.I’m very sad! I been crying almost eveyday since we broke up. I still don’t believe that this is the truth that we broke up! Yea, in the past I started the fight, I always didn’t let him go anywhere without me and I didn’t let him come bk home late. And everytime, I fight wiz him, I always said to break up. I didn’t mean to say it unless when I was so mad. But now he’s the one who want to break up with me. I just want to let him know that’s for these 3weeks, I am changed. I shouldn’t stick with him too much like before. I still want him bk, I don’t think I can b happy without him, I know that.
2006-09-27 09:12:58 · update #2
You're grieving, and that's natural. Of course seeing him all the time makes it harder -- he may not mean to, but seeing him just throws it all in your face, and every time you start to forget, you get reminded. That's so hard! Everyone grieves differently -- some people are back to normal immediately, some take months, and some think they're ok at first but then snap later. Do what you need to do to grieve.
If you're in school, there's probably a counselor you can talk to. If your grief is getting in the way of your ability to function, make an appointment to talk to him or her.
Hopefully there was more in your life than just him. If so, embrace it. Your friends, your family, your studies, your activities -- everything that matters to you is still there, and the people who care about you will support you.
If he doesn't want to be with you, though, then you have to accept that. You wouldn't want to date someone you didn't want to be with, right? It would just make it harder on both of you. Give him time, and take time.
Good luck.
2006-09-27 09:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by LCG 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right now it feels as though you can't live without him, but eventually you'll realize you can.
Distract yourself. Stop looking for him or his car.
I hope you've learned not to be too clingy and controlling with guys -- it just drives them away.
You've learned a lesson you can use with the next guy, if you're smart.
All the reasons he gives you are irrelevant. If you keep pushing and keep asking for explanations, he'll keep saying whatever he thinks will get you to give up. If you keep it up, you'll force him to say something really hurtful to get you to stop.
Right now, he probably feels like you're stalking him, which gives people the whillies. You need to stop.
Do other things, hang out with friends, get your mind off of him.
A year from now you'll look back and realize how wrong you were about all this.
2006-09-27 17:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK i had a same kind of situation, But you need to be strong very very strong, Now remember more you are crying and more you are telling him to come back to you he will get away from you. So my advise is to you back off a little bit. If he still love you he will come back and if he don't than it is good for you. You don't need somebody who don't care anymore about you. And you are not the only one who was creating a trouble, that's what you are thinking just because you are so down. So don't think negative. Think positive and love him but from distance. Don't cry, don't beg please. ILBJ4E@YAHOO.COM
2006-09-27 16:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Alisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You always started fights with him - even over small things, you demanded that he take you everywhere with him, you got mad at him when he came home late - now you're sorry and have changed? I DON"T THINK SO......you haven't changed at all, your ex bf knows that you are clingly, controlling, self-absorbed and don't really care about him as much as you do youself. He is better of without you...go make some other guy's life miserable..
2006-09-27 16:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move on. He sounds like an honest guy, but he's not for you and you're not for him. You'll get over it. People who've come and gone from our lives make us who we are. Maybe you're a better person having had known him and you'll be more experienced with the man of your future.. the one who'll love you b/c he wants to. Let him go and let yourself move on.
2006-09-27 16:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the guy is just not that into you. I know it's hard to accept, but you seriously need to move on and quit giving this guy attention. He must be eating this up! Find a hobby, move if you can, this needs to stop. You are letting him have power over you and its affecting your ability to move on. Quit worrying about what he thinks, quit listening for his car, find someone who will appreciate you for you.
2006-09-27 16:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by Angela N 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I it is meant to be it will be and if iz not meant to be it will not Breaks up are hard pecially whens you see dem alls thes times move on tries and keep busy wiz whatevers you can't and before you knews it you will be going outside wiz someone new and you can really rub its inside of his face Good Luck and keep your heads up
2006-09-27 16:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by denise e 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be appreciative that he's being honest with you by saying he wants to live his single life. Then you go live your single life! You won't die without him... it'll hurt for a while, but trust me, it will hurt a lot less than if he cheated on you, or started neglecting you. He's being a fair guy by saying he wants to live his single life. Appreciate that.
2006-09-27 16:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by slickpam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move one - keep busy, take up a new hobby or class, make new friends, voluteer to an organization.
you just have to accep that for whatever reason you cannot be together and move on.
take it a day at a time and it will get better day after day
2006-09-27 16:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by island3girl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell over yourself! Geez, what a self absorbed child.
2006-09-27 16:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋