i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, at the beginning of the relationship we had a lot of problems with trust and cheating but now things are a lot better but still not how they should be..........i want to be wtih someone else now, this amasing guy that i can't stop thinking about, and he wants to be with me too. i havent cheated on my boyfriend EVER but i feel like i might with this other guy. my problem is that i do love my boyfriend so i cant get myself to break up with him, especially since we arent really fighting right now. how should i do it and how can i bring myself to do it?? this is an adult relationship that needs adult answers.
2006-09-27 09:07:12 · 24 answers · asked by jnnybartos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just sit him down, and end your relationship. better to be honest now, than the cheating woman later. . . Good Luck
2006-09-27 09:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you could cheat on your current boyfriend than it is best to end the relationship. He would be more hurt by you being unfaithful than if you left him in the right way. Be strong and stand firm when you talk to him and just let him know that you want to take a different direction in your life and you are sorry but it best to go your separate ways where you have feelings for someone else. Sure he will be upset and it will hurt but if you dont leave then you are depriving yourself of a possible great relationship with the new guy and you will always regret it if you dont get together with him. You would resent your boyfriend for it too. Good Luck.
2006-09-27 16:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you to have thoughts of another guy you dont love your boyfriend. You are used to being with him and thats about it. He is a habit in other words. From the begining when you two had problems you both should of gone your seperate ways. Jealousy is a sign of lack of self worth. A relationship should be give and take and togetherness . It shouldnt be about fighting or having problems. A person when in love should enjoy the relationship not have to worry if you are happy at the moment and then fighting later on. You say you havent cheated on your boyfriend but in reality you have . Mentally. Just tell him that you want to have less stress in your life and that you are having enough problems worring about your life without worring about having a relationship to worry about too. Tell him you need a vacation and want to be alone for awhile. But be prepared for the consequences in case it doesnt work out with the other one because your boyfriend I doubt will take you back. When you break up with him tho be nice and dont tell him its because you like some one else. Just that you need your space.
2006-09-27 16:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adult answers, you need to be honest. Maybe don't break up with your boyfirend but take a break. If you are not completely happy with him, he's got to sense it in some way. Be careful though, you've obviously been through alot with your boyfriend of 2 years. It would be a shame to throw that all away for someone you have feelings for, because if you still love him after 2 years, then there is something there....and you don't want ot ruin that for something that will be fun and romantic for a few months... but once all that fun newness wears away... you're left with nothing
2006-09-27 16:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by slickpam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're not in love with your current boyfriend anymore. If you had problems in the past with trust and cheating issues with this guy, it is bound to turn up again. It also sounds like you've found a great guy who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated unlike your current boyfriend. Just because you were with someone for 2 years doesn't mean you should stay with them because they are doing better now. You might love your boyfriend, but you don't love him the same or you wouldn't even be thinking about another guy. Good luck to you.
2006-09-27 16:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Angela N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one thing the first year in any relationship should be like floating on pink cloud!! if you have problems that early this is a good indicator to move on. Before moving on it is very important to put closure on your current relationship. Never go into a new relationship with old baggage. Just be honest with your current boyfriend and do not tell him you are breaking up with him because you found someone new. Just say you need to go find yourself and you need some space. that always works..
good luck..
2006-09-27 16:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by sissybombay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are for sure that this is what you want, then you have to do it. Even though you don't wont to break his heart, what you want in life is more important. don't be completely honest. At this point a little lie wont hurt. Never let him know its someone else. Imagine how you would feel. Come up with some reason that you feel y'all are not meant to be together forever. Tell him in a nice way that he is not marriage material or(soul mate) why waste each other time. Just be friends
2006-09-27 16:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by noitall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I think that the fact that you are thinking about another man tells you that the realtionship that you are in is not working for you. You may love your boyfriend, but there is a common saying in spanish "La costumbre is mas fuerte que el amor" This means that "what youare accustomed to is stronger than love" What I am trying to say is that you are used to being with your boyfriend and is probably the reason why it is hard for you to break up with him. Not really because you love him so much that its hard to not be without him.
On how to do break up with him....the best way really is to be honest with him. Just plan it. Tell him I have to tell you something tonight, lets meet up or something like that so that you know that you have to tell him. Go somewhere where you feel comfortable and are able to speak freely.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-27 16:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by anony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself if you are going to regret it. Is this other guy really worth throwing away a relationship you have been giving your attention to for years.
It might just be that you're tired of your relationship and you want to add something different. Maybe you should try something different with you current bf before you move on because you could just be in a relationship rut right now instead of moving along to another guy. try adding some spice into your life with your current bf.
2006-09-27 16:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by BabyGirl7044 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had so many problems with him in the beginning why did you stay with him? The first few months should atleast show you what it would be later on down the road......I've been with my bf for a year and a half and I can't imagine myself being with a different guy...I love him soooo much! If you can't see yourself being with him forever then it's just not meant to be. Tell him the truth....that's all you can do is be honest
2006-09-27 16:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by Amber R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOunds to me like you think the grass may be greener with the other man. If you really wanna break up with him tell him honestly that you dont have the same feelings for him and that it is best you go your seperate ways. do not cheat on him, or the man you cheated with will consider you a cheat and will worry about that if you start a relationship with him.
2006-09-27 16:10:17 · answer #11 · answered by Ollie J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋