I went for my first scan on monday, sadly there was no heartbeat, the ultrasound measured 8 weeks (I should have been 9 + 3) the Dr offered me 2 options, a D & C or to go home and wait for myself to miscarry naturally I chose to miscarry naturally, but im not sure what to expect I started with mild cramps about 4 hours ago, is this it? Has anyone been in a similar situation as me? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
2006-09-27 08:49:09 · 26 answers · asked by trudi w 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First i must say that I'm truly sorry to hear about your baby...the cramps usually start out mild they will increase over time with pain. u will start to bleed u may see some clots if u feel shaky , or feel like u are bleeding more than u think u can manage with call the doc/ let them know how many pads u are going through and describe what it looks like. I hope i was helpful... sorry to hear about the miscarry... i hope u heel well
2006-09-27 17:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by coopchic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happend to me i measured 8 weeks when i should have been 12 and there was no heart beat. I chose to miscarry as well and had cramps but a week went by and nothing happend so i went back to the DRs and ended up having to have a D & C preformed. After a few days if nothing happens go back b/c infection could set up. Sighns of inf is a fever, nausia, dizzyness, and fainting. If you do pass the baby you will start bleeding like a period maby a little heavier than normal, You may see a larger blood clot than normal that is the sac. DO NOT WEAR TAMPONS!!!!!! use a pad. You will have several clots while bleeding. If you have any concerns(very heavy bleeding, severe pain, tempature) Go to DRs. Good luck and sorry for your loss. I know what your going through iv been there 5 times. Stay strong. When its ment to be it will happen.
2006-09-27 09:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by kristen c 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have been in almost the exact same situation; the cramps you are feeling are probably the onset of the miscarriage. you also may experience pain in your back and kind of a general heaviness, like you need to use the bathroom. I am sorry that you are going through this, but if you have a choice, I'd just let nature take its course. My doctor explained that 9 times out of 10 a D&C is not necessary; usually the miscarriage occurs without any problems. Once the actual miscarriage is complete, you may bleed for a week or so afterwards and that is normal. However, if you begin running a high fever or having sharp, shooting pains, you should see a doctor. The cramping may get pretty bad, but I have heard the same happens after a D&C. Just watch for signs of infection afterwards, like the fever, and if you have any of those, it may indicate that the miscarriage is incomplete. Most of the time Mother Nature knows better than the medical community, though, so just trust your body and it will work out fine.
2006-09-27 08:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by taylor619 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. I've miscarried both ways....neither is fun. I personally preferred going with the D & C. Doing it naturally was painful. Cramping is going to happen. It's gonna hurt. Probably worse than menstrual cramps do. Mind did anyways. I also was so upset I cried through the whole thing. It may help if you have someone with you...maybe to play a game or talk with or watch a movie or something. Try to sleep if that's possible. Anything to take your mind off what is happening. If the cramps get bad, try some pain medicine. You will need some good thick pads. There will be a lot of blood. You will pass some tissue. Your doctor may or may not have told you to collect some or all of it for testing. I didn't have to, but I know some women that have. Good luck.
2006-09-27 08:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that..Well, when I was 16 I had a misscarriage The doctors couldn't find the heartbeat with mine either. I chose to do the same as you did, just miscarry natuarlly...Anyways I did get cramping and abdomonal pain then I started to bleed heavy..The discharge will have like blood clot looking things and then the sac will come out. You will feel it....Then it was like a normal period after that...I'm not sure if this is your first pregnancy, but i just want to incourage you and let you know that it will be upseting for awhile..And don't let yourself start blaming yourself thinking you did something wrong,cause that is what I did..also i have 2 children, and i am sure you will be able to have a child once you are able to get through this..
Good Luck
2006-09-27 09:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Babydoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though this is the beginning. I hope for you it goes quickly and with little pain. You can expect to get increasingly more difficult cramping, I even had cramping in my back and thighs. I am not sure if your spotting or having any of the like, that too will come. Please try and remain calm, easier said than done, I know. A heating pad placed on your back or abdomen is helpful. Be sure to monitor yourself for fever and clotting. There is a lot to look for, this may take hours or perhaps a day or two more. Do you have someone with you? I ask because I chose not to and wonder if that was best for me. Did your doctor tell you that you may need a D&C after all? Hopefully nature will take its course and you'll have an easy time of it. If you can engage in a book or something to try to take your mind off it. Again, I know but try. Best of luck to you. I feel for you and am sorry for your loss.
2006-09-27 09:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by malibuz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never miscarried before, and I'm not bragging. I'm saying this because I am not giving a first-hand account....
But, from what my little sister told me (she did miscarry), it's a lot like going through regular childbirth. You will have the cramps and the frequency of the cramps and pain level will increase. It's going to suck. Depending on the size of the baby (which shouldn't be any larger than a lima bean considering the gestation) you may feel discomfort when passing the baby through your vagina. You are going to have bleeding and the fetus will look like a large blood clot. You may menstrate for 2-6 weeks also after the miscarriage.
It's going to be uncomfortable either way you choose, but this is not an evasive method of terminating the fetus.
Good luck. I know it's going to suck, but you'll get through it. God only gives you what He knows you can handle.
2006-09-27 09:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by Summer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl I am SOO sorry!!!!!!!
Honestly, my advice is to miscarry naturally... D&C's are HORRIBLE...
at the rate of pregnancy that you are.. when you do miscarry.. it's going to be nothing more then bleeding like a period and a clotty tissue (you might even have had that when you had your period in the first place)
Nature has a way of taking care of us.. the cramping maybe a sign that it's starting.. I think if you don't have any results in the next two weeks then go for the d&c.. but until then.. I'd just wait and see...
Again I'm sorry.. I know words don't really make you feel better about things.. but I honestly feel miscarriages are a blessing in some way.. our body generally miscarrys when the baby wasn't perfect.. I think it would be harder to deal with a long lenghty pregnancy and delivery to find something is really wrong with your baby that you birthed and bonded with then losing your baby early on...
You're in my thoughts.. I'm sorry
2006-09-27 08:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by SassySista 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. The cramps will pick up as will the bleeding. You may have clots and before each clot releases you may find you have very strong cramping. Have a hot water bottle ready to put on your stomach, some Ibuprofen and large pads. I would also call on lots of support. I won't lie, it will be hard and like a really really heavy period for a few days. But you will get through as your body naturally does what it needs to do. Take care
2006-09-27 09:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by Love Birth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. I am 15 weeks pregnant on my 8th pregnancy with 1 living daughter. All my miscarriages were like your never any signs just no heartbeat on the ultrasound. I chose to have the d&c only to make sure that all the tissues past, if any is left it can cause infection (so I was told ) With my last pregnanbcy I lost at 20 weeks and was induced and I was able to hold her, she was due to be born yesterday. My suggestion is to have them check your progesterone as soon as you find out you are pregnant again, that was the cause of my miscarriages.
God bless you and I will keep you in my prayers.
2006-09-27 08:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋