my jack russle died and i feeling so much pain. how can i get over her?

Question

i loved taylor so much. i still do. she was one of a kind. im sad she died. i cry just thinking about her, looking at her photo, or looking at the spot she used to sleep in th elaundry room. i am scared to give my other 3 dogs attention. im scared to take my mind off her. what if i forget about the stuff she did?i remember going to gether when she was a puppy. that was 10 years ago. taylor was so excited and when she looked at us you could tell she loved us and wanted to be with us. im sad abou the way she died. i think she got into some poisen and ate the because she ate EVERYTHING she thought was edible. she has having seisures and wipering and not acting normal. then she went into a very deep sleep and nothing could wake her up. she died about an hour later, when we were going to take her to get puto sleep. she died right in front of me. i just cant get that image out of my head. she was gasping for breath. im scared i will never see her again. its killing me inside.

i cant concentrate in classes. she is always on y mind.my friends have tried to be comforting but they dont have dogs and they dont understand.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry you lost your beloved little Taylor. Please don't neglect your other dogs out of grief--in fact you should probably spend even more time being close with them than usual. Remember, they are missing Taylor too, just as you are, and they need you to comfort and reassure them. You and they are all "packmates," and you must all help each other get through this difficult time together.
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Answer 2

The loss of a pet is not just devastating, but I think it can also throw us off balance with our other pets. Maybe it is because the dynamics of the relationship have changed without the deceased, or possibly we worry about being too attached if something happens to them as well. I don’t know if your other dogs are grieving the loss as well, but maybe you could reconnect with them by taking them for a walk in a different park or a trip to the beach if you live by the water. A slight change in your routine might help you not focus on the pain.

I do think people need to grieve, and that time that process takes can vary no matter how much you loved the pet. Don’t feel pressured or feel bad if people tell you “it is just a dog” or that you should get over it- it is hard for some to understand the bond people can have with their pets if they never experienced it themselves. Sometimes I think we are afraid to let go of the pain because that feels like all we have left, and need to find a more positive was to remember and honor our lost friend. Try something like that if you feel it is right for you. This could be anything from building a memorial at your pets grave site, scrapbooking their pictures into a book or donating to money of supplies to a local animal shelter in the memory of your pet. Some shelters let you sponsor a needy animal or a cage and will list that it is in memory of your pet.

I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 3

I know what you're going through, I was the same way. It's very tough, and what you are feeling is very normal. I had to put down my beloved 4 year old golden retriever down last Feb. My friend gave me a book called, "Marley and Me: life and love of the world's worst dog" by John Grogan. This book helped me out through my grieving by his words.

Also, Taylor's death is NOT your fault. She knew you loved her more than anything and she was grateful to have you as a companion. I doubt she wouldn't have it any other way. Just by the tone of your words, you gave her your all and that's what really matters. Think about what you have done for her. Think about fun memories together. You gave her the greatest gift of all: you. You gave her a great life, probably filled with fun walks and lots of chew toys.

Taylor's spirit probably still lives in you and will always live in you. Go out and play with your other dogs, they're there for you too. Love them just as much as you loved Taylor. Trust me, you never forget Taylor no matter what. If it makes you feel better, write a memoir (sort of thing) of Taylor or make a scrapbook so you can always look back when you want to.

You will heal, it just takes time. And if your emotions are cutting into your schoolwork, let your teachers/professors know. Go to your guidance councelor or a professional. Tell them what happend so they understand what you're going through. Some teachers may find it silly, but hopefully if you tell them you are trying to get help for it, they will understand.

Answer 4

It's hard losing a pet, you loving your other dogs will not take away any love you had for the dog you lost... think..would she want you to give the other dogs less attention? Loving your other dogs as much as you can, and giving them a good life is a wonderful way to honor the dog you loved and loss.

Get a journal, write down everything you want to remember about your dog, then you have a permanent reminder with you, you can read when you're feeling down, and missing your dog.


Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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Answer 5

I am so sorry this has happened. Please understand what you feel is normal and the horrible pain is something that will ease with time. Nothing or noone will ever replace Taylor. Yet life must go on. Your other pets do need you and should not be made to feel isolated because of your fear. Life and death is part of the plan. We all are born and must someday die. The living is done in between. So enjoy your life, the life of your pets while they are here. Have no regrets. You are a good person and if you could have done anything differenly you would have. Please know that your heart will heal. Speak with someone local if it will help. Your vet might have a counselor they can put you in touch with. God bless.

Answer 6

I buried my dog 20 years ago under the same circumstances and still cry about it once in a while. I also have many good memories of the good times and after a while it does balance out. You should mourn the loss of a good friend. You will come to feel privileged to have been there when she died. Many dog owners don't get that and the pain from that is even worse.

Answer 7

girl i no just how you feel. ive lost plenty of animals in my life each one was its own unique disatser. remeber that ur other pets are used to taylor being around and they are probably mourning too so they need you now more than ever. dont neglect them otherwise youll feel even worse if they start looking sad. they miss u if u ignore them and u dont want that. my dog punkey died about 11 years ago and i still think about her but just knowing that shes not in any pain anymore is what gets me through the day. remember that she was 10 years old and that 70 years in dogs years so had a really long life. shes not in pain nemore and even though it hurts you you hafta remember that what happened was probably for the best. maybe her spirit was needed to serve a higher purpose. humans arent the only ones who can be angels ya know. ;) now shes free to roam and skip and play in the big backyard in the sky. shes is not in pain nemore and she is free.and dont worry about forgettin gher because as long as you continue to love aniamls and the pets you have now you will never forget her and you dont need me, a photo, or ne other member on here to tell you that. she knows you wont forget her and just because you may end up only thinking about her every once in awhile, that doesnt mean that you dont love her. if everyone in the world stuck on depressing and sad feelings when a loved pet or loved one died then we would not have any happiness. just rememebr that she and yourself are never alone. sometimes it takes a great loss to make us realize that life really is short so live it well and know that you are never alone. remember.....shes not in pain anymore and im sure shes smiling down on you just as know that punkey is smiling down on me and my family. have a good life and be happy!!!!! :) :) :) :)

P.S. monitor your surrounding and check for un-edible things just in case she did get poisoned so now your other doggies will be safe. they love you just as much as taylor did and still does. dont forget them. taylor wouldnt want that. Peace 2 U and bless you and your doggies!!!! :)

Answer 8

Losing a pet-especially one that you had for that long is as painful as losing a human loved one. You are so lucky to have had her for so long.You will never forget her,but after a little time it wont hurt as badly and thinking of her and all the memories you have of her will be a good thing. Even though it was hard to see her die--be glad that she passed in the company of those that loved her. Don't ignore your other dogs -you need them,and they need you---I bet they miss her too.

Answer 9

You won't forget her. The pain will ease in time. From the sound of your story, you gave her the best life she could have ever had. You gave her happiness. Now it's time to show your other dogs that you love them too. I understand how you feel.

Answer 10

I am so sorry to hear that. one of my friends lost her dog and she just brought a baby one just like it and called it the same name as her other dog, and she felt that the dog she has now is the same as before so she wasn't sad anymore because her dog was right infront of her. Thats the best way, In my opinion.

Good luck!