"I still hate you, but I can't figure out why I keep talking to you. I've deleted you from my phone, AIM, MSN, and I can't think of anything else. So no more IMing each other, no text messages or nothing else. That way maybe you'll cease to exist to me. ok, bye. " .......I got this from my ex a week after we broke up for reasons that are still un- beknownst to me. I had already done all the things listed in this email before I even got this email b/c I am/was trying to forget him. Prior to this, he had told me that he won't be able to be friends, etc b/c he won't be able to handle me dating other people, etc. I just don't understand this..it seems like we are both hurting and I am still not sure why. Part of the break up is that he said "he was getting too close to me and didn't want to. and that he purposely did things to push me away" I don't understand this and I am not sure how to respond? I am not sure if it really means goodbye? He has been the initiator of most contact..
2006-09-27 08:41:53 · 27 answers · asked by beautifully broken 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Imagine that he can't imagine living without you and is initiating all this contact so he can actually just keep in touch with you.
Now imagine how beautiful it would be for you to just completely ignore every effort of contact he makes - delete emails, erase voice mails unheard.
If that doesn't work you can knee him in the nads.
FP
2006-09-27 08:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is so sad! I think that he is jelous about you in some way because you wouldn't send a message like that a week after you broke up, you would send it there and then. I think he is trying to make you remember him in a weird phycological way. and the part where he says "That way maybe you'll cease to exist to me" well, he doesn't want to forget you and it will make you not forget about him, it also makes you want to say sorry or can we go out together again. If you do want to reply say "Good, I don't really care, i'm getting on with my life!" but i advise you not to reply at all.
2006-09-27 08:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by A.Prinz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the point: tell him. in detail: i imagine that you honestly have a project. you should inform your boyfriend that you probably did it back, yet you want to inform him at a time even as he's open to take heed to. He for sure likes you lots if he continues to be with you when you cheated two times. you want to inform him that you've a project and also you imagine you 2 should not be at the same time because you want to artwork on your self at present. (definite, you're breaking apart with him, yet i'm particular that is going to likely be mutual). make sure he knows how a lot you want him and that you do not imagine its authentic that you save hurting him by doing this stuff. Then: you want to save your self from chatting with any adult men for no less than 2 weeks and get your self at the same time and wondering straight away. provide your self a makeover and performance some relaxing which includes your persons and relatives. for instance, you may have a women evening out which includes your fashionable snacks and your fashionable video clips. Take time to imagine about your self and your destiny besides. Make a itemizing of belongings you want to finish contained in the subsequent week or so and attempt to achieve them. reliable success and need this facilitates :)
2016-12-02 04:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the both of you are gona have to have a sit down and talk things over if you want to remain friends with him.
he sounds like he is in love and does not want to fail you.
has he let you down before and how did he?
what was the situation.
and why was he trying to get you out of his mind, what was the situation between the two of you.
was there someone else in the mix of things on his side or yours?
there seems a lot in between the lines that are not being said.
were you having difficulties dealing with him and he saw this as the solution to ease what ever trouble you were having dealing with him ?
maybe he was doing what he thought was best and that was taking himself out of the picture to solve whatever issues there are, since everything else he knew failed.
and your both hurting do you still have feelings for him?
the both of you need to have a sit down and talk things out that lies between the both of you.
if you can not even be friends then so be it.
but personaly i think there is a lot more to this than what is being said
2006-09-27 08:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still wants to be with you. But I would get over him and move on. I bet you will feel the same about the next guy. If he wants to play games he can go to Mcdonalds and play Monoply on the 3rd of october. He seems like a jerk. Don't cry over someone that won't cry over you. Some men don't want the responsibilty of a relationship. He is not worth it. Sounds like my ex. and he had another woman. Just ignore him. Follow his wishes. He will regret it.
2006-09-27 08:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by justdoinmyjob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not respond, it sounds like he knows he screwed up and is trying to see how you will react. He wants you to plead to try again and that is why he is initiating contact. If you give in and even sound remotely hopeful of getting back together, he will know he is in control and will lose any respect for your strength of character. Leave this guy alone. Time will heal and you deserve better...
2006-09-27 08:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man apparently suffers from either a lot of insecurities, has someone else on the side, or has control issues. Either way keep your distance and move on to a more stable relationship without all the baggage.
2006-09-27 08:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by mzmscheeveeuhs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my x did the same crap to me. he was telling me no more phone calls no more emails no more ims and i was like you are the one thats calling me.my x kept me on a string for a long time he would do something mean and then buy me a gift. he already had someone he was interested in but wanted to keep me around too. just let him go it will save you some heartache trust me. i have finally meet the guy of my dreams and it was well worth the wait.
2006-09-27 08:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person who continues to tell you to let go and then continues to be the one holding on, is the confused person - not you.
Most of this rattling appears to me as expressed anger.
Wants to be close but do not be close.
Wants to be in a relationship - but I will tell you when.
Wants to date others - you cannot.
Wants to end the relationship - continues to hang on (however necessary).
Weigh this out - is it worth all this drama?
If not - then this is simple - block on the computer, the phone, do not answer cell phone/standard phone calls, attempts to come by, etc.
Time will show your reply to these many comments.
Move on with your life!
2006-09-27 08:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by Marsha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to at least tell him youre side of the breakup and how youre reacting to it. most likely hes too scared for a real relationship. if hes saying all this without a reasonable and logical answer for the breakup.. you have the right to know why. just take a deep breath and move on to other guys.
2006-09-27 08:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by arae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋