I work for a jewish law office. My current employer's father is dieing, The are religious and the office is out of their home. What should I do when he passes away? are flowers appropriate? I heard something about sitting shule? ( sorry for the spelling ) I'd like to handle this professionally but not sure what to do.. Thanks!
2006-09-27 08:39:25 · 7 answers · asked by meowymew 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Until he dies. nothing. Is the meantime, do ask about his father and how the family is doing.
Flowers are fine. A donation in memory is great. Read the obit for instructions. If you want to be very lovely, as soon as you've received word that the father has passed, get a card, and have all the employees sign it.
Also -- Judaism has a multi-staged mourning practice. The first stage is called the Shiv'ah (literally "seven", observed for one week) during which it is traditional to sit at home and be comforted by friends and family, the second is the shloshim (observed for one month) and for those who have lost one of their parents, there is a third stage, avelut yud bet chodesh, which is observed for eleven months.
2006-09-27 09:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by firehorsetwo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A card is usually fine. When the obituary is printed in the paper, you may take some clues from there. The family's wishes will be listed: like donating to charity instead of sending flowers.
If you are still in doubt, there is a good book to consult:
How to be a perfect stranger: the essential religious etiquette handbook. It is by Arthur Magida
The same author has another book with a similar title:
How to be a perfect stranger: a guide to etiquette in other people's religious ceremonies.
Your local public library may have copies of these books.
2006-09-27 09:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A card is always appropriate and maybe some flowers. But if you want to be of real help see if there is anything they need help with. Like watching some of the younger kids that can't go to the funeral for a few hours so the adults can morn in peace.
2006-09-27 08:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by James C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are not Jewish yourself, you may want to consult a Rabbi for what is appropriate in this situation, maybe the Rabbi at the temple that they go to services. Best Regards
2006-09-27 14:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by crazybest75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can fix a dish and bring to the family house,and ask them ,any thing they need.You can also buy flower or a card.
2006-09-27 08:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by lanie1713 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your eyes,
Are there flowers in the house?
Your are so close to the event you should be able to see what is happening.
What are the other family members and friends doing?
Follow them.
Careful, it is probably better to do nothing, except send cash, Jews always appreciate that.
2006-09-27 08:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I donk't know the answer to this, but you are so sweet to care so much to do the proper thing. I'm betting you're an excellent employee.
2006-09-27 11:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋