I told several people the probable dates for my baby shower and I let them know to watch for the invitations. I didn't ask anyone what day is best for them because I know I can't accomodate everyone. I had several people reply to my email and tell me that they aren't available on certain days. Unfortunately I can't take that into consideration because I had to choose the day that was best for the grandparents and the hostess. I totally understand if someone can't make it but think it's rude for them to try to tell me what date to have it. Then after the date is set a couple of people asked if they should bring their husbands. Well the husband's name was not on the invite and if they look at the guest list on the website they can see it's ladies only. Am I the only one with difficult friends or maybe I'm just too grouchy? I just think that everyone should politely decline or politely accept. :)
2006-09-27 08:38:40 · 24 answers · asked by KV9670 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Oh god girl! that sucks!
I would just vent about their b.s. and not worry about it.. just plan that shower and have a great time..
People are just a pain sometimes.. always gotta throw that 2 cents in...
What husband would want to go to a babyshower anyways?
And did you put no kids on the invites? cuz if you didn't someones probably gonna show up with their brats...lol
2006-09-27 08:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by SassySista 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not being grouchy. You can't make everyone happy, which I think you've already realized. If your friends ask you to change the date, politely decline and inform them that the date is set and you hope to see them there. If they don't show up or call to let you know they won't be there, express your regrets and move on.
As far as the husbands go, if you have already declared this a ladies only affair, then they shouldn't be asking to bring their hubbies. Inform them that it was not your intention to add to the guest list at this time and you have only made plans for the guests you have already invited. You might suggest that the husbands have a small get-together of their own.
2006-09-27 16:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Cristie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
You ARE NOT being grouchy. This is YOUR special day to get ready for the little one! I think you should send out the invitations with the date YOU pick, and is best for you, your grandparents, and hostess, not anyone else. If they email you they can't make it that day say you are sorry they can't be there. That's it. Make sure your hostess or you include on the invitations it is a ladies only baby shower...not co-ed. Send an update email once you have the exact date set and make it clear once again that it will be LADIES ONLY and hope to see you there. Then say at the bottom, please RSVP: YES: I WILL BE THERE or NO, I AM SORRY I CAN'T MAKE IT... by such and such date. Good luck with the baby shower. I hope to have one soon also! Congrats to the mommy to be!
2006-09-27 15:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should set the date according to your intended guest's availability. However, if some women want to bring their husbands, what is wrong with that? Men are too often excluded from so many important events. You are having a baby and if your friend's husbands want to share in that joy with you, why not?
I know a lot of men who stay at home and take care of the kids and the house because their wives choose not to leave the work force. A few of these women enjoy an income that far exceeded that of the husband and so they stay at home.
Let these men attend. Trust me, you will have such a good time. Men are such wonderful human beings.
2006-09-27 15:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns about the dates. I know it can be frustrating for people to be putting in their own opinions about the dates, but don't let that influence your friendship towards them. It is in bad taste, but it seems like everyone is so busy anymore. For example this weekend my daughter had a birthday party to attend on Saturday at the same time I'm supposed to be delivering a care package, then on Sunday afternoon she has another birthday party to go to and on Sunday evening I have a baby shower to attend. It's a pain, but nobody knew about anyone elses plans, and I would never ask anyone to pick a different date for something, that's in bad taste, but still try to forgive your friends. As for the husbands, it used to be the norm for only women to go to baby showers, but most of the baby showers I've gone to in the last few years have included the father of the baby and male friends. Either way is okay, if you want a traditional baby shower then don't hesitate to "gently" let your guests know it's women only. Or maybe the men can all get together and grab a bit to eat or something. Most of all, try not to stress about it, it's your special day! Good Luck.
2006-09-27 15:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad you told people about the possible dates. You should have made them be surprised when the invitation came in the mail. And I dont see how some people dont understand that if the husbands name is not on the invitation that they are not invited. And there is no way that you can make the date perfect for everyone so all you can say is "Im sorry you cant make it".
2006-09-27 15:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by sooz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the hostess deal with these issues - that's all part of being the hostess of a shower. You have far more pressing matters to be thinking about right now and making sure that you get lots of rest.
Those who can, will attend your shower and help you celebrate, those who can't will likely show thier happiness for you in another way and at another time.
Enjoy your shower!
2006-09-27 16:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by ms_know_it_all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are always going to have people that can't attend something that you are inviting them to and they will want to go and try and convince you that you should try and change it. If they are important enough than fine try to change it but otherwise pick and date and stick to it. The question about the husbands I think is because more and more everyday- people are having couple showers-whether it be bridal showers or baby showers. It just depends on you and what you want. I want my husband to be as much a part of this as he wants to be so if he requests to be there then by all means come along. Which means men are invited but not required. Its entirely up to you!!
2006-09-27 15:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by Misty K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a matter of fact i can almost guarentee half the people would rather not attend in the first place. Most of the time when someone has to go to a baby shower it's purely out of duty not that they want to. So either way..set your date..And see how many are busy that day. Difficult baby shower guest I doubt..maybe a pregnant friend making too much of the thing
2006-09-27 15:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The young generation has generally been raised to think that the world revolves around them and they get what they want. Unfortunately, we cannot all get what we want because wishes conflict. Perhaps each of your friends did not realize that they were not the only ones being asked about dates and thought that you would set it when they could attend.
You are not too grouchy. You just expect people to be considerate and some of your friends are not considerate. Maybe you need to lose their numbers and e-mail addresses.
2006-09-27 15:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do sound a little moody, but hey, you have a right! You're the one so many months preg. with all the pregnancy symptoms you can (or can't) stand. These people just want to be involved, not left out or forgotten, regardless of how it may seem, they really do care about you and the baby. Let it go, enjoy the shower, and invite them over for "tea" sometime so they know you want them to be involved.
2006-09-27 16:18:08 · answer #11 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋