i am in love with a woman i have met and we now live together i have spoke to her about my ex who cheated on me with my best mate but i am worried that it will affect this relationship i love to bits and we make each other happy and i dont want to drive her away cos we make each other happy any advice
2006-09-27 07:58:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not fair to let what happened to YOU previously have an effect on your new relationship.
This is a fresh start, different woman. If you keep looking back and dwelling on the past you will ruin your future, put the past behind you, move on never look back!!!!!!!
2006-09-27 08:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I used to have trust issues. I started pretending so as not to drive my man away but I found that the pretending became real. So instead of phoning him all the time I'd pretend that I did really trust him and now I do.
You have to keep reminding yourself that she is chosing to be with you, that she could be with anyone doing anything but she's not she's with you. You also have to hold on to that happiness, she doesn't want to risk this any more than you do. And you have to keep telling yourself about the good times - she goes out with her friends, she gets chatted up butshe knocks them back and comes home to you - this is a good thing, your girlfriend shows her trust worthiness every day but she keeps on chosing you - you are special in her eyes - be happy.
2006-09-27 08:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean but this is a new relationship and she has done no wrong. Untill someone breaks your trust you have to give them 100%. Dont let what your ex did to you bugger this up . Its sounds like you really love each other and im sure she understands but you have to be strong and just give her the trust good luck
2006-09-27 08:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem, well not as much now, my ex dumped me for a so called friend, it depends how long you waited until this new person came into your life, personally i waited a year.
the best thing is to talk about it once, get it off your chest, explain your fears then hope for the best, but remember you lived through the pain and you survived.
2006-09-27 08:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by vegetamistress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-27 08:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by anna a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as long as you have been really honest and told her everything that the ex has done to you -her trust and heart will responde and treat you as you really want, dont go over the same stuff about your ex just say it once only to her
2006-09-27 08:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by ottillie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because your ex cheated is no reason to suppose she will. if you make this into a big issue it will ruin your chance of a happy relationship. just relax. and see what happens.
2006-09-27 08:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by grumpcookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel. Trust is just one of those things that take time
2006-09-27 08:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by for_runner0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust her till she proves you wrong. Keep your eyes open. Good Luck
2006-09-27 08:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop going on about your ex... that relationship is over .. concentrate. ;-0
2006-09-27 08:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋