i am 19 years old..and about 10 minutes ago my father who left me and my sisters at the age of 4 who hasnt call us or seen us or even given us a card just called me..?!?!?!? After 15 years....he acted like nothing had ever happend!!! and here i am just quite as hell and in shock ..all i could say was...uhah ehah fdkasdf....bye...what am i suppose to do? he as 3 new kids .......my head hurts....
2006-09-27 07:49:54 · 9 answers · asked by nothing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dear! A person who has left you when you were required to be taken care of, without thinking that you were his responsibility, is not at all reliable wheather he is your dad. He died for you at that time so don't be so kind hearted for such a selfish person. Otherwise you have learnt to live without a father. At this stage when you are grown up you don't need him. If he needs you now, just ask, why is he trying to contact you after the ages? Tell him not to interfare in your lives any more. Remain cool and calm and follow the routine you have been passing through.
2006-09-27 08:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Atif Mirza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for being shocked. He was wrong for not developing a relationship through all those years. You probably feel really angry and abandoned at heart. If you choose not to have any contact with him no one will blame you. However, you might try writing him a letter telling him all that you feel and how it sounded to you on the phone. Include a self-addressed stamped envelope and an invitation to call you again. He may just be contacting you now because he knows he is no longer obligated to pay child support for you and feels free to get to know you. I don't say that this is right but it is only my guess. Best Wishes.
2006-09-27 08:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not comprehend why all this drama is happening all of sudden. yet, i'm no longer deliberately attempting to initiate worry yet someone got here at me incorrect, save taking words out of context and turning one man or woman's question into their very own. it truly is rude. heavily, i don't have a project debating yet when someone is going to take my words out of context and fully twist issues round, it truly is when I get dissatisfied. once back, i'm drained of each and every of the drama about percentvs Biggie, Rakim etc... This ish is getting previous.
2016-12-02 04:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance. At least meet with him and see what he has to say, why he is trying to get in touch with you now and what prevented him from doing so earlier. There might be things and circumstances you don't even know about. Again, give him a chance, almost everybody deserves a second chance.
2006-09-27 07:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by fisch_maegg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decide whether you want to let him back in your life, and if you do, make sure you give him a solid piece of your mind. He's a dead beat dad who abandonned his children, and now wants back into there lives? Make sure you set the rules. Good luck dear, and take some asprin, lol.
2006-09-27 07:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand how a parent could ever leave a child. Maybe he has realized that he screwed up, or maybe he's lonely. Either way, it's up to you if you talk to him, but be cautious. You don't want to be hurt twice. My heart goes out to you and your sisters.
2006-09-27 07:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need some time for all this to sink it. Think about it for a few days and you'll find an answer.
2006-09-27 07:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? You certainly have the right to blow him off. However......holding grudges just makes the head hurt worse.
2006-09-27 07:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by myopinion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the lousy joker just didn't want to pay child support for all of you for all those years. just remember, to him IT'S ABOUT THE MONEY.
2006-09-27 07:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by mr_resistor2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋