I was 27 weeks pregnant (1 week shy of 7 months) and i found out that my baby died last week. I was forced to go into labor as any normal pregnancy and deliver a 'stillborn'. It was a boy, we named him Spencer. He looked just like my husband. Its been really hard for the both of us as you can imagine.
My husband and i both wanted this baby so bad. We had everything ready for him. Its been 1 week today since i delived the baby boy and my hubby is already talking about me getting pregnant A/S/A/P.
How long should i wait to have intercourse after birth? (remember this was a 2lb baby, so no tearing or stiches) When hould we start having another baby?
2006-09-27 07:48:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
interesting,
I feel so sorry for you and your husband
no advice never experienced it hope never to
2006-09-27 07:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by gw123456 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I am sorry. I can imagine how painful is for both of you. But dont give up! The best things to do is to ask to a doctor. But i know a woman Thai after 4 weeks that she had her first baby she became pregnant again without problem. How do you both feel emotionally? Are you b oth ok? That is important too before another pregnancy because your baby needs to grow with a mommy relax and not in pain for the loss. Maybe is better wait a little while and try to heal your emotions. About your intercourse i will wait another week. It was a little baby but always a delivery it was. Good luck for you both. And I will pray for you both.
2006-09-27 08:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait at least 6 weeks because that is the normal time for healing after giving birth. If you can hold off for at least 2 full months possibly even 3 your body will have sufficient time to heal and be more ready for carrying another baby... This is not to say that you can't get pregnant with in that time, but to be on the safe side and to keep you from miscarrying or possible having another still birth I would give it some time.... I am very sorry for your loss and hope that your future attempts are successful.. GOOD LUCK to you and your husband..!!
2006-09-27 07:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. The first thing you should do is talk to your doctor about the causes of your babie's death. I don't know why the baby died but if there is something wrong with you then it could happen again. That is why it is really important to know your medical condition. As of how soon you should try again, well your doctor can tell you more than we can here on yahoo answers...... but if you are not ready yet, don't do it, tell your husband that you need time to grieve. Give time to time.
2006-09-27 09:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that. I also lost my first baby girl at 39 weeks of pregnancy. She was 6 pounds and 8 ounces. That really hurt me because i've always wanted a little girl.About 2 months later I was pregnant again and he came out healthy(it was a boy) So I think you should try again when you're ready. Give your body time to heal. Just remember, you cant replace that baby with anybody. You can have more kids but they will not be Spencer. He was a special little boy.You have plenty of time to have another one, just make sure you're emotionally ready. Good luck!
2006-09-27 08:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by shylove357 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am very sorry for your loss. However as to having another baby and a time frame that is entirely up to your doctor! No one else can answer a health issue.
That being said, I think you and your husband need time to adjust to this baby that you loss and how you feel and mourn him instead of rushing in and "replacing" him quickly. Having another baby will not make you forget and you need time to go through the grieving process. Both of you do! Plus your body does need to heal.
Give it time, accept your loss and find a place in your life for your grief. You'll think of your little one every day and talk to him all the time. But please do not be like some on here and use your loss for sympathy. There is one lady on here that acts like she is the only one who has ever lost a child and she can't answer or ask a question without referring to it. Do not let this loss define you and your life. It becomes part of your life but you do go on. Your son would want you to live life to the fullest!
2006-09-27 07:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont Listen to STUPID ppl writing in this forum that has mean comments, but i think you should ask your doctor, i know you can get pregnant right away! But the question im not too sure of is when can you start having intercourse is what you should ask your doctor, cause you should give your body time to heal. And im very very sorry for the loss, i know slightly how you feel, i had a miscarriage a week ago!
2006-09-27 07:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That must have been emotionally difficult. Sorry to hear you had to endure such an emotionally painful stillborn. I would say that you will instinctively know when it's time to start trying again. If it's a medical opinion you're asking, call your doctor. If it's an emotional question, then just go with your gut instinct. Don't let your husband pressure you if you're not ready. He didn't just have to deliver a dead child, so he can't imagine how you feel.
2006-09-27 07:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by nido_tr3s 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation and gave birth at 23 weeks to a stillborn. The doctors told me to wait 6 months until TTC again. Also Id say to wait a month until you have sex or close to.
2006-09-27 08:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the American College of Obstetrics & Gynecologists recommends 16 months between ending a pregnancy & beginning another one. That gives your body plenty of time for it to heal.
I am so very sorry for your loss - I lost one right at 4 mos, nowhere near as far as yours - but the only comfort I can give you is that your baby will be in Heaven watching over you & any other children you may have . . . it helps to think of it that way.
(a little) Good luck dear - take care.
2006-09-27 07:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Atleast a six months rest after each pregnancy is essential to mother.. u should be bit patient how ever urgent it might be..the nature of the womens body is that they get a bit weak after getting pregnant..for few days
2006-09-27 07:58:58 · answer #11 · answered by SARATH C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋