I still got my hair, I still weigh the same I did at 18, I got my degree/profession, and a business on the side. A 911, and a MBZ.
I'm not looking for a trophy wife, a fling, lust, etc, but I feel like for the first time in my life, I really am in love(for months now), and this woman I have met transcends every woman I have ever met.
I don't think I really could have appreciated this person at my level of thinking/maturity when I was 25-30.
Please advise. Thank you.
2006-09-27 07:48:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would advise you to improve your communication skills, and seek professional help. You seem to have retained the maturity level of a 23 year old. No doubt that she would outgrow you by the time she turns 25. "Got" it?...
2006-09-27 08:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Warm Custard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If those are your feelings then yes, approach her. I don't have to tell you the best way to do it. You are experienced and know not to come on too strong. Although your sentiments are genuine you do have to consider the fact that you are old enough to be her father and many women are turned off by that.
Also consider the fact that no matter how mature this woman behaves professionally that is no indicator whatsoever of her true behavior and maturity level.
The best you can do is merely to try. If you don't try you're going to suffer that dreaded "what if..." later on and you know exactly what I am talking about. :) It isn't like you are 80 something and your name happens to be J. Howard Marshall and you are pursuing a Playboy playmate or anything. You're still young and you only live once. Live it up to the fullest, no matter what anyone tells you.
And no, there isn't a damn thing wrong with it. Have fun!
2006-09-27 07:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by A.R. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I think you should go for it. I am 23 and my husband is 45 and we get along great. We have good sex and good conversation. We also have two beautiful children together. I think that if you can handle a 23yr. and she could handle a 45yr. than yeah it maybe all you have hoped it would be. My husband said the same thing that the relationship we have is far greater than he has ever had with his previous girlfriends. She may not be to on it right away but woo her and show her that you really care and it just might happen.
2006-09-27 07:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by lala_chic2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move cautiously. Take a look at it from her perspective.
You could easily be her father, being twice her age, but if the chemistry is there for both of you then go for it.
However, I strongly urge you to make sure that her feelings COULD be mutual before making a serious move so go easy. If there isn't a hope where she's concerned because of the age difference, you may end up being ostracized by her, or worse. Good luck!
2006-09-27 08:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by STEVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go verry slow. I made the mistake to jump too quick my BF is 29'Im 41.
Too much of an age differance
Imtrying to disentangle
myself from him rite now. He is too controllling, I'm more easy going he is still a young man and insecure, I don't sweat it if he goes out with friends but he has a fit and rings my phone off the hook if I do ..Ps. I have never given any reason to do so.
2006-09-27 07:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on whether you enjoy late nights, parties. It can get very tiring being deprived of your sleep eventually. But I have friends with a huge age gap who are married and extremely happy. Then again I have a friend who is 39 and dating a 26 year old, who are having endless problems. It would be a gamble, but you wont know unless you give it a shot. Good luck
2006-09-27 08:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not what do you have to loose?
A lot of younger girls would much rather go out with an older guy because they are more mature and can carry on a conversation with out using the word "Dude".
If for what ever reason she turns you down don't take it to heart, ask her why and then ask her again if it is because she has something better to do. etc...
2006-09-27 07:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by GoneByDawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The late great Aaliyah said it best: "Age ain't nothin' but a number." Of course she was talking about being married to R. Kelly at the ripe old age of 15. But still. Why the hell not. You only live once.
2006-09-27 07:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by Joshua P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love it when older men approach me. I am 21 and wouldn't think of dating a man under 30 but I can never seem to approach the older men, so they would be doing me a favor if they would start the ball rolling!
2006-09-27 07:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by kourtney j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure how her father, or she would feel about it. I advise you to be cautious. I had no clue what I wanted at 23, and most people don't either. You said it yourself about your maturity at 25-30, well, she is 23. Ya sure it's worth it?
2006-09-27 07:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by tlc73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋