I don't know what to do!!! Please help! I'm 14.Have been dating with a guy(now he moved to another country) a few month ago.We had sex.I got pregnant and I was very afraid t tell mom or dad and I've been hiding my pregnancy.But my belly becomes bigger and I worry soon I won't be able to hide it and my parents will "kill" me!I'm in 13-th week pregnant.What to do?How can I abort the baby or be pregnant without my parents find out?
2006-09-27 07:44:24 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I won't tell them!!!They will kill me
2006-09-27 07:45:13 · update #1
What you do is your choice and you should not be judged whatever your end result is! Now TALK to your parents and tell them you are pregnant. If you go ahead with the pregnancy you are going to need a lot of care! Care you should be getting now! But don't keep the baby. This will only hurt you and the baby in the long run. Do an open adoption (that way you will get pictures of the baby and know who got the baby and one day you can come together again). If you decide on an abortion, this is a surgical procedure and can cause you to bleed out if you don't receive proper care. Any way you look at it you need your parents. They will not kill you but they may be disappointed in you and the decision you made. Involve them in the next one, this is the one that will change your life forever.
2006-09-27 08:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
They might kill you but you do deserve it. Another thing they might do after killing you is forgiving you and working on the situation at hand. No matter what you are pregnant and you must deal with the first actions of that.
YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR PARENTS. You asked how can your parents not find out. Well they will when you start sleeping more, vomiting, eating, and gaining weight. Theres no real way to hide it because you yourself are a child. You cannot make decisions on your own. See how far that got you? You need a doctor. Tell your parents so you and your child can get the help you need.
Yes you may let your parents down but mistakes happen. Trust me they would rather know and help you make the proper decisions because they love you, but you can kiss trust goodbye.
Except what you did forgive yourself and handle your responsibilities.
2006-09-27 08:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jason & Milly T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Debbie T. has the right idea. I was 16 when I got pregnant with my daughter who is now 14. I felt like my mom would kill me if I told her, in fact I thought she would throw me out of my house. When I told her she cried for a few minutes and then hugged me for a long time. She came home the next day with a crib for my baby. (I was 5 1/2 months pregnant when I found out). Everything was normal, My period, I wasn't sick...etc... Either way It was a struggle for me but I am 31 now and I wouldn't have done it any other way. I love my daughter with everything in me. I would be more upset if I thought that she couldn't come to me about something like this. She is what I breath for. If she couldn't talk to me I don't know what I would do. But there are people than can help you tell your parents, like a school counselor, They can come with you to talk to your parents. Or even the docotor you must have gone to when you found out how many weeks you were. If it helps at all, I told my mom first, then she told my dad. HE didn't talk to me until my daughter was 3 months old, but now she is grandpa's little girl. Me and him could not be any closer.
I really do hope you find a way to come clean because you and your baby need medical care,immediately. Think about your health and your babies. If you need to talk more just email me at cvsanmarcos3@sbcglobal.net
Do his parents know? Maybe they can help you tellyour parents.
I wish you the best!
2006-09-27 09:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with don't let anybody on this website influence you as to whether or not to terminate the pregnancy - that is a decision for you alone. You really need to tell your parents about this. I have two daughters, and while I might have been upset if one of them had been pregnant at 14, I would have been even more upset not to be told about it as I am the person that needs to help them. However well or badly you get on with your parents, I'm sure that they love you (more than anything) and will do all they can to help you to make the right decision for you and to sort out this problem. Tell them straight away. You're much too young to be dealing with an adult problem like this on your own.
Some of the answers to this question are downright dangerous and abusive. This is a 14 year old kid asking for help and some of the answers are extremely abusive and unhelpful. Terminating a pregnancy will not make this little girl a murderer and to the person who suggested using a coathanger - you should be jailed for giving a young girl advice that could kill her. This girl needs to be hearing sensible advice from sensible adults and not being dissed and called dreadful things.
2006-09-27 07:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by debbie t 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell your parents. Yes they are going to be mad, but they are your parents and they love you, there's a phrase, time heals all wounds, and it will take time, but they will be there for you to help you. And like many have already said, please don't abort the baby, there are many parents out there who are unable to have children of their own, and if you don't want the baby give the child up for adoption.
I honestly believe that your parents will not kill you.
Also you made an adult decision by having sex, and with our actions there are always consequences of our actions. And you need to face that. If my daughter were to get pregnant when she's 14, yes I would be angry and upset, but I would help her any way I can, because I love her. I am sure your parents love you and will help you.
Besides they are gonna know sooner or later. If you can't talk with your parents, talk with someone like a pastor, or a Dr. Someone else in the family that you can trust, because you need to tell someone.
God Bless
2006-09-27 08:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby is too far to abort so please dont consider that an option the baby is now a life with feelings of its own.. the sex is already determined and you could hear the heart beat if you had the instrument..I know you dont want to but ither way now no matter what you do your parents will find out somehow..Your to far along... I grew up w/ very strict parents very religious but in a situation like ur i bloted and told them and they surprised me.. yours probly would too just tell them they love you no matter what soo they will want to help u yea they willl be a little upset at first but in time they will get over it.. You were old enough to make the baby now be old enough to own up too it.. You will be glad you did in the long run..If you cant keep the baby then at least have it soo someone who wants a baby and cant have one will have the chance to be a parent to yours. If you need to chat just im me.. i would be glad to chat w/ you....and try to help..
2006-09-27 08:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by whisper29me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy,, ya did it good hUh,, well its to late to have an abortion , you may as well fess up to mom and make sure you are getting the proper pre-natal care now ok. Mom and dad will be mad but the fact is this baby is in you and not them and on its way into this world. There is also other options for a girl who cannot raise a child , adoption etc..
2006-09-30 14:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by ghettobootybundy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really tell them. If not both then your mother, or an aunt... Somebody. It is really important that you go to the dr!!! I know you must be scared about having this baby, but you got pregnant for a reason..and every child has the right to live. No matter how scared you are now, and how mad your parents get @ you, you will get through this. Your parents will be upset, but they will get past it. You are their daughter... they brought you into this world, and you are about to bring their grandchild into this world!! It may not be an ideal situation, but you need to be brave and tell them, or someone. Things will be okay.
2006-09-27 08:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by seren_dipity_3 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They won't kill you, unlike you who wants to kill your baby. They will be mad, sure. If they love you, they will do everything they can to help you get through this pregnancy. If then you feel like you can't take care of the child, give it up for adoption. There are too many people out there that can't have children that would give your baby a good home. Please don't abort that baby. Your baby doesn't deserve to die just because you are scared of your parents.
2006-09-27 07:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by M.P.H. 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i AGREE debbie t has the right anwser... dont go by what these jerks tell u and say bad things about u ...just get help from someone u trust to help u tell your parents.. i no it is early in life but i was only a couple years older and had a baby just hold ur head high and be proud.. and girl dont ever let kids at skool talk **** about u either.. b happy for who u are not what people think u are .. just hold in there stong and when your kids gets older life will get easier but dont drop out of skool if at all possible.. i didnt and now i am in college and goin good and my kids are just fine and life is sooo much better since i stayed in skool... good luck if u need help just e-mail me!
2006-09-27 09:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by lilmissthang025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋