Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 months, but we were best friends for 3 years before that. We're both 18 and we're both really mature, so no worries there! Anyhow, the problem...
I'm a constant worrier. Even if things are going absolutely fine I can't help but worry that she doesn't like me, that she wants to break-up with me and that she's trying to push me away. Well, that was what I was like a few weeks ago - but I managed to move past that.
Anyway, NOW my problem isn't that I'm worrying about that stuff, but the fact that I just can't ever be "happy" about the relationship when I'm not with her, because there's always something in the back of my mind telling me to be sad. So, I worry. And I need to know how to stop!
I can't handle going home after a day at school and thinking about it. Even if we have a brilliant day I'll go home and just think about things too much and make myself paranoid.
How can I seriously stop myself from doing this?
2006-09-27 07:36:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me like you need constant reassurance in this relationship. You need to get down to the heart of "why" you need this constant reassurance. And once you figure out the "why" you can start working on not worrying. But, until you figure out what it is you are worrying about there is no way to stop worrying. It seems like something is bothering you deep down inside and you need to figure out what that something is.
2006-09-27 07:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have anxiety...no biggie and the doc can help you out with some meds. I have it...I worry about everything, everyday if I don't take my pill....Lots of people have it and it's easily treated. If it's not anxiety, perhaps you have some self-esteem issues, but I can't say because I don't know you. I know that I could never quit worrying about anything even when my husband reassured me everything was fine, I still always felt like something was wrong or something was going to happen...Make an appointment and see if it might be your problem and you'll get to feeling better soon. Good luck!!
2006-09-27 07:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so it sounds like you have some anxiety that's OK most people do.
but it would really help to talk to a counsler about it because usually these kinds of feelings stem from another problem in the past
and if you dont want to do that then every time you get a feeling like that talk to yourself (in your head not aloud) tell yourself to stop it your OK and everything is fine. it will take a little while but you will start to really feel that way
i have the same problem but if you try this is will work
and i dont want to scare you but if you dont stop worrying about it then it will become a self-fulling prophesy which means you think about it so much you will end up making it happen.
but i know you will feel better after you try this
good luck i hope yo u feel better
2006-09-27 07:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reality is that your very pessimistic and tend to focus on the negative aspects of life. It is not a relationship issue, because she makes you happy. However, it is a personal issues that needs to be evaluted. Anaylze what things in your past makes you sad or feel unhappy. There is a high possibility that something has caused you to be that way.Your bringing a personal issue into your relationship, which MAY have dire effects. Conclusion: Do some self evaluation or see a counselor.
2006-09-27 07:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Answers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yikes baby! you are running through my head! i do this ALL THE TIME. I call these my little "fantasies" of what is not really happening. (creating problems in relationship when there aren't any) I acknowledge that I am crazy then I am ablel to *eventually move past it. when your relationship becomes more solid it will eventually lessen, but it is all so new right now even though you have been friends forever. realize that is is stupid, even comical, really & share it with her! she probably has doubts too, just remember to spin it with humor, like how silly it really is.
ps. sometimes your worries can be valid so since you are used to thinking about it you can also get used to talking about it.
2006-09-27 07:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by cass393 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can't be easy for EITHER one of you. I'd suggest therapy, it's not a bad thing - you've just got to get to the bottom of this problem.
Do you think you're not good enough to deserve something so "good" in your life?
I wish I knew the answer for you to make things better...I don't. All I can say is do two things..first of all, express to your girlfriend that you don't like being this way and that you want it to STOP. Next, find yourself a good therapist to help you deal with this.
I wish you the best of luck, Marilyn
2006-09-27 07:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks (as an on looker), that your BF is inflicting a great number of lack of self belief on your existence, for this reason why you pronounced you may not be mutually. So. Why are you nonetheless with this jerk? i'm curious, after all which you have complained approximately. Oh! PLEASE, do not say you adore him. Love makes a individual chuffed, not the alternative. Oops! examine the final paragraph and that's exactly what you wrote...i assume that solves your subject then!
2016-10-01 10:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by erlebach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a compulsive disorder and need to break this bad habit. Have you thought about cognitive behavioral therapy? You really need to seek some help to change your thoughts, otherwise you'll always be worried about something.
This is all basically a very bad habit-- you are allowing yourself to think paranoid thoughts, but when the brain gets "stuck" it needs need help in changing those thought patterns. It's kind of like learning the lyrics to a song... they get "stuck" in your head and years later, you'll still remember them. You need to learn how to stop remembering this paranoid pattern of thinking.
2006-09-27 07:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep worring about it that can take a toll on your relationship, if she doesn't tell you or show any signs that your relationship is in trouble don't worry about it, Concentrate on getting done with school and taking care of business
2006-09-27 07:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by duce5242000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control everything, so stop worrying about everything.
Take it from a massive worry wort. You'll end up with heart palpitations. And you'll lose the girl, because you'll drive her nuts!
2006-09-27 07:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by ilovedefault 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋