Having met a very pleasant young lady I went out on a date with her, and she suggested that I choose where to go - so I duly for a very pleasant wine bar for us to go to together. Now she wants to see me again, and I suggested that she chooses where we should go. However, she is new in town and is unsure as she claims not to know the city well. Would it be rude of me to suggest a place to go, based on the type of place she wishes to visit? As we live in different parts of the city, I of course understand that after she went out of her way to come to meet me last time, I should go out of my way to go to meet up with her. Or am I just being old fashioned here?
2006-09-27 07:32:27 · 19 answers · asked by bovie 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Going out of your way to meet up with someone you're a bit taken by is romantic. Do it. She should appreciate this.
As for the venue, I think you should ask her if she has seen or heard of anywhere that she would like to try. If not, then you can ask her the sort of thing(s) she would like to do or places she would like to go. Take that as your lead and don't be afraid of making suggestions, especially as she is new in town and would probably welcome the opportunity to see and try new things. This is also your opportunity to be a tourist in your own town - maybe suggest that you both explore an area you yourself don't know. At least it will give you something to talk about over dinner/drinks.
2006-09-29 07:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Curly Locks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she doesnt know city well why dont you suggest maybe a little sightseeing? go on a tour and end the day with dinner? but dont suggest ending up somewhere wait till you see what area you end up in and let her choose a restaurant or bar to finish things off? this way you have plenty time to talk and get to know each other aswell as having a fun day and this way she gets to see places and would have more suggestions for further dates
2006-09-27 07:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by John "Freddie" West 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As she is new to your city I would say you choose again until she is more aware of the places to go and the things to do, you are not been old fashioned at all, you sound like the perfect gentleman to me and if I wasn't married to a wonderful gentleman myself I would pick you to go on a date with any day.
2006-09-27 11:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know her area then why not suggest going out around there if she is truley new to the town/city then it would be useful to her and if you meet again she will then be able to suggest somewhere because she'll know a few more places.
2006-09-27 07:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever made the invite should pick the venue, however it wouldn't be rude to make suggestions. However mentioning one singe place will make her think you really want to go there.
Remember if she is paying this time, pick somewhere of a similar price to your first date.
Good luck and have a great time.
2006-09-27 07:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by Nneave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally, whoever does the 'inviting' of the date should be the one to determine where you go.
In this situation, I suggest you offer to pick her up and truly have no destination planned. Tell her that you're going to discover new stuff together! This gives you time to talk, to be silly, to learn new things...then if you or she sees something you'd like to check out or a restaurant to try, then stop and go do that! Make it an adventure...make it fun and enjoyable! No expectations, no crazy attire and plenty of good, hearty, get to know you time!
2006-09-27 07:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person doing the inviting, and the paying, does the chosing of the venue, keeping in mind where the date might like to go.
It would be really nice to give her a selection of places to go, and let her choose, but it is not mandatory.
2006-09-27 08:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a true gentleman! You could ask her what type of restaurant she likes, so she is choosing where she wants to go, only you will know the best restaurant, or what type of films she likes.
As you get to know each other, you soon find likes and dislikes from both sides.
And yes, you should go out of your way to meet her. It works both ways!
Good luck to you, we are waiting to hear how it goes! x
2006-09-28 00:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right; you should go over to her area. It will also make it easy for you to escort her home.
it would not be rude for you to suggest a place; what matters is the way in which you suggest it.
it strikes me from the tone of your query that you are a considerate person, and this is the quality which she will value, more than the organisational specifics of the evening.
2006-09-28 09:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would not be rude for you to make a suggestion, if she doesn't know her way around it may help her. She could also just do some research online to see whats around. Good Luck!
2006-09-27 07:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Amynesiac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋