I been with my boyfriend for a year and one month he was In a bad car accident like eight months ago and science then he has changed a lot. Things are getting so hard in between us. Am confused he tells me he loves me but he does not express it. He is mean I gess the accident really affected his head he forgets simple things like ho to spell and the order of words and this is bad because he was the smartest kid in high school, he never committed these kind of errors . We fight every day so I been avoiding him I try to not see him and he gets really mad but am so scared now I don’t know what to do. I been getting this weird feeling about him it seems like every time we fight anger is growing inside of me towards him am scared I don’t even know if I love him any more..
He has been acting weird well he is about to get the settlement for him car accident and he already said a few times that I should leave him but two minutes later he says that if I leave him he is going to go crazy and that i will never see him again I don’t want this.
What is going on in his head?
What do you think I should do? I promise to take everything into consideration!!!
I really need help how should I help him??
Plz answer
I will read them all and give the 10points to the best advise out there..
Thankz!!!!!!
2006-09-27 07:17:29 · 20 answers · asked by *********** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I felt your pain as i was reading all those words...i think that when guys feel like they cant take care of their girl anymore ..they get desparate...i think he really loves you because he tells you that if you would leave him, he'd go crazy...all you can do for him is just love him...whenever he is acting weird just kiss him on the cheek and tell him that you love him and that you'll be there for him...cuz i believe that you will be there for him through thick and thin because if you didnt you would have given up already...after awhile he'll realize that his girl loves him no matter what...he'll realize that you are the reason that he goes on...
2006-09-27 07:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by luv muh baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in an unhealthy relationship. If you are not sure that you don't even love him anymore, then you shouldn't be with him. Love is always certain. Maybe you should let him be for a little bit, until things settle down. You can't be with someone who tells you to leave, and then a few minutes later tells you not to leave because he'll go crazy. That is not fair for you and that is not fair for him. If you two love each other, maybe some time apart would be good, at least, until the dust of the accident settles. If your love is strong enough, you two will find each other again. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-27 14:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by marypaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is complicated. First off I am sorry about his car accident. I hope the settlement helps him a lot. Car accidents can change people for the worse or for the better, it happens a lot. I know many people who have been in accidents where they almost died. He probably has so many emotions running through his head that hes confused. I wouldn't leave him- unless your truly on happy and he gets worse. You should have a good talk with him, sit him down and say that you feel bad about what happened but that you need the closeness you had before the accident. say your willing to help him through this but he can't be like that to you anymore. Good luck
2006-09-27 14:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems that he has a lot of issues going on from the car accident . . i think that what he really needs is for you to be there for him . . . it has to be frustrating to go from being the smartest kid in school to forgetting how to spell . . I'm sure the accident caused a lot of problems mentally and physically for him, and he's trying hard to cope with all of that . . I know he has to be frustrated with himself because of the changes he has gone through .. and it has to be even harder having a girlfriend who thinks that things should still be the same . . . if his accident was that bad and caused all of those changes for him, he's going to need time to recuperate . . you can't get over something like this overnight . . . it could take years for him to get back to the way he was, and that's only if he makes a 100% recovery . . . . I would say, if you love him, stay with him . . you just have to be patient, don't get so angry with him, and stop arguing with him . . . understand that this is a tough time for him and he's gonna need time to heal . . physically, mentally, and emotionally . . . i wish u the best of luck!
2006-09-27 14:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left out a big piece of info.
What kind of accident. You lead us all to believe he had major head injuries and possibly some kind of brain damage.
Is this true!?
If so, then he will have conflicting thoughts. This one this minute and that one the next. Maybe he is drifting in between his former self and the 'damaged' one.
he may be this way for years, or longer. You'd need to talk to his doctors and see what his condition is and see how you feel about what they tell you.
I feel bad for you, but if you are arguing all the time then you can't live that way, and it can't be good for him either.
Without knowng any more info this is all I feel comfortable saying.
I wish you the best tho. I hope he heals completely and quickly and that things get back to normal for you both!
2006-09-27 14:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he got in a really bad car accident, that may have affected his whole self image. Maybe he feels as though his life isn't the same, or that he's not as smart or good looking. But, instead of just trying to figure him out, go up to him, or call him, be extra sweet and sympathetic, and ask him softly to tell you what's on his mind. The reaction will soften him up, and he'll be able to not be so uptight about anything. Once you get through that, ask him step by step on why he's feeling the way he is. Your sympathy and loving attitude will soften his rough feelings, and he'll tell you what's wrong.
2006-09-27 14:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll...You might wan't to get him examined. Usually people who are dealing with mixed feelings tend to be bipolar(A mental instability in the mind) Moodswings might also be a aftereffect of the accident. But you also have to be a little more considerate about what he went through. Sometimes an accident might have more of an impact on a person than you might seem. To put into words: the guy might be going through a difficult phase in his life and requires a more delicate kind of attention. Not just from you but his friends as well. Through my expirience(since I am a guy) we have difficulty expressing what we feel. That also might be why he is so distant from you lately.
2006-09-27 14:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by Gatumadre!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's having a hard time reading and spelling and he didn't before, he had to have suffered some type of head injury. He needs to have that checked again, even if at the time of the accident he didn't hit his head. His doctor should know about this.
2006-09-27 14:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he really loves u, jus sometimes people cant control their anger, unless they know how much it's affecting their partner, maybe u don't show him how much it affects u when he reacts like that, so he would take advantage of that, my boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago cuz of the same thing i was always angry and upset with him and he was always cool so i thought that he really loves me and wont leave me but the day that he dropped the bomb on me by saying that it's over cuz of my attitude i could have died, i still love him but he doesn't want me back so my advise to u is to let him know how much u can't stand this attitude of his and if he's willing to change then u would consider working out your differences if not let him know that u would like to give it some time and maybe even consider moving on. hope this helps
2006-09-27 14:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica Simpson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to be in a relationship that isn't working. It sounds to me like this relationship isn't working any longer. My advice would be to tell him you need to take a break from each other, you need some time apart. Take that time to really think about things and see how you feel. If he won't let you take the time apart then my advice would be to end the relationship and find someone that makes you happy. Good luck!
2006-09-27 14:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋