Sometimes I wonder if I was even the right type of guy to date a woman. I loved her with all of my heart, but I had anger issues, and she had irrational jealousy issues. I think I may have been somewhat Narcissistic. I don't know. But we were together for 4 years, I had to have been doing something right all of that time, or we wouldn't have been. I remained faithful to her, though she believes falsely otherwise. My anger was a problem, though, and that may have been the root cause of our seperation, and my self-esteem dwindled as I put in so much effort at work, but never got credit for it, and saw people put in less effort and get praised more. I am going through a breakup, and I think a mid-life crises at the same time. I really wish I could have my ex back, but she is very stubborn and bullheaded and doesn't want to take the blinders off, and see that I only have the two issues. I have been trying to work on my anger for many years, even before I met her.
2006-09-27 07:13:59 · 15 answers · asked by The Lonely Skywolf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you need to find someone else. I hate to be abrupt but it sounds like you also case of "poor me's" when it comes to other people, for example, at work, meaning you think life is dumping on you. It does it to everyone & you are not special in that respect. I bet if you looked more at how the world needs a great guy like you rather than how the world is out to get you some of your anger issues will start to resolve.
I am in no way qualified to give you any type of advice but it sounds like you may need someone to talk to.
2006-09-27 07:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by cass393 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may only have two issues but you have to figure out if they're big issues. Because you said your anger problem may have been the reason why she called it quits, shows that you're not really sure how big your issues are. So, I think for now, you're better off single, so you can explore yourself on your own (soul searching, yah! hehe) The 4 years was not a waste of time, because relationships help you understand what you need in order to be happy in the future, even if they're really meaningful or very trivial. Now that you're single you have the time to do some good self evaluation. We all need it in our life, especially when we have those mid-life/quarter-life crisis. I think the crisis comes because we're going through life too rapidly, without really being conscience of it and we need to make sure we're going where we want to go. Best wishes to ya ^_^
2006-09-27 07:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by thedaybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes it is easier to work on yourself by yourself. If you are going through a crisis, it is probably better to not have to deal with a relationship at the same time. I'm sure when it comes down to it, you likely have blinders on regarding your own issues. Most people do. If the two of your are right for each other, the time apart will only strengthen you. If not, well, think of it as a lesson learned and a step in the right direction towards knowing yourself better and understanding what is really important in your life.
2006-09-27 07:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are better off single -- way better. My income was double within three months of being single. Within 7 months of being single I was making triple. I have made more money and been more successfull than I did when I was with any woman I went out with. I've been single for two years now and am doing better than I have ever done in my life. Women today are just too much....too many headaches. They drain men financially and mentally. So I guess the same could be said about men or women since you are a woman and i am answering your question. When my girlfriend finished her nursing course then she dumped me because I had fullfilled my purpose and she had no other use for me. Today its all about using and stepping on whoever you need to to get ahead. If that comes in the guise of love and romance then it works - so people do it. Don't get used up because today its all about money and sex - No one cares anymore don't kid yourself and save your heart from being broken - dont be a sucker like I was -- five years - I wasted
2006-09-27 07:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you just keep working on your anger, I hope with a professional. These two issues you have, may just be the very two she can't deal with. Improve yourself, and the quality of choices improves. Good luck!
2006-09-27 07:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on your own issues before you can be in a relationship. If you work on your self first then you can take the time to work on a relationship with another person but you need to remember that you can not fix the other person they have to want to fix themselves.
2006-09-27 07:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by confused7873 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some anger management classes could help you both out. Hope you give it a try! Good Luck!!
2006-09-27 07:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it definitely sounds like you're better off single than with HER, but don't let that make you think that you're not cut out for a relationship with anyone. work on your anger issues and find yourself a less neurotic chick.
2006-09-27 07:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I rarely encounter people who have such an objective and clear introspection.
You are ready to do some serious work around your issues.
I hope therapy is available for you - you're SO ready to grow!
2006-09-27 07:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow some freakin' testes and be a man.
Move on with your life already.
2006-09-27 07:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋