He is 18....
Girlfriend who hates me.......
Lives close to me........
Secretly calls me......
2006-09-27 07:13:39 · 13 answers · asked by Katie C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, my ex and I are a little older but I've just been through all of this myself. The new girlfriend hates me and devotes so much of her time focusing on me it's rediculous. I quickly learned though, it's because he still has feelings for me and she's jealous, and I'm sure that's probably the reason here too. I now find it rather funny that she's so insecure that she has to spend time telling him what a horrible person I am. It made me absolutely miserable, until I told him that I needed some breathing room. That's what I would suggest for you, take some breathing room. Get out of town for a weekend, go somewhere you love. I know it's hard but you need to walk away from the situation for a little while, everything that you couldn't see inside the relationship becomes a whole lot clearer when you are outside looking in. Tell him he's not allowed to call you for a set amount of days, and stick to it. Grab all of your girlfriends and have a pizza and movie slumber party night. Just do something that makes you happy. Find humor in the small things.
2006-09-27 07:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by GoodJob 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know breaking up with someone you LOVE can be heart breaking. The question is where is he at in his life as far as happiness. He has a child with someone, I'm assuming it's his first. Him and the baby's mother has this bond now. As far as you and him talking or getting back together, you should just try to do everything that you like to get your mind off of him. Dealing with an EX and a child now will be alot of unnecessary baggage to deal with. Love him, yeah but just move on there's always something better out there. Sometimes good things come to those who wait.
GOOD LUCK
2006-09-27 14:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by nicoleari 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend, with whom he has a baby - okay - TAKEN!!!
Leave him alone until he is single - when he calls you tell him don't call anymore. Find someone who is single like you & then you can form a bond with that person. DON'T POACH. Wonder why his girlfriend hates you? Bet he doesn't keep the calls to you all that secret. She knows - believe me. Leave him alone with his girlfriend & his little baby - if you can do the right thing - that's what it is.
2006-09-27 14:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else. If he is secretly calling you then what makes you think he won't do the same thing to you. Good Luck!
2006-09-27 14:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move On
2006-09-27 14:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by webwriter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON, the guy is shady. secretly calling girls behind a current gf's back is a big, red warning light. you're young, you will have more, better loves. don't waste you're time/emotions on this guy.
2006-09-27 14:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a terrible situation, but, the way I see it is that he needs to choose which of you (his girlfriend or you) he wants to be with. If he wants to move on, he should not call you or contact you in any way. Plus, you are tourturing yourself by keeping in contact with him. You should move on. Possibly in more ways than one. (Meaning that you might literally want to move out of your house and into one far away.)
2006-09-27 14:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on honey, never never pick up the phone when he calls you unless he's planning to be with you forever and leave his baby mama... I know it's hard, but he should have never left you.. Make that sucker beg...
2006-09-27 14:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on! Get another love!
2006-09-27 14:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wop.. the girls *** and if he still likes you when he secretly calls u tell him to get the baby and come back to u and hopefullythings will work out
2006-09-27 14:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by ashley m 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋