Would it be wrong if I throw myself a babyshower??
2006-09-27 07:10:31 · 36 answers · asked by Tuty 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
heck ya have a baby shower. congrats !! etiquette says you should not throw a shower for yourself, however if no one else is willing or able then do it. this is a special time and im sure you could use some help getting the things you need. i have been to many baby showers for the 2nd and 3rd kids and i see nothing wrong with it. if someone doesnt like it then they dont have to come. once again congrats and good luck with your new baby
2006-09-27 07:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by dawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of 3 and didnt have a babyshower until my 3rd. I was supposed to have one for my first, but the baby ended up being born on that day! Then for my 2 everyone kinda assumed that I had everything that I would need, so I shouldnt have a shower. Then my mom decided to throw me one, just to have a good time and see people that I normally dont have a chance to see. We did games and all of the stuff you would do at a babyshower for the first kid. It was fun, and I mostly got diapers and such because I did have everything from my first 2. Go ahead and have a shower! (also, people seemed to buy more gifts like bath gels and stuff for me and less baby type stuff)
2006-09-27 07:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by holly w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if there's a significant age difference between your kids and you no longer have all the baby stuff or you're having a boy after two girls and have no little boy stuff, then you should have a shower. Though you don't throw one for yourself; someone else is supposed to do that for you.
If you have all the basic baby stuff already, then throw a party celebrating your baby's arrival. This one you can do yourself, just make sure the invites don't say it's a shower. You can even specify "no gifts" so that people realize it's a celebration rather than a shower. The bonus is that many people will bring gifts anyway but you don't give the impression of having asked for them.
2006-09-27 07:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate that people say you are only supposed to have a baby shower for you first child. Does that mean that your second, third, or even fourth and so on should not celebrated? And no you might not have all the items you need, this is my third and I don't have anything because I thought I was done having kids and got rid of everything. There is nothing wrong with having a baby shower. It's a chance to show you're excited about the arrival of your newest child and to get to share it with your friends and have fun. There's apsolutely nothing wrong with it. Also what if you have had all girls or all boys up until this point and now you're having the other one and so you need stuff. And car seats, cribs, and so on after going through two kids may not be in the best condition. Is it fair to the youngest kid to always get stuck with hand me downs? I think that by saying you can't have a baby shower for your third child is like saying that your third child isn't as important as your first. Go ahead and have your party hun forget what other people say. It's about that baby and you having fun and celebrating your new bundle of joy on it's way. And if you already have most of the stuff you need just make sure you tell your friends just to bring small gifts that way you aren't feeling greedy. but there is nothing wrong with wanting to have a party and celebrate it and just have an excuse to have cake and balloons is there. Let me ask you this? Do you not have a birthday party every year just becasue you got what you needed the year before? The heck with people who say it's not right, hun have fun and do it your way. I'm certainly going to have one myself. And I live on a military base, they are throwing a big baby shower for all the pregnant woman regardless of how many kids you have. We don't live in the dark ages throw a party and have fun.
2006-09-27 07:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with having a babyshower for each child that you have.. but it's totally tacky to throw your own shower...
What could you possibly need after already having 3 kids that you don't have already?
2006-09-27 08:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by SassySista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well throwing yourself a baby shower is tacky as heck. You should never throw your own baby shower.
And as far as if the 3rd baby should have a baby shower it depends to me. How long has it been since you had a baby? In the last few years.. then I think there's no reason to have a shower. If it's been a long time (like 7 years then ok.. maybe)
2006-09-27 07:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by ChemGeek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your friends. It would be tacky to throw your own shower, but certainly it would be okay for someone else to have it for you. I have 4 kids and with each baby, I had a shower. Things get stained and car seats can be out of date for safety guidelines after a few years. For my 4th baby, I had a diaper shower, because I didn't need anything big. It was great people bought me all different sizes and I didn't need to buy any for 6 months! Plus it is just nice to get new clothes for the new baby. Hand me downs still work great, but a few new things are nice. I saw on TV where a lady was having a "New To Me" shower where other moms gave her things that their kids had gently used and were no longer needed. It was a nice way to give unneeded baby items a good home. Good luck with baby #3!
2006-09-27 07:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by jimandlynn1989 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it would be wrong for you to throw yourself a baby shower. It is only appropriate to have a shower if someone else throws it. It is okay to have another shower if this baby is of a different sex than the other two or if it has been a long time between pregnancies.
2006-09-27 07:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by kjclaycamp82 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Each baby is new and exciting. Celebrate this child just like the others. Go ahead and throw one. Make it a big celebration. If you do not need as much stuff, then give idea's for gifts. Or you can just have a party to celebrate the baby and pregnancy. Do not have to have the traditional baby shower.
2006-09-27 07:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by dr's mom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are entitled to a baby shower for each pregnancy if you so choose.
My friend is expecting her 3rd soon and she will be having a shower. There are certain things moms need new with each baby. Such as diapers, wipes, formula, you may have bottles but new nipples for the bottles, and of course bed linens. If you are having a girl and already have 2 boys then you need to get girl things. And vice versa.
Have your shower. Enjoy yourself. Make sure to register for lots of diapers in a variety of sizes. You'll need them for a while.
Congratulations!
2006-09-27 08:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋