If you are familiar with my questions regarding my daughters mother, here is another. I was on lunch one day taking a stroll thru down town Chicago. And I see a Guy holding my daughter, and my daughters mother standing next to him and they are carring on like 1 big happy family. The reason I got upset wasnt because they were all together but the fact that everytime I try to get my daughter on the weekend, her mother comes up with every excuse in the book on why she cant bring her to me or I cant come get her. Then to see my 7 month old being held by another man was emotionally disturbing. I didnt result to violence, however I did cause a sceen on a busy street at lunch time. The police stopped me and let he keep going. Her boyfriend ran up the block like Maurice Green in fear. (I wasnt mad at him). for about 3 blks I ranted and raved until the cops showed up. They asked me to calm down but I was just to out of control for them, so the took me to jail. Am I wrong for being mad?
2006-09-27 07:09:49 · 10 answers · asked by Dr. Love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand she has moved on with her life and I've moved on with mine. I just want to be in my childs life. I tried not to get into a whole legal thing because its just going to be a messy situation. And truly I dont feel the law is desighned to protect the fathers rights. I would not have caused a sceen if I saw my child on a regular. I work 2 jobs to support myself and make sure my childs needs are met. I refused to give her Cash I would rather buy the things my child needs and keep my recipts to keep track of where my money is going. Can sombody please help me?
2006-09-27 07:13:13 · update #1
NO your def. not wrong for being mad. I would understand if she was upset at the fact that you didn't want to come see her, but you do. Seeing someone holding your daughter and you haven't been able to spend your own time with her would get you upset. Try talking to her mother letting her know if she keeps this up not letting you be apart of your daughters life your going to have to take unnecessary actions that you don't want to result to. This seems like this is going to be the only way your going to see her.
2006-09-27 07:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by nicoleari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong for being mad. This situation is your own doing. You created this.
You made children with this woman.
You didn't marry her (did you?)
You didn't provide a stable 2-parent home for these kids.
If the woman is to "blame", then you made a poor choice for the mother of your kids and you didn't use proper birth control to prevent this.
Now you think you have the right to go crazy in the street? Sorry, but this is what happens when people have children out of wedlock, pick the wrong partner, and don't stay together. These are the consequences for your choices.
2006-09-27 14:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get visitation rights written down legally. Go to a lawyer and take her to family court if need be and make your visitations legal. Once you do that, she can never deny you your time with your daughter. If she does, you go to the police and they will make her give you your daughter or take her to jail. You went overboard with your reactions, but your feelings are in the right place. Channel you feelings toward the court system, they will help.
2006-09-27 14:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were wrong to react to that situation. You should be able to tell that you were wrong because you ended up in jail.
When your daughter is with her mother that's their time, and if it's spent playing happy family with another man, then you'll just have to accept that fact.
The issue of custody is a separate question. She should not be making excuses on your designated time to see you daughter.
Get your lawyer to establish and/or enforce a custody agreement.
2006-09-27 14:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by grandbendbeachboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a difficult situation. I happen to be in the same situation with my ex.. kinda.. I have my kids, but their father hardly ever wants to see them, but then wants to act a fool wihen he does see me with another man! Best advice.. get a lawyer.. get scheduled visits.. if she resists all you have to do is call the cops.
2006-09-27 14:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by bubbles_n_ar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it makes sense why you're so mad, but you shouldn't lose it like that in front of your daughter. as she gets older, who she WANTS to spend time with will start to matter more and more, and seeing you like that will make her withdraw from you, especially since she can't understand why you're so upset.
2006-09-27 14:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're wrong.
If you don't like the situation, get yourself a lawyer and settle it in court.
2006-09-27 14:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not for being mad but wrong for letting yourself lose control of the situation and for doing it in public.............
2006-09-27 14:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by Sexxssay? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all Dr. Love.
2006-09-27 14:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need therapy...NOW!
2006-09-27 14:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋