my daughter has been caught several times popping pills. this time she got caught doing it at school and now is exspelled and
2006-09-27 07:00:56 · 15 answers · asked by brandiwolfe30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Drug re-hab center!
2006-09-27 07:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her help to find out what is at the root of the problem. Detox is good for the physical part but unless you find out what has happened in her life to make her feel the need to numb the pain she will continue on.
It seems like she may have some self-esteem issues and confidence problems.
She may have some guilt.
She could be mourning over the loss of her virginity and ashamed to say so.
She may be ashamed and is trying to mask it with the drugs.
If she developed a bad reputation whether warranted or not it would be difficult to stay in school and constantly hear people talking about you etc...
Has she ever been molested?
Was she date raped?
Does she have abandonment issues?
Find someone she can trust and talk with.
While being expelled is a terrible thing. Think of it as an opportunity to help her get back on track without the added pressure of making grades etc...
Help her become successful and reassure her that you love her no matter what and that nothing that she has done could make you stop loving her even though you may have demonstrated your disappointment. Best Wishes to you . I hope it works out.
2006-09-27 07:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by AVA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Juvenile?! Boot Camp?! These places are filled with kids that have all types of problems... how is being around THEM going to benefit your daughter? By scaring her straight? Get real. If she were that scary she would not be constantly fooling around with drugs. Go to juvenile home and you soon figure out that it is not really so bad. Quit being fooled by the media. Boot camp and juvenile are not the solution. The figures show that these types of programs fail consistently. People like them because they sound punitive and people love to punish others and themselves.
I am hurt that so many would be so callous and unthinking. This is her daughter... yes she has problems but none too big for God.
Why is she popping pills?
Why is getting high so important that she is willing to put herself at risk?
Kids go through more than we did, just like we went through more than our parents. Life has... changed. All the seeds that were planted in the beginning will grow and bear fruit, some good and some bad.
Your daughter is not a fruit and you are not in a hopeless situation. There is hope. Yes, you can try drug rehab, drug counseling, and twelve step programs. You can talk and share with your daughter until there is nothing left and still things may only get worse. There is only one solution that has worked for me... and I have tried most other popular programs and whatnot. God can and will deliver you by the strength of your belief. I am not telling you this for any type or reward. I would not tell you this if it were not so.
Now, with that said, how do you reach her to introduce her to God? How do you get her attention? Be real with her. Love her. Be patient. Do not try to make her and your situation fit someone else's mold. Your daughter may just quit out of the blue. She may not be addicted at all. She may just be rebelling. At any rate, good healthy doses of God does everyone, and every relationship, good.
Also take her to the doctor. She may have chemical imbalances that she has found her own "solution" to. And ask her questions. Ask her how she feels when she is sober... and listen to her response... and don't tell her she is wrong (judge not). Ask her why she is hurting, and don't expect her to know the answer. Share in all of her problems with her but do not be sucked in... remain vigilant, listen for ways to help her later.
More than anything else I can suggest you do, pray and pray with her! Ask God and He will help... I have found this to be true one hundred percent of the time.
Peace and may the Hand of God be upon you.
2006-09-27 07:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jack B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have warned her the first time. If she didn't stop after that, tell her major grounding! No T.V, no phone, no friends for 2 weeeks. If she still did it after that. I'd tell her 1 month of grounding. After that there is not much you can do (unless you want to get the police involved, which most parents don't) I mean he/she is probably going to do it behind your back anyways. My mom always told me this: Dont do it in my house, Dont come home on it or with it, and if it gets to far ( to where I could be addicted or in serious danger) that she was calling an ambulance and I was going to a rehab center. HaHa. Those were always her 3 rules!!!
2006-09-27 07:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by TayNuz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A continued action means addicition regardless of the level.
This child is in need of help.
It may need to come from an outside source.
Stand by this child regardless and at any cost do not let this addiction rob you of this child any longer or the happiness of your family.
It is so easy to obtain now and so easy to be persuaded that you can beat it - if seems to get too deep.
There are many sources of help these days - just reach out and utilitze them!
Best wishes!!!
2006-09-27 07:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two Words: Boot Camp. I was a baaad teenager and my mom tried everything. Nothing worked - but I'm pretty sure boot camp would have - sometimes kids need a strong influence (other than family) to set them straight. Good luck!!
2006-09-27 07:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first talk to a teen intervention specialist(found in yellow pages). next thing get her into some type of drug treatment center for at risk- teens.Now the only thing is that it might be really expensive so i suggest talking to your insurance company to see if they cover substance abuse treatment. I'm really surprised that her school didn't recommend a program for her but i hope that this helps.
2006-09-27 07:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by diamond girl36 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put her in a rehab. Make her go to one where they keep her. I guess like baceracting her. Maybe the therapy and groups will help her come out of it. My mother did this to me as a teen and it saved my life. I really hope this helps. Good Luck
2006-09-27 07:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by trace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send her to rehab and if that doesn't work, there is military school or Juvenal school. Don't let her talk you out of it or say you are the bad one for sending her somewhere to get help. She will thank you when she realizes you saved her life and her future.
2006-09-27 07:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by brunette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how hard is to swallow a pill in secret? to get caught she pretty much has to WANT to get caught. this is a serious cry for help and attention... you need to spank her bum imediatly that will show her that she is still loved then ground her for a month
2006-09-27 07:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by scottishchristiansen 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
one word: jail. when she sees this is what happens to ppl who do drugs, she'll stop unless she likes being locked up.
2006-09-27 07:14:30 · answer #11 · answered by lady sixx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋