the first guy always tells me he loves me but is never around when i need him and he also knows how to make me happy the little time he is around. the ohter guy also says he loves me but he doesnt think he deserves me so he always keeps his distance but he is very charming and kind i like them both but who do you think is best for me please help
2006-09-27 06:32:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear GABZ!
No one is indespensable in this world. You, yourself have mentioned goods and bads of both the guys you like. Please read following carefully now and then decide: -
1. The First One: -
a. Loves you.
b. Keeps you happy when ever around.
c. Knows your desires.
d. But at the same time he reamins far.
e. Not around when ever you need him.
2. The Second One: -
a. Loves you.
b. Charming.
c. Kind to you.
d. Know that you are precious.
e. Respects you thats why keeps the distance.
f. But at the same time he thinks that he does not deserve you.
Suggestion: -
The Second One is better than the First One, as he has more charactristics. Now it is you who has to make him understand that he very well deserves you. Many other people have suggested that you should try another one. But in my openion it is not appropriate at this stage. A person can not pass his life only in experimenting ang judging the people. So you have seen both the person and its very nice that you have shared your problem with us. Now as good friend I suggest that please make your decision now for the Second One. Rest you should leave onto the fate. God is kind enough, He will definately help you in bestowing happiness for your future life. Tell this to the Second One that you are proposing him after a long thinking process, he will not let you down in future. Have confidence on God, your self and your partner. I pray for your happiness, sound, peaceful and romantic life. Best Wishes.
2006-09-27 07:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Atif Mirza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away ... NOW ... from both of them. The first guy doesn't have you high on his priority list, and the second guy has insecurity issues (I'm not worthy! I'm not worthy!) Find a guy who is content with who he is and doesn't need to be elusive. The first guy knows how to make you happy when it's convenient for him. The other one will end up making you crazy because you won't respect someone who "doesn't think he deserves" you! You WILL find someone who's right. If you're afraid of being alone, that means you NEED to be alone so you can become strong and like who you are. Then you'll find the right relationship. Trust me. I've been through it all and life is BEAUTIFUL now.
2006-09-27 06:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by Betty Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person that can answer your question is yourself. Which one do you know better? Which one makes you feel the happiest, despite their feelings about themselves? It sounds like the first guy seems the right one, because you say he always knows how to make you happy. A guy can be charming and so on, but if they don't make you feel good, what's the use? Happiness is always a gift that a guy should give you. But, as I said, the decision maker should be you.
Compare personalities and the way they treat you separately; and that's how you should base your decisions.
2006-09-27 06:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the first and develop the relationship with the second. If it doesn't work out then you will find someone else.
BECAUSE
The first is all talk, no action, at least not enough action to meet your expectations.
The second seems to have self-image questions - if not outright problems - but has qualities that you find desirable. So he is worth the effort to develop a relationship. At this point, though, nobody knows how deeply his self-image is affected, and/or why he says he loves you but keeps his distance. So perhaps you will arrive at a point where your roads diverge; you won't know unless you try it.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-27 06:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU may think i am wrong here but id move on you deserve better then that. ONE WILL probably cheat on you in fact they both probably will. YOU need some one there 4 you. YOU need some one who feels he deserves a chance at true happiness. NEITHER provide those guilde lines. I see warning signs all over the place here. YOU GO GIRL and you find the best ok.?
2006-09-27 06:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...why is the first guy hardly around?If he isn't around that much because of something besides his job then ask him to change how much he goes to do whatever it is he's doing. ... The second guy...Compliment him, tell him that he desevers alot more than what he thinks.And if you say it like that then it won't get to his head and make him think too high of himself and he'll know that you care about him.When you compliment him tell him why you think he's such a good guy.Tell him that you love him but it hurts you when he's distant the ask him if he can somehow...tone it down a bit?
2006-09-27 06:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Hanyou Lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in the same sort of situation one i've been with 3 years and the other i've been with for about 6-7 months.The way i see it you need to think about your happiness,which one do you feel comfortable with ,which one makes you happier,which one is better in bed etc,etc,etc.I always wanna be around the guy i've known for 7 months don't know why,maybe it's the thrill or wanting something new.The most important person in all this is u .think about your happiness.
2006-09-27 06:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by Caribbean Queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the one you cheated on...he's the one you can control and will eventually cheat on again and again. The other guy has you where he wants you and will always remain in control. As a matter of fact, he's got 5 other women he tells the same thing to, and they all feel the same way you do: confused and adoring!
2006-09-27 06:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 2nd guy. Talk to him and find ways to show him that he deserves you (if he really does) Good luck! and stick with just 1 guy :]
2006-09-27 06:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find that special guy there will be no choice to make, you both will know. so maybe it's not either one of these, that special guy is prob. still out there, just have to be patient. and if it's one of these, things will change. Don't make yourself readily available to either of these and see what happens.
2006-09-27 06:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by koni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋