I met a very beautiful woman that we both live far away from each other. I really like her and she likes me as well. Can this really work?? Serious answers please. (i really do like this person)
2006-09-27 06:25:56 · 36 answers · asked by Robin S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really like her and she feel the same about you, the two of you owe it to yourselves to see if it will work.... Nobody can tell you because they aren't you. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. So I say go for it give it you all and you never know you may have found the one for you... GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-27 06:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what both your expectations are and what you are willing and capable of doing. If you have an endless supply of money, there should be no problems...if she's a devout Christian or a virgin living with her mother and working as a librarian, again-no problem.
But, imagine that she's exactly like you are(being the man in this situation) and ask yourself what you are planning to do and what you can reasonably expect from yourself, given the variables you described.
How often are you going to see each other and what is going to be the basis for the relationship? Sounds to me like you two need to agree on the ground rules before you embark on this very, very difficult arrangement!
2006-09-27 06:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on sooooooooo much.
I've been in a LDR for 9 months now. It's working.
Why it works for us:
We are both in our 50s, with lots of vacation time and the money to afford to travel back and forth to one another.
He lives in the same state - but on the other side of it...but we can drive it in 6 hrs or fly to each other in 45 minutes..and flights are only about $100 round trip...so one weekend he comes to me - the next I go to him..etc. So we DO see each other every weekend. If we couldn't do that? It wouldn't work in the long run. We talk nearly every day, text msg and email, etc. He attends family events with me and I with him.
If you can see each other at least two weekends out of the month without hurting your finances...it will work. If you can't...it won't. Because ultimately if you can't be together in the real..no matter how much you like each other...what do you really have other than a romantic pen-pal, and we all want and need more than that.
Also, our children are grown and gone. So when and if we do decide to marry or move in together - one of us can move so we can be together without disrupting our children's lives. ALSO...I have a job where I can easily transfer to his neck of the woods and not lose my salary or vacation & other benefits.
All of these things it what makes it work for us.
Good luck to you both!
2006-09-27 06:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been talkin to this guy on the net for three years now. Him and i love each other very much. We intent to meet soon and then begin a long distance relationship. I believe that n-e thing can work if u want it to. You both must b very committed and very honest. Be sure to have good communication. If its meant to b ull find a way. Good Luck.
2006-09-27 07:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a while maybe.. but not for a long time.
I met my (now husband) over the internet. We lived 6 hours away.
After meeting him for the first time we couldnt stay apart. We hated the distance between us. He would come to my house at first every other weekend... then it turned into every weekend. 2 months later I moved to his hometown.
Long distance relationships will put that extra strain on one. Its very hard to keep faith, trust, and loyalty in your partner when there is so much distance between the two of you.
If you both really care and love each other (or later care and love) then it is best to talk about the move. If you are willing to move for her or she is for you then it is best to give it a shot. Giving up your home for someone else is a great test to show your love for one another. It will be stressful at first, but it smooths out later..
Trust me.. I am happily married to my husband and I am glad we took that step.
2006-09-27 06:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. It can work, but it will take an extraordinary commitment. If you really like her, the distance can be a boon in disguise because the two of you will really get to know each other without sex clouding it. If and when it gets to the point where you feel like you just can't live without her...you'll need to do some serious planning and make arrangements for one of you to re-locate.
....but, like I said....give it time.
2006-09-27 06:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by j.bertie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it can work. Here is why:
1) It depends on, first how and where you met.
2) Long distance relationship can work if you are both committed to it. Remember out of mind is out of sight
3) It can work if both of you share the same values - say believes, moral values etc
4) If you think in your spirit, you are led to pursue the relationship.
Overall, I will suggest the most reliable way out is to first seek God's face in prayer and He will reveal that to you. I hope this does not offend you (bringing God into it). That has always worked for me.
Remain blessed:)
2006-09-27 06:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by sholiviks2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but the odds of it working out aren't good. People need to spend time together in order for a relationship to grow and mature. If you can't do that, then you will have a hard time keeping it together. On the otherhand, stranger things have happened and it can work if you REALLY want it to but it will take ALOT of work and patience. Hope you have a good cell phone plan!!!!
2006-09-27 06:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by it's just me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships rarely work out. You need to close the distance for there to be a chance. I live in Canada and married a woman in Russia, but I did not hesitate when I knew she was the one.
2006-09-27 06:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they can work....i know of a couple who's husband lived in a far away state for business purposes for 10 years he has been back now for 5 years and they are still married and have 2 children together so dont let it pas you by a chance never taken is a chance lost
2006-09-27 06:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by dollyvg2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋