i am 18 and a virgin, and my girlfriend, is 20 and is not a virgin. I rarely get to see her due to long distance, but in a short 2 months, ill be moving in with her. What sort of bothers me.. i dont know why, is that she has had sex many times before me, even a one night stand once, which she said she regrettes very much. she has had a total of 5 previous partners. Is this alot of partners? i kinda feel like she cheated on me, but she DIDNT, she loves me very much, and i trust her, i just feel that way because there was some before me. What is your opinions on this? i really do hope this feeling goes away, and i can get past it, do you think i will? is it only a temporary thing because right now, i have alot of time to think about things, and i cannot be near her? Thank you for helping me everyone.
2006-09-27 06:14:19 · 13 answers · asked by sf4fun 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and by the way, i Do love her more then anything, i could not imagine life without her, it would kill me.
2006-09-27 06:16:06 · update #1
5 men is not alot, i think that you will get over this feeling and everyone goes through the jealous stage. if u werent a virgin and had sex before too im sure she would think about it every so often we all do...if i were u i woould look at it this way....she has experience! when u finally do have sex with her shes gonna break u off!! lol ur a lucky man and if u love her KEEP her dont listen to the idiots on here nothing can come between real love :) good luck
2006-09-27 06:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by â?¥CURiOUSâ?¥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay....are you ready to hear some hard, honest truth telling? Here goes.....
You haven't mentioned how long the two of you have known each other. I believe that you need to get over her past and move beyond it. Maturity helps. Her past is exactly that.....passed, gone, former years before you......get it? Stop having a hangup about it. And you feel like she cheated on you because she's had 5 partners before you even came into the scene??!! That's a bit much!! You need to gather up your b*lls and deal with it.
Having 5 partners is a lot to some people, but by her age....shoot I was way past that amount! I was looking for love in all the wrong places then!
Because you have a lot of time on your hands that's why you're letting it eat at you! Don't. You truly need to grow up, and especially if the two of you are going to live together. Maybe you're not ready for a big commitment like that. Do you think maybe you should wait? If you continue to let it eat at you, and you're mentioning it all the time to her, she's gonna get sick of trying to reassure your insecurities. It will eventually be the death of the relationship. Idle hands are the devil's workshop, so get busy doing things!!
2006-09-27 06:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by yokrem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of that is in the past, dont feel like she did this towards u, cause its either u guys didnt know each other or u guys werent together. as long as she tells u that she wants u in her life and nothing else, thats the best feeling . she's agreed to live with u, and thats the biggest step into getting to the next level of the relationship, hope it works out great for u guys.
2006-09-27 06:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by devanarestylez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty sure you will get over it. The feeling you have is jealously and that is normal to feel that way it will fade away. She is with you now and anyone else before you doesn't matter. I am not sure if that is a lot of partners or not. You should ask her to get tested though and get tested yourself if you think that will make you feel better.
2006-09-27 06:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't think this is the girl for you. And moving in together without being married isn't a respectable thing to do.
If you can't get past it, stop planning to move in together until you ARE past it.
You say it bothers you but you don't know why.. well, it bothers you because you know that sleeping with 5 different men is skanky and though you try to deny it, you know deep inside that she's kind of a skanky girl, but you're afraid of being "judgemental". But it's the truth.
2006-09-27 06:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all. all women say they regret the one night stand just to make you feel better. if they felt that bad about it they wouldn't have told you. but who really cares its her past and you cant change the past so get over it or move on.
2006-09-27 06:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are such a virgin. it doesnt matter how many she slept with. just enjoy the feelings you have for each other and go with the flow. you're wasting too much time doubting you or her. and its unfair to her too. If you are too afraid to commit then she doesnt deserve you. find a virgin girlfriend then if you can't handle it.
2006-09-27 06:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what my son's father whom i love very much with all my heart he and i went through this only difference is we we'rent virgins but i use to let his past relationships bother me but eventually i told myself that if i did'nt wanna loose him i had to put that feeling behind me and it eventually went away.
2006-09-27 06:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by Precious_Kitty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel this way you're probably not ready to move in with her yet! Talk it out with her first before you make a commitment to move in.
2006-09-27 06:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by Clare 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to ignore the past. It's you and her now and the others don't matter.
2006-09-27 06:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋