After three weeks of high school, today I felt horribly lethargic and had a killer headache. To recharge, I decided to stay home, and my parents responded with anger. As of this evening, my computer, room, and basic priveliges are being taken away - and they're going to call the school and tell them the absence is unexcused (if this happens, a couple of my teachers won't even let me make up the work).
I know I can make up all the work suffeciently, and I genuinely felt ill this morning. I needed to recharge after working pretty hard these last couple of weeks. I signed up for honors courses and everything else my parents recommended/ How can I get them to revoke these punishments?
Part of this is due to the fact that I was absent a lot last year (combination of getting sick frequently + missing work), but I didn't think one day off would set them off so much. I tried talking to them but they are seething, and won;t listen. Any help?
2006-09-27 06:03:53 · 9 answers · asked by random 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i was half asleep when i did ask. starting yelling/threatening.
2006-09-27 06:12:58 · update #1
All that stress, no wonder you have a headache. Unfortunately you lost trust and you have to work to get it back, next time maybe call them and ask if you can stay home, or go to school go directly to nurse and say you thought you would feel better but you keep feeling worse. For now, they must have your best interest in mind, but are so freaked out about anything that even suggests that you may fall into last years pattern . They probably planned to go hard on you to make sure in the future you are truly sick. I would DEFIANTLY talk to the school guidance counselor and give him a heads up about all the pressure that way he can be a great Alli (alliance), and a buffer between you school parents, let him/her get to know you in case something else happens.
2006-09-27 06:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....everything depends on your performance. You say you're in honors classes - do you get A's and B's or do you get B's and C's? If you get A's and B's then remind them that you are doing well and that you are able to handle taking a day off without jeopardizing your grades - AND that you don't intend to do this every week - but occasionally the stress of school is such that taking a day off VERY infrequently should be ok especially if your grades are good.
On the other hand, there are times when I'm not feeling too good (lethargic, actually sicker than a dog) but I have to suck it up and drag my tail into work - I have a feeling your parents, in their own way, are preparing you for the real world.
Good luck!
2006-09-27 13:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I question why you felt this was your call. Didn't you feel this was something to discuss with yoru parents before you decided to cut class? I have a sd in honors class in high school, I cannot imagine her just "taking a day off".
Here is what I think your parents were thinking:
1. What is she going to do when she gets a job -- take a "break" after 3 weeks of hard work. Your parents want you to see the relationship between school and your future. You can't just take off when you feel tired, overloaded, etc. Take some aspirin and go to school.
2. Secondly, how would this have gone if you talked to your parents first? For example, mom, dad, I have a killer headache, all this stress from my honors courses, and I am feeling super tired, and have a major headache. How would you feel about me going back to bed and heading into school around 10:30 or so?
Do you think your parents would have reacted differently in regards to the punishments?
COMMUNICATION is hard for teens in regards to their parents, because you think they won't understand. But they will mroe than you think. My parents let me sleep in some when I was in high school, but my mom and I were close and I was able to convey to her my needs. Try talking to your parents about how you feel.
If you were working and after 3 weeks you took off a day you would probably be out a job, a paycheck, your benefits, etc. I guess by taking stuff away they just want you to see that.
Sorry it happened, but I would just try to talk to them more, and make it a little longer before trying to take a mental health day -- like 3 months!
2006-09-27 13:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have lost their trust because of bad behavior in the past. You need to quit whinning. Take you medicine. When they cool off appologize and tell them it won't happen again. Next time you have a headache, take an asprin buck it up and go to school. Unless its bleeding, hanging off or broken don't be such a wuss.
2006-09-27 13:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by Bobi Ann D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them time to cool down and then talk to them. Be honest. They are just scared that what happen last year will happen again. Ask them why they are being so hard on you. The only think you can do is talk to them and see what they say.
2006-09-27 13:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by dr's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your parents are trying to teach you to be responsible and I applaud them. Responsible adults sometimes have to take an aspirin and go to work even when they have a "killer headache". And recharging is what weekends are for.
2006-09-27 13:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately theres not much you can do at your age about rebelling against your parents unless you were like me and go do drugs and get pregnant and move out.. LOL no but just look foward to moving out someday and sorry your parents are so un cool.
2006-09-27 13:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to establish a new and better attendance record and then things should ease up.
2006-09-27 13:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are suppose to be in school. You are developing bad traits for future employers.
2006-09-27 13:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋