wedding is on sunday 10/08/2006 any helpfful hints to help to get thru this nightmare. I sent out 100 rsvp's and have only gotton 1 back what if no one shows up? OMG HELP ME !!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-27 06:03:20 · 27 answers · asked by Waynes Angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
rsvp's said to return by 09/22/06
2006-09-27 06:28:38 · update #1
Honey don't worry I did 200 Hondert and only 6 got there . I cry so much and here is what my MOM told me . Who those not come those not have to leave and you only wanted the ones there that are happy for you . You have the men of your heart and he gave you his and the only thing that counts is that you and him will be there . You and him have a fresh start of a life there will be hard day and sweet days . And it will be OK . And you know what after 16 years it is OK I was still sad that week but after that day when he was myn and only myn we both were the Happy's people on earth and it did not matter anymore who was there or not .
2006-09-27 06:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by gabrielenebroski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wayne"s Angel, I am so sorry people are so rude and inconsiderate. I just went through this at the end of May for my daugthter's wedding. We sent out over 200 invites, and I got maybe 50 rsvp cards back. I would get everyone you could find to call the rude guests and see what is going on. Some people just assume you know they are coming, and so they don't send them back. Others are the opposite, "you knew I wasn't coming"
So, please I know you don't have the time to do these, but I would hate to see you prepare for a great many people, then have to throw away food. I know I did this, I was so upset, till I just got a large garage can(the reception was 5 hours away from home) and started dumping by the galloons. I was sick, I do not like to waste food, but there was no way I could bring it home, and I didn't have any place to keep it or knew anyone to give it too, so in the garabage it went.
So, please give everyone a call, so you can prepare for the right number. I think it's a good idea, because some of the people who did rsvp cards back saying they were coming, had change of plans, and they didn't show up...so there was another cost.
I am sorry to sound bitter, but I mean I threw a lot of stuff away. I had 130 people coming, that said and sent their cards in, so I prepared and order food for 150 guests. So, I think 50 showed up. I wanted to fix everyone a plate, and lay it out in the sun for a couple of weeks then deliver it to them. That's not nice, but I spent a lot of money on this wedding, especially the food.....it's one thing for an emergency but when you just decided not to come, pick up the damn phone and say so.
Please get on the phone, save yourself some money and more the worry....I am so sorry that you having to deal with this a week or so before the big day. You don't need it, and certainly don't deserve it....Have the most wonderful wedding possible, and I hope things get better quickly for you and your future husband.
God bless us all..............
2006-09-27 07:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! This is dejavu! I was married May 6th. Our invites went out 8 weeks before with an RSVP of April 19th. Half the people that RSVP'ed wrote themselves down plus more people in the family. It was so annoying! If I write "John & Mary Smith" on the invite, that does not mean "John & Mary Smith, plus four screaming kids"!!! On the flipside, I had people RSVP that didn't come. People that didn't RSVP, but did come.
The worst was when people I saw every week asked if they really had to mail the card back. Uh YEAH!!! I didn't put that stamp on for my health!! People can be so inconsiderate! When you think of a 39 cent stamp to return the card & the 67 cent stamp to mail the bulky invite & RSVP card, times 125 for me, that's ALOT of money!
Seeing as you only have one RSVP, I agree with the others and you should have bridesmaids, friends, and mom call these people. It's extremly inconsiderate of guests not to respond. What's worse, if the rest of these people show up, they'll complain if you don't have enough food because you told the caterer not to make as much. On the other side, if you proceed with original numbers for the caterer and not everyone shows, you're stuck with a bill for food no one ate. What a waste.
Luckily, we had a good idea of how many were coming and only had some of the cold salads left over. I sent them home with a friend that helped clean up. However, if yours is a sit down meal that's even more of a waste!
Off the food topic, I was married in a park and had ordered chairs for people to sit in. If you're doing something similar, either for the reception or the wedding itself, you need an idea of how many to order.
Also, depending on your reception, they need to know how many tables to set up. That stuff takes time! Not to mention your site may have to bring in more tables or chairs if you gave them one number before and now it's another number. Like if you were hopeful and said 75, but not that it's a week away and they may have to get more if more people say they are coming (if you call them that is).
Just pickup the phone (rather have family & friends do it) and start dialing honey! If nothing else, get ready for a beautiful wedding. It's your day and you shouldn't worry about other people being irresponsible.
2006-09-27 07:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People WILL show up. Trust me. It's really frustrating when people don't have the courtesy to RSVP when you ask them to. That used to be a standard practice, but I'm not sure if people really know what it means anymore. I'm hosting a baby shower 10/7.....I sent out 20 invitations to family members and close friends....only FOUR have responded.
It's really rude NOT to respond to RSVPs because people are counting on that to get an accurate headcount. You have to plan food and stuff for those people and it would really be nice to know how much to get, wouldn't it!
I wouldn't be above polite questioning telephone calls. Say something like "I was just concerned you didn't get your invitation". I know that's a lot of phone calls to have to make, but maybe you could enlist some assistance. If you've got to know, you've GOT TO KNOW!
2006-09-27 06:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people don't respond to RSVP's. I know it is rude when you are trying to plan an event. I would call. Just call and say we are just calling to verify whether or not you were coming to the wedding. That's all you have to say. Then you know for sure. I did this and they were so happy that I called most of them forgot or would say yes, oh was there an RSVP card, I must not have seen it in there. Don't get stressed just fix it!!!!!
2006-09-27 06:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness! Like you don't have enough stress. I would get everyone to help you call so you have an idea of how many guests to expect.
Just a thought, maybe the RSVP envelopes were not stamped in the right amount and got returned to the senders. It's strange that only one was returned to youl. I can't believe that that many people would be so rude.
2006-09-27 06:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by hopebaymama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could painstakingly go through your invite list and double check with each guest. you can let them know you need it so you know how much to tell the caterer. Also you have to keep in mind- some people have no sense of etiquette rules and wont send you back a response- they will just show up. And as rude as that may sound- some people just dont grasp the concept of planning in advance.
I know most caterers require you to give final head count the week prior, so you may want to give them an amount closer to what you originally invited. Some caterers will even go so far as knowing the day or two before (rare), since they start to prepare the next day.
Dont worry about the rude people... if they show up and there isnt enough for them, it would be their own fault. you cant plan for people you dont know are coming.
2006-09-27 06:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you absolutely sure you had the correct return address printed on them? Getting just 1 rsvp out of 100 does sound a bit odd.I don't think you should worry everyone that matters would not miss it for the world.
2006-09-27 06:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by queenmackerel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to do RSVPs is to have people RSVP if they ARENT coming. That way you dont have that problem. I think that you should probably get a hold of the people and see whats going on. Do they live in your area if so go to Target and buy invations and tell them to RSVP by the 5th if they arent coming.
2006-09-27 06:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-27 13:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋