Here is the skinny. My Ex broke up with me because i was trying to keep a friendship with the ex before her behind her back. She is also pregnant with our child and i want to be there for the both of them. I told her that i am sorry for what i have done. I have begged, pleeded and even cried for her, but she still doesn't want to be with me. its been about 3 months now and i am just now starting to let go, and i met a new friend. this friend has helped me get out of this depression that i have been in and i like that about her. I think i am starting to develop feelings for the friend. Now my ex is acting all nice and possibilities have seem to open up with me and my ex. I still love my ex alot, but i am afraid of asking her to work things out because i am afraid of the rejection.
2006-09-27 05:59:49 · 20 answers · asked by drew46759 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The new friend knows about everything. She is aware that i still have feelings for my ex, but she also aware that i have feelings for her. She told me that she has feelings for me also. My biggest fear seems to be coming true. The fear is that as soon as i get over my ex that i have been crying and begging to this last 3 months, my ex would come around and maybe want to work things out. it seems like i am in a situation or gonna be in a situation where i would have to chose between the two. I love my ex alot, but i have developed strong feelings for my new friend. the reason i have strong feelings for my new friend is because she has an understanding of my situation and she is still there despite how i feel about my ex and the fact that i want to be there for my child with my ex involved. I really like that about her. I don't know what to do! I need answers
2006-09-27 06:04:11 · update #1
Dig a hole in the sand and stick your head in it. The answer lies there.
2006-09-27 06:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriff Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for any woman to handle the fact that their boyfriend is seeing their ex, especially when you do it behind their back- it makes them think you have something to hide. Maybe your ex girlfriend is playing hard to get and now that you have found a new friend she is getting jealous, and wants you back. I think that you should get back together but for the right reasons, not just because there is a child involved. You have to think this through and ask yourself the questions: do we still love each other? Are we getting back together for the sake of the child? If we have an argument will she throw the past in my face?
You have also found someone that was there for you in your time of need, and someone you are starting to have feelings for. I think you should give that relationship a go. If you do give the new relationship a go, remember you can still be there for your child and offer support to your ex as well, but until your sure about your ex's feelings, just keep it at friendship level.
I hope everything goes well for you!
2006-09-27 13:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you don't want to hear my preaching, buy dude, you sure have a lot of drama in your life because you can't control your feelings of the other sex. The shame is that in all this drama, you're going to have a kid that will most likely pay for your immaturity. It may also cost in in $$$$$.
I suggest that you decide if a kid is important enough re-start a relationship with the lady who is carrying your child. If you think you can make a go of it, I suggest you try. If you don't think you're wanting to get back with her, then move on.
If you do move on, try at least to wear a condom the next time. You can give us all your drama here and all your woes, but bottom line, when I think of irresponsible men in today's society in the future, I will think of you. You're so focused on your self importance that you don't care about anybody around you.
I honestly mean it when I tell you that you have my pity. You are one selfish dude.
TX Guy
2006-09-27 13:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your ex that you really miss her, and would like to maintain a "friendship" with her. See how she likes them apples, since you begged, pleaded and cajoled right up until you met someone else; and now that she's ***-out, she wants to pull your chain and get you right back into the same spot you were before you met the new lady!
Whatever you decide, stay on the attack, do NOT get roped into taking low again. Just remember what it felt like to be pulled in 5 different directions at once with no control over where her emotions were taking you, and you'll be fine.
2006-09-27 13:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, relationships can be hard... But now there is a baby involved...If she wasn't pregnant I would say maybe you should move on, but for the sake of the child maybe you should give it one more try...And if it doesn't work out then I would suggest moving on. I have been in your situation before and have two children...I ended up being able to work things out with the baby daddy..
2006-09-27 13:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Babydoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should bring anything up to your ex.. I understand your pain and her's, I mean come on you were frinends with your ex? That is so wrong. I'm sure when your ex (the pregnant chick) see's you with another woman she will be begging you to take her back..
2006-09-27 13:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your ex and tell her that you love her but she pushed you away and gave you no choice but to make new friends. Tell her that you want to make things work with her but she needs to stop with the jelousy and allow you to have your friends too. shes probably feeling very insecure being pregnant so you need to reassure her that you are faithful to her and would not cheat on her with these other girls.
2006-09-27 13:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she lets you go to the ex if she is pregnant with your child and you want to be the the childs life
2006-09-27 13:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...let's see....she is pregnant, which means her hormones are all screwed up.... i would tell her that you would like to go slow this time...go out on a few "dates" and let her lead the conversations.... see where she takes them.... feed off of her... that way, you can keep a distance to advoid getting hurt, while seeing what she really wants...you, or preventing you with someone else
2006-09-27 13:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by Will 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should get back with ur ex coz also she also is carrying ur baby rite. also she is trying to get back with u, so talk to her n see how things turn out. better dont start any other relationship with any other person coz tht may annoy her.good luck.
2006-09-27 13:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by naturelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u don't try u will never no.One thing u have to be sure is your feelings for your ex.If u don't try u will always think "if i had risked to talk to her perhaps we could be together". so try is she say no go on with your life u will meet someone that really love u.
Hope this helps
2006-09-27 13:06:01 · answer #11 · answered by pimpinela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋