I know that most of the time why he acts like this is to get my attention, because I work so much. For 2 years I did not work, and I was home with him all the time. He did not act this way. Now not only does he demand what he wants, but if he doesent get it he will find a way to do if for himself. For instance just this morning he wanted to watch a video, so I popped it in and started to get myself ready, then he wants a different video, I tell him no thats the one you asked for. Next thing you know I come out of my bedroom and he has pulled a chair away from the table and grabbed the movie he wanted and put it in. I told him no then he starts the screaming so I ignore him going to my room. Then he starts banging his head on the wall screaming so I come out to stop him, and try talking to him calmly mommy has to go to work, and you have to go to school. He screams noo!!!! I am in the process of working just one job, but until then I feel like my life is chaos, because of his behavior.
2006-09-27 05:56:49 · 6 answers · asked by fryedaddy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You decide what behaviors your child is allowed to express. You curb those poor behaviors by punishment, explaination, and teaching him the correct behaviors to use to express himself.
You need to pick a form of punishment. Be it time out or a swat on the butt, and stick with it.
If he wants to fight you about video, he can just not watch any. if he wants to have a fit over it, he can go on time out. Enough said. Everything else is just a deterant to some how gain him the upper hand again.
Your mom, and being the parent means guiding him in every aspect of his life. Its not easy.
ITS NOT EASY. Being a good parent IS a full time job, working while parenting is extremely difficult, but its not an excuse for him to misbehave, and its not a reason for you to slack off in parenting.
Toughen up, and be mom. Its not "i cant find anything that works" or "what will make this stop?" what words, and what always works is discipline and CONSISTANCY.
If one two three ends in a swat on the hiney, it ends with a swat in the hiney EVERY TIME. If you are consistant you can bet that by one, two, your son is finding a way to control himself.
You need to also teach your child to communicate and not whine or cry, or throw a fit to express himself. And also realize when he's tired and his mind and body are in need of rest, in those moments he is not emotionally able to control himself and needs sleep.
It is hard work, but you can do it. You're a fine mom :)
2006-09-27 06:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-01 10:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for both of you two, it must be very difficult to try and deal with all this. I raised my son years ago and things were much different then. You could spank, (not that it was the best thing to do as much as it was what you thought was best).
I suppose I would accept the fact that he is trying to get some attention, regardless of it being negative attention it is attention in his mind. I would as quickly as possible be at one job, and try talking to him about the upcoming changes. You don't say how old he is but I am guessing over 3 yrs old. Love him and if at all possible maybe you can get your mom or sister to have him over during his non-school hours. Being w/someone he knows and loves might curb his upset behavior. Best of luck.
2006-09-27 06:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the deeper issue here is that you are feeling guilty for working so much. Your son is picking up on that, and is manipulating you to get what he wants. You really just need to be firm, and don't allow him to believe that choices exist where they really don't. For instance, you can have orange juice in this cup, or no juice at all...no other cups are available to him. You can watch this movie, or you can watch no movie at all.. There is a choice that he can really make. It gives him power, without taking away yours.
2006-09-27 06:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to put your foot down with him. if he wants to scream, fine, put him in his room. or better yet, make him sit on the floor in the bathroom while you get ready. that way, he can't play with anything or get into trouble. if he's misbehaved, he needs some form of punishment. keep your head up, and be strong and firm. once he realizes that there are concrete consequences for his actions, he will stop.
2006-09-27 06:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOOK UP ADHD!!!
Don't medicate him, there are several tips on how you as a perent can reason with a child like this. I know because I have one.
2006-09-27 06:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Huge. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋