I've been described as 'the nice guy friend' by a girl friend of mine and she said maybe thats why I have such a hard time meeting girls, why is it that girls never seem to pay attention to the nice guy. I could definitly use a 'hello' or two on any given day but it seems when I go out with friends that are complete asses to women and everyone else they seem to go home with new girl every time...whereas I just go home
what the hell
2006-09-27 05:56:37 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we don't want to marry the "bad" guys...we just want to mess with them. the good guy gets the wife.
2006-09-27 05:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by notyours 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have been told that I've been lucky to be seeing a couple of nice guys over the last few months and not "asses", but I wonder why the nice guys I know are scared to commit to anything more serious than something casual. I think girls that go home with the asses don't expect too much in terms of a relationship, or they think they can change them into a nice guy. Being a nice guy, you have a lot of expectations put on you. Are you ready for that?
2006-09-27 06:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by searaydreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you going out with guys who are complete asses? And exactly what kind of girls ar they getting every night? That is the real question!!!
Maybe you should find a interest that will connect you to other girls that are looking for nice guys not assholes!!
Sounds like you are "looking for love in all the wrong places"!!
Good luck!
2006-09-27 06:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really to be honest with you. if you like hot girls, they usually go for that type of guy (i know, i liked those guys) i dont know why but ive always ditched the nice boys and got wrapped up in drama with the bad ones. But you know what? I married the nice one in the end and i love him. It took me a long time to accept he was not a bad boy and to realize that i dont need drama to keep things interesting and hurt to feel right. I didnt understand y he wasnt dramatic or got into trouble or did drugs or drank all the time and got into fights. I also never understood y i never got an intense reacton out of him. All of it was immaturity on my oart. i am so happy and he so hot. We make a cute couple and i finally am complete. And when i start to act that way he looks at me, smiles and says,"Stop the drama, mama!" And just smiles. in the end, it will all work out. youll find a nice girl who treats you the same.
2006-09-27 06:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, my friend- I was stuck in the "friend zone" through most of my mid to late 20s. Women like the bad boys & a little danger, unfortunately. They can whine all they want about never meeting the "right" guy, because in the end they're attracted to the rebel, the guy who makes them feel out on the edge. All you can do is soldier on, be yourself, and try to look on the bright side: you have a lot of women friends, which is more than the "bad boys" can say. It's cold comfort, I know, but trying to attract women by acting like a **** isn't you- besides, would you actually want a woman who's attracted to someone who'll treat her like crap? Be yourself, be honest, and eventually you'll meet someone.
2006-09-27 06:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Rob C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel for you, bro. I used to be in your shoes sometime back. It wasn't until after I developed a "don't care" attitude and started acting like a jerk that women found me attractive. It is screwed up, but that's the way it goes.
Tell you what, keep an eye on your friends who act like asses towards women. Pick up some pointers from them. Since they're your buddies, they're likely to help you out.
2006-09-27 06:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say nice guys, are you the quiet type or the very gentle type?? Your friends might be "asses" to women but I am sure they know how to do the talking making the women laugh. Sometimes women who go out are wild, so they your guys make them happy, they get them, you just have to know how to communicate, I suppose.....
2006-09-27 05:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the long run, I believe they can win.
But honestly, just be true to yourself. It may be hard at times, and you will wonder why women tend to be attracted to jerks. However, for a real, loving, truly wonderful relationship it takes time and a respect that will only come if you remain true to yourself.
I know it sounds all cliche and all, and if someone told me this 5 years ago I would have laughed at them.
But it can happen.
Stick to your guns, eventually a woman will come along who appreciates honesty and respect.
2006-09-27 06:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by artisticallyderanged 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be a nice guy, but not before you assert yourself as a man that is accustomed to getting things done...and usually, his own way. Then, when you ARE nice, it's perceived as a bonus, not you being Sucker Bill!
The meek shall inherit the Earth, but not until the strong are done with it!!!
2006-09-27 06:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they do. I married a nice guy. He is by all accounts a computer geek and very nice. Always the friend, never the boyfriend until he met me. There are women out there who want guys like you. Trust me.
2006-09-27 06:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys finish last, seems like girls say they want a guy to treat them well then they fall for some jerk who treats them like crap,,
nice guys can be hung like horses too,Woman dont understand that
2006-09-27 06:09:08 · answer #11 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋