When I am doing the deed with my guy, I think of him being with someone else to get me off. Whats wrong with me I would be so upset if he really was. Am I a weirdo??
2006-09-27 05:48:50 · 23 answers · asked by HappyMama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is very, very common. Kudos to you for acknowledging this and addressing what it means.
Women in particular like to think of their men as desirable. If other women show interest in your man, all the way to the point of lusting after him, that in sense is a commendation to you for being the woman who gets to have this great man that other women desire. Taking it further, it can symbolize that he has his choice of many, many women, and chooses you, which makes you great.
As long as you are 100% confident that your man is yours and does not have a wandering eye or a big ego, I suggest sharing your fantasy with him and letting him participate with you. You can both role play that you are another woman and he can "have her" within the confines of your relationship. Chances are that you will both really enjoy it!!!
2006-09-27 05:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tulsa Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems a lot more people are coming out with questions like these. No, my ex never had any problems getting off.......but as far as turn ons go, she was extremely turned on by the thought of me with someone else, yet she couldn't imagine it to be real if I ever cheated on her.....would devastate her. No idea what to tell ya on that, everyone has their own strictly-mental/sexual fantasies. Hehe.
2006-09-27 12:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever it takes baby! You are using fear, sort of like the fear of being caught by someone, as a stimulus to getting a bigger rush, which makes you orgasm quicker and all the harder. It is not "normal" that a person would use a rival, but it is "normal" that you might use fear; many people feel it to be a rush.
2006-09-27 12:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh don't worry its normal!!! Every girl does it at some point without realising..and maybe he is thinking of someone else? You will never know.... Just relax and keep doing what your doing cos it is normal! As every person is different. (If it gives you better pleasure then don't complain!!!)
2006-09-27 12:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by babybitch69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasy is fun
Fantasy is normal
If that is what it takes to get you off then great!!! use it!!!
If its the ONLY thing you can do to get off then its a fetish
If it starts to create a problem between you and him then its a problem.
Weird? nope.
It is a good thing that you already realize that this fantasy should stay that way though..
2006-09-27 12:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not weird, in fact a large percentage of both men and women fantasize about others during lovemaking.
2006-09-27 12:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are. But if that's the only thing you can think of when getting off, then maybe something is wrong.
2006-09-27 12:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by bigfree_2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal to me.
2006-09-27 12:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My phone number is 555-6969 and it is all about you my dear....now dial the digits and pretend whatever your heart desires since it's noon and I'm looking for a nooner here!!!!
2006-09-27 12:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by Paul M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your noy it can happen to anyone thats the whole point of thinking about him being with someone else
2006-09-27 12:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by nclgivens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋