2006-09-27 05:42:12 · 29 answers · asked by richard b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would look as if you are dwelling on this (all the previous questions) you must try to move on. go out with friends don't sit and mope, if you think your off on a down patch call friends look for some new hobby, you will need to cheer up to find some one new. No one wants a misery.
Smile........it will take a little time but use it as a turning point to better things rather than an end.
2006-09-27 05:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by angelcake 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you had an idea in your head of what your life with her would be. Now, it is no longer a possibility. That is painful and difficult to get over.
You really need to try to move on. Stop devoting so much of your time to thinking about her. Go out, find a hobby, meet new people.
For whatever reasons, it wasn't meant to be between you and her. Either that, or it wasn't the right time.
You have two choices right now. You can continue to feel sorry for yourself and think about what could have been, or you can 'get back on the horse' and enjoy your life. You will meet someone else (even though you don't want to right now), and you may even discover that love can be even better than you thought it was with Sarah!
Time to move on to the next chapter in your life......Best of Luck!!!!
2006-09-27 06:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no set time frame in which to get over someone, for some people it is easy to move on immediately to a new partner as if the relationship never happened. for others it is harder, and the healing process takes a long time. i know this from experience, i have had break ups which were kind of expected or the right thing to do, and whilst i sometimes missed the better parts of the relationship, the break ups didnt really hurt. My worst break up was with a guy who i really loved, we had a really intense relationship and the break up was really tough, i took a long time to stop hurting and feel ready to move on.
it sounds like a cliche but i hope u have good friends around you-they really make the world of difference. i also seemed to walk lots just to tire myself out and clear my head. i know its hard, but if the relationship really is over then its best to try to dwell on the past and think too much (easier said than done i know!)
good luck
i hope you feel better soon
and dont rush yourself...you'll just know one day that its all over and you are ok.
2006-09-27 05:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by jellybelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, that feeling will go. I dated a fella for 4 yrs and when we split, i was devistated. I eventually married but although i loved my husband(or thort I did) I wasnt 'in love' with him and if my ex had turned up on the doorstep I would have gone. He unfortunately died at an early age which made the heartache for me worse. I still couldnt talk or think about him without hurting. A coupe of yrs later my husband and i split and divorced and then I met my present husband and I have never looked back. I can talk about my first love now with no tears. I carried that initial hurt for over 20yrs..
There will be someone out there that will ease and eventually end the hurt you're feeling at the moment, you have yet to find her.
2006-09-27 06:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by Snuffy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
June ? lol (sorry, I didn't mean to laugh considering your situation). Your June is my 1997. I don't think that you'll really get completely over it until you find someone else that you think is as great or better than your last heartthrob g/f. Love is the best, & the worst thing going on out there. I wish you luck. Good start might be to power down the ol computer & head outside.
2006-09-27 05:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heyz.. i'm gonna be straightforward and say that it's gonna take a long time to get over someone, especially if u really care for that person. It took me a year plus to get over a guy who dumped me. What you can do is, try to do things that'll occupy most of your time so as not to have the chance to think about her. Indulge yourself in work, hang out more with ur frenz and do things that you didn't have the chance to do before.
And before you know it, she'll just be a fragment in ur memory. So, good luck eh.. . =)
2006-09-27 05:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by aiLy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing a beloved one is like a body injury,it takes time to heal,i feel for you buddy,but let me tell you a fact,you will laugh at your today's feeling when you get over with,if there is any chance of her getting back to you is leaving her alone,as much as you get involve in this you are just hurting yourself and running her more away,be cool,i know it's difficult,but there is no other way....sorry!and as long as you keep digging it the pain doesn't stop..again like body injury!!
2006-09-27 05:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same boat if it helps, takes time to get used to being alone again, i've took the positives from it and tried to concentrate on those instead of what i lost...i see my friends more, family more, have more time for sports etc there are always times i feel like 'damn i wish she was here' but if she comes back, she comes back, till then, i'll try and enjoy myself...she's more likely to come back to a happy fun loving guy than some depressed guy =) good luck bro
2006-09-27 05:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by BBaller25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its quite natural to feel hurt, as you thought about her so much. Tryed and learn from this and look for a female that really loves you
2006-09-27 05:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone heals or gets over things at their own rate, just give yourself a break and take the time you need to get over her, you will get over her even if it doesn't feel like it right now. Best Wishes!!
2006-09-27 05:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋