I'M I HURTING MY BABY BY NOT LETTING HIM SEE HIS DAD AT THE AGE BECAUSE RIGHT NOW HE CAN CARE LESS ABOUT WHO HIS DADDY IS HIS 2 YEARS OLD. NOW WHEN HE TURN THE AGE OF 7-12 IT'S A DIFFERENCE.
2006-09-27 05:34:36 · 28 answers · asked by BABY25 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Your son should be allowed to have a relationship with his daddy. You are incorrect in thinking it makes no difference. If he doesn't build the relationship now, it will make no difference when he's 7-12 because he'll think his daddy didn't care before that.
My daughter has a 2 yo daughter. My daughter is currently in a nursing home and may be there for the rest of her life because of a brain injury. I bring her daughter to visit and believe me they know each other. There are people who believe I should let the granddaughter "forget" about her mother. I'm not one of them because I see the bond with my own eyes.
2006-09-27 05:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by hawkthree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first priority should be if the dad is visiting his son, not the other way around. It's the dad's responsibility to maintain the relationship, not yours or a 2 year olds. A 2 year old should not be turned over to someone he doesn't even know, no matter what the relationship. If he doesn't know his dad, it's not the baby's fault, it's the dad's and he should work on that relationship before putting the baby in a scary situation with basically a stranger. Besides, he'll think you have abandoned him because he's all you know, and it's your responsibility to make him feel secure. I wouldn't even let my kids go to daycare or a babysitter they didn't know. I hope by the time your baby is 7-12, the dad will make more of an effort so they do know who he is. Make this the dad's responsibility.
2006-09-27 05:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go if you think he'll be taken care of and will be safe. I know of too many little boys who don't have their biological father in their lives and no matter what their dad is like they still ache from not having them there. My son's "father" totally abandoned him at 5 and now he's 10 and having major issues b/c of it. Do whatever you can to keep them in some form of communication. And believe me at 2 they do miss that other parent. My daughter is 2 and while she was an infant her dad was in Iraq and she was always melancholy. When he got home she was her totally happy self again. They DO know a difference. Just make sure your son is safe and try to let go the fact that he didn't help out for 8 months. It could make a world of difference in your son's life. Good luck !
2006-09-27 05:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The child should know his biological father. I would take my 8 month old baby to his dad not just send him alone. And the issue of money and visitation is something you two need to work out. That's adult issue and should in no way hinder you child from knowing his dad...if the father is open to the relationship.
2006-09-27 08:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lizard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shold go wth him.. arrange to have supervised visited for a few days... or have the dad come to you to do the same.. do this a few times. This is just to get the two used to each other, not a means to monitor.. Then once the baby has built a recognition foundationwith his dad then the alone and overnight visit can begin.
2006-09-27 05:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go with the baby though so you feel safe. You need to act like a adult and handel difficult situations. If his dad drinks excessivly or does drugs do not take him. Otherwise, if he is a ok guy and you know your son will be safe, let him go. A boy's self esteem is directly influenced by his relationship with his father. It is improtant they are involved. Further, imagine how it would hurt you not to see your baby. Don't be spiteful, who cares if you hate him, if he is good to the baby and is safe for him you need to be the adult and work out a reasonable schedule for both of you. My parents hated eachother and it created all kinds of self esteem and anger issues for myself and my sister and brother. If you need help, see a counsler who can help you get clarity.
2006-09-27 05:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by Carlotta S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you will get alot of negative opinions to your question........that I will guarantee.... but I am a mother of 14 year old twins. My twins dad was never around when they were babies....he chose to work out of town and was never involved with them. He left by their 4th birthday and we had no contact for 2 1/2 yrs until my lawyer found him in another state....... I was court ordered to start visitation with him after he was forced to pay child support. I was a wreck! My kids hadn't seen him for over 2 years and he never spent any time with them before that......I thought it was cruel and slefish....he only wanted to take them to get back at me for forcing the child support issue. Now they are 14 and he has missed more visitations than he has made.....It's almost Oct nd he hasn't seen them since March....... you can not force a relationship with your child's dad.if he wants to see him so bad tell him to get his lazy *** to see your son. Your son should not have to go to him.
2006-09-27 05:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you can legally prevent it...I wouldn't. I am in a similar situation, but my kids are older and their dad sees them an average of once every year and a half--that's terrible! I don't know why it's so easy for some men to forget they have a child! He's 2 years old, and he needs the comfort of being with you. I just think that's too young for the little guy to be with his "Dad", who he doesn't really know.
2006-09-27 05:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont imagine you should. I had my youngster meet her dad even as she changed into 2 and she or he forgot even as she changed into 3 and couldnt care a lot less after that, he changed into only a guy and it changed into stupid to objective to make a courting. If he needs to work out his youngster enable him visit you, or like you said merely wait. a 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous being in an area the position they dont comprehend absolutely everyone isnt a healthful theory.
2016-12-02 04:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are TAKING him to texas and staying there with him. Otherwise, make the father come to you if he wants to spend time with the child. You never know what could happen, especially if the father hasnt seen him in 8 months.
2006-09-27 05:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋