Me and my fiancee have been together for two years, but i have a huge crush on his best friend. I have told my fiancee and we have fought about it and we are now taking time apart. Should i leave him for his best friend or stay with him?? they are both hott!! HELP please!
2006-09-27 05:32:22 · 41 answers · asked by pitbull luver 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't deserve either. You destroyed what you had. If it were me you'd be staying on that curb I found you on.
2006-09-27 05:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said you are engaged and have a crush on someone else and had the nerve to tell your fiancee and now you want our help as to whether to leave your fiancee.
You already left him for his best friend when you started cheating emotionally and when you told him about your crush. To further explain how over your relationship is - you guys are taking time apart. How can that help. Haven't you heard that absence does not always make the heart grow fonder.
2006-09-27 05:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by solgiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet that if you leave your fiance to be with his best friend, you will regret it in the long run. Once the initial flame has died down, you will start realizing what you had with the fiance and that you have ruined any chances of having that again. Just think about what it is that made you choose him (your fiance) in the first place. If you're in it for the wrong reason, then get out. If you're just having some fantasies about someone else, then start focusing on your current relationship.
2006-09-27 05:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a huge mistake. It's pretty safe to say that you have totally crushed the feelings of a man willing to make you his wife, for a guy who isn't. Not to mention the resentment that he may feel toward his friend now because of this whole thing. You screwed up, because there could be things about his best friend that you just can't live with, like starting with the fact that you used to be engaged to his best friend. Walk away from them both and move on. You should have thought about your relationship with less lust in your heart before making this decision.
2006-09-27 05:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by TiaLee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hot has nothing to do with it. What you're feeling for your boyfriends friend is not love, it's lust. Lust never lasts. True love is a commitment and a choice. When you've been married to someone for 10 years and you go through a rough time but make the choice to stick it out because you're commited. That's real love. That is also what will bring you closer to them. There will be many times over our lives where we are attracted to people, it's just lust. The grass always looks greener on the other side, but never is. Love is not a feeling, but a choice and commitment.
2006-09-27 05:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're attacted to someone else, you may not be ready to get married...There are more reasons to be with someone besides them being hot, and now that you've told your fiancee that you like his best friend, he's going to have a very hard time trusting you again. Does the best friend like you back? How does it make you feel to think about not being with you fiance ever again? (he's going to resent you) If you're ok with that then you have no business being engaged to begin with...
And now I see from your profile that there's a kid in the picture...Um you really need to think about priorities and growing up. Good luck, honey. You're going to need it.
2006-09-27 05:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by jillymack06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, you are confused because they're both hot? Do you understand that being engaged means you are pledging to marry this man? Do you plan on cheating on him after the marriage? Obviously, you are not ready to be in a relationship with this level of commitment right now. You should let him down gently, and it would really be cruel to go out with his best friend afterwards.
2006-09-27 05:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should stay with your fiancee because he is the one you fell in love with not his best friend. But maybe it's a sign that you are not ready to settle down and be commited to just one guy.
2006-09-27 05:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay with your fiance. It's not that easy to find someone that you get along with and wants to spend the rest of your life with. If you end up dating the best friend, do you think that guy has the same feelings for you and will treat you better?
2006-09-27 05:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is what goes around comes around. If u feeling someone one else u need to let it go, u not ready to get married. But i do say not to mess with the friend. That will cause too much drams, and u don't want the drama. Question? are they fighting about u? They are friends and men do not fight over women like women do over men. I said don't go thier with the friend. And i think u are ready to get married yet, sorry
2006-09-27 05:56:37 · answer #11 · answered by Mika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋