I need some advice. My sister-in-law has started seeing some guy and to start with i thought he was brilliant, but i have noticed that he is obsessive and he constantly texts and calls her if he is at work and she is at home. He has to sit right next to her and he always feels the need to kiss her and feel her infront of us. This 1was ok for the first few months but it hasnt stopped 5 months later!He moved in the day after they met and makes us feel unwelcome now. To top the lot i spoke to one of my friends who knows him and works for the same company and she was shocked to hear he was seeing my sister-in-law as he was having a baby with some other girl and they are still very much together! I confrunted him about the baby infront of her and he told her that they has split up and the baby wasnt his, she was a bunny boiler, she belives him. But now i see him with this other girl around the town and i dont know what to do. Should i tell her or not?
2006-09-27 05:25:33 · 35 answers · asked by star28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes....tell her...he's using her...he's lying...he's cheating...and who on this earth would move in the day after they met....if he makes you feel un-welcome when you call round there....and you want to see your sis-in-law....arrange for her to come round to your place....you don't need to see him, after all it seems that he does not want you there when you visit...if i was in this situation i would tell him exactly what i thought about him
2006-09-27 05:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you got a mobile with a Video cam on it or even just a cam if so snap away take pictures of him with this other woman and show them to your sis in law. Also try (i know it might be difficult) to get your sis in law on her own ask her how she feels about him being so clingy, she may be finding it difficult to tell him to do one! an if she is then your snaps will give her the perfect excuse. If not though love is blind, if she truly loves this guy and is loving his clinging then unfortunately you have to sit back and let her get on with it, just let her know that if she ever feels the need to talk then you will always be there. make arrangements to meet her for girlie shopping trips once a week and get progress reports from her. If hes making you feel unwelcome then visit more, don't be put off by him and what ever you do don't isolate yourselves from them, you never know he may get that cheesed off he'll **** off!! Good luck.
2006-09-27 05:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take picturesand then next time you go over and they stop by ... WHAM there ya go . NOthing beat those great Kodak moments.
If your sister still wants ot belief this clown then shame on her and better yet if you keep seeing him with this other female - take your sister along for theride and let her see for herslef. Yes it cruel and heartless BUT it does show her you truely do care for her and meant you are not lieing either.
I say carema and showing them while they are together is the best beat.
Cell Phones now have Cameras so use em.
2006-09-27 05:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her, I feel that she has the right now know. I would also recommend the book "Obsessive Love." That might open her eyes to a few things within her relationship.
All that you can do is be supportive, and understanding. If she has your trust then you will be the person she talks too.
2006-09-27 05:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by Dr2B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a true friend you should tell her - then the rest is up to her. This guy sounds like a right jerk, You can just say I told you what he's like when she finds out what he's really like. Get on the phone and tell her today and don't hesitate. You've obviously got a gut feeling about it, You americans over analyise things, just do it....from the British lady
2006-09-27 05:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by NO1TOPICS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you or your husband should tell her. His next step is to cut her off from the family completely (either by "not allowing" visits, or moving from area, or leaving her without a vehicle...) mark my words!
You could buy her the book "Co-Dependant No More" by Melodie Beattie.
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2006-09-27 05:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - tell him first. Tell him you know and you have evidence. Tell him to break it off with her or you will tell her.
If you go straight to her you risk losing her friendship. So give him the chance to get out of it with his and her dignity intact. And act like you believe whatever story she tells you afterwards.
But be prepared to act and risk all if he refuses to leave - or try to set up something so that she sees him with the other woman.
2006-09-27 05:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her what you know and then leave her to make up her own mind.
If you have info on this other woman, she might want to go round and see her just to put her straight on a few things.
And she must dump this guy pronto!
2006-09-27 07:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dealing with in law is not an easy bite.it needs a lot of care to handle issues, i must confess.best way that comes to mind right away is to invite your sis in law around the spots you find him with the other girl and let her see with her eyes and tackle it herself.let it be her problem to keep seeing him or not.
2006-09-27 05:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would tell her but i would also fell bad 4 her if she broke up.
4 now u should keep on spying him 4 at least a week or so and if he still hangs out with this mysterious girl then u should tell her.
2006-09-27 05:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by ISABELLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her.But not alone.You must ask your friend to be there too and hopefully if your sister is as wise as you are,will dump him on the spot.This is a serious matter and your sister needs immediate help.
2006-09-27 05:31:26 · answer #11 · answered by mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋