We've been dating for 3 months & right now im in a situation where i really need him financully and he know it. He has bought me a car, and countless other things. All though he treat me good 90% of the time i know he has had sex with someone else. Even though im not in love it still bothers me. He tells me he's in love all the time and that i'm "the one". Honestly im really not tryin to be "The One Forever" jus "The One Right Now" I like to go out with my friends and hang out, and i might come in the house at 2 or 3 in the morning and he'll be upset saying that its not fair for me to do that when he can't, but still has some other young girl callin from before he met me. Im currently at a dead end job and dont have the means to support myself so what should i do????
2006-09-27 05:17:53 · 58 answers · asked by TenderlyTouched22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find a job and stop using him--
2006-09-27 05:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl use him for now...try to see if you can an education out of this man. Even if it's a 2 yr college. He's obviously using you...so just use him back. Make sure you get the car in your name...if you have to play the game for a little to get the car in your name do it....don't go out so much sort bend a little bit more to his will just for a bit...you don't have to do i forever. Remember though....don't get caught up in the game where you start believing and thinking this is a "great" situation. Ne way, try to save some money and move out on your own in about a year. Even though you may work at a dead end job it's still money and you are most likely not paying for rent or have a car payment or really anything else...so where's your money going? It better be going into you bank acct for as a nest egg...so you can hit the ground running in about a year. Gotta start planning now...he's probably gonna dump you...just seems like that sort of guy...make sure you are financially secure. And while you're staying with him.....look for a better job...but don't tell him you are.
2006-09-27 05:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why cant he go out till 2 or 3 in the morning? He's of age!! You need either another job or a 2nd job...Let him still pay for your shi t! & in the meantime you save $$ like it aint no ones business!!! That's your pillow. DONT TELL HIM YOU SAVING CASH!! Start using protection if you aint already!! When you leave this relationship, you dont want to leave with a "parting gift" from him! He's 30 yrs older than you..Im 28 & when I was 22 I was a tottally diferent person. Alot happens in your twentys, you mature, you experience. Being with a 52 yr old is not what you'll want!!
2006-09-27 05:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by BooSha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all exist in a time frame that we cannot escape. At least you realize nothing can come of this. even if it did. When you are an active 40 he'll be an inactive 70 and the cause of embarrassment for you.
You have to plan your future and be self sufficient.
While you are in this relationship many possible futures may be passing you by.
Think about it!
2006-09-27 05:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very self serving and confused. You admit that you want this guy for his money and he knows it so why are you upset that he's seeing some else. If you want to go out with your friends and party you don't honestly expect a grown man with a wealth of experience to just sit at home and cry do you?
What you need to do is stop perpetuating the cycle of the morally bankrupt and lazy person who wants to be kept and get yourself some self esteem and take care of yourself.
2006-09-27 05:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by solgiver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you need to map out the ground rules for this relationship. If he's paying for you to escort him, then that's fine as long as you agree to it. If you want to dictate rules to him, he gets to do the same thing with you!
As for the age, it no longer plays a role in things when you get past the age of consent. Contrary to popular belief, there are a lot of guys that date younger women and vice-versa(i.e. Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher) Just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons and don't try and fool yourself into thinking it's something it isn't.
2006-09-27 05:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look for new work and get out of that relationship. If he is cheating and you do not love him there is no reason for the two of you to make each other miserable. being in a relationship for money alone is not a good idea and will probably not work out. the fact that he is jealous when you go out is not good either. But its ok that he sleep with other people and you are supposed to be ok with it?? no i dont think so. for your best interest I would get out of this situation soon.
2006-09-27 05:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by sarafina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Tenderly Touched by someone that could almost certainly be your father,
It seems you've stumbled upon quite a pickle. I vote keep him near he purchased you an automobile after only 3 months, theres something very right with the sounds of that.
Sincerely,
Good luck with that.
2006-09-27 06:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Alotta F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some dignity , find a job, any, and stop receiving presents and money.
Women like you make us look so bad to all women in the world.
Please excuse me, but what is the difference between a prostitute and you? You have sex with him because of the money, so why would you expect him to treat you with respect as if you were a girlfriend? He thinks you are a whore , and he treats you like that.
2006-09-27 05:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by monis 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
At least you know this is NOT a good situation.
Do you have a family that is willing to help you out til you find a better job or two?
This guy is screwing other women and what about STD's or AIDS?
C'mon - wake up and smell the coffee.
2006-09-27 05:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take advantage of the situation... go back to school and let him support you. Prepare yourself financially for down the road... you aren't in a hurry it's not like someone else is pounding your door down. He is already doing the same thing to you.??? You have basically said you are not " the forever" girl.
2006-09-27 05:19:55 · answer #11 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋