2006-09-27 05:11:53 · 32 answers · asked by beech100@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, not at all.
2006-09-27 05:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong. Stop bullying her. If she doesn't want to eat certain foods don't make her.
If you're that concerned about this issue then start with the pudding, then 1 or 2 sweets and then the tea. After a while she'll get bored with this and resort to something that you feel is more acceptable.
2006-09-27 08:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. In fact you're kinder to do that than let her fill up on sweet things when she hasn't had the nutrition of the main meal. I think sweets and puddings are one of the biggest reasons why children don't like to eat the main meals that are really good for them, especially if they know they're going to get one whether they've eaten their dinner or not. Puddings should be nothing more than a reward for eating the main meal and they should be used as an incentive for the child to eat every bit of their dinner up before they enjoy the privilege.
2006-09-27 05:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by Hotpink555 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all, we do the same, we also make them eat another 3 spoon fulls before they leave the table because they always want to leave some thing.
Don't know how old you daughter is but mine is 8 and my step son 12 and we still don't allow pudding if tea not eaten
2006-09-27 05:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are not wrong! It is a good rule to make sure children eat healthy things instead of loading up on sweets. Try observing how much she eats on a regular basis, and then serve her that amount regularily, to help her to eat consistently and you can better judge how much room she has left for dessert. If everyone else is having sweets and not having to obey the rule, except her, that would be wrong. They learn more by example than rule. :-)
2006-09-27 05:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. This is a respect thing - if you have spent time cooking the tea, then your step-daughter should eat it and if she doesn't, she should have nothing else. If you go to my gran's school of discipline - she should get it back the next day too!
2006-09-27 05:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by kingofclubs_uk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong... children have to understand that they will not always be able too fuss around.. they have to know when enough is enough... I once kept spinach in my mouth the whole night... next morning i sneaked out of my room and spat it in the loo!!!
Even you are only her step mum you are now a family it may be hard for her but she will have to get used to it so she might aswell do it know rather then wait
GD luck
2006-09-27 07:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by blue*dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in force feeding a child for fear of them becoming over weight ... but in this circumstance not letting her eat sweets... Only if she ate a decent well proportion meal first then the tea isn't so important.
2006-09-27 05:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by Just being myself! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to not allow her puddings.
For all you not English people answering, tea is not the drink tea, it is her evening meal. In the North of England we say dinner and tea and in the South of England they say lunch and dinner. Hope this helps.
2006-09-27 05:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by waspy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's what I do. My son knows now that if he hasn't eaten enough tea, then he doesn't get pud. It usually does the trick.
2006-09-27 05:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by Trix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has been your stepdaughter for a long time and you get on with her (i.e. you two are like any other parent and child) then no, that's fine.
If you two aren't, maybe it's still too soon to start imposing rules as strict as that. Try being a best friend before being a parent.
2006-09-27 05:17:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋