2006-09-27 04:55:09 · 8 answers · asked by Chris L 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you are close to the person or it has been brought up, just say "I'm sorry for your loss." And then leave it alone; you don't know how they feel (unless you've also miscarried) so please don't say you do. Also, please don't say anything about "you can try again" because that's really painful. It implies that this one didn't matter and is replaceable.
(I'm not saying that you'd do any of those things, but they were said to me by friends when I miscarried and it was awful.)
2006-09-27 05:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all likelihood, the correct answer is 'very little'. You might want to say 'I'm sorry for your loss' if you know them quite well, but if they are merely an acquaintance, then this is the time for close family and friends, and you should stay clear. There can be a temptation to try to get involved, but this should be avoided unless you really are someone they would want to hear from. A card may well be an appropriate response as well.
2006-09-27 14:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by hosmer_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blue Octagon's answer is great.
You can also send a Thinking of You card telling them that you are there if they want to talk, and asking if there is anything you can do to help. Not really a sympathy card, but re-purposing a Thinking of You during this difficult time card.
2006-09-28 07:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like stef's and blueoctagon's answers.
In my experience with friends who have had miscarriages, it seems to be quite a difficult experience for the previously expectant mother. Depending on your relationship with the person, you might want to do something for them that you would do for any grieving person: bring them a meal, help clean the house, or just hold her and let her cry.
2006-09-27 15:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for them if they need to talk. Hug them and let them know your so sorry for their loss. Don't give any advise on how they should handle their grief. Just listen to them.
2006-09-27 05:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good strong hug and listen, don't talk
2006-09-27 08:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by julie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them what you can do to help.
2006-09-27 05:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by HH6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss.
2006-09-27 05:01:41 · answer #8 · answered by Stef 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋