im vry shy..i cant trust myself...im vry ninny...i cant began talking with agirl..coz im shy sure..im facing big problems for that...who can help me..to be better
2006-09-27 04:38:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are probably taking it personally when other people do not react to you in the way that you expect them to. Learn how to stop doing that (taking it personally), and you will have solved your problem (it worked for me).
First of all, how people react to you probably has more to do with them, and the kind of day that they were having so far, than it does with you. If someone does not want to talk to you, act as if it is no big deal (no matter how she reacts) and move on to the next person. The opinion of just ONE person does not matter, so quit worring about the reaction of the last crazy person that you met. There ARE nice people out there, and you will find them if you keep talking to people.
By the way, if you seem needy, overly shy, too awkward, or too nervous around people, then they will feel hesitant about speaking to you because they will feel like you are a person who is easily offended, and they will feel nervous talking to you. Approach people with a self-confident smile that implies that you already know that they will like you, and it becomes a self-fulling prophecy since your positive attitude will be catching. Make sure that you make consistent eye contact, because that implies interest in the other person (always flattering), and it implies self-confidence (the opposite of fearful & needy). Keep keep talking to different people, and you will soon become better at it. You will soon feel confident, since you will realize that it is not really all that difficult.
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BTW, if you find yourself staring at a cute girl, and she looks up and sees you looking at her, do NOT do what most guys do; most guys in this situation will get shy and immediately look AWAY. If you read girls responses on Y!A, you will notice that this freaks girls out. If she sees you, ALWAYS maintain eye contact no matter how scary it seems, until SHE looks away. This makes you look confident. After that, do not keep looking at her. Ignore her and go talk to other people. She will probably come over and talk to you in order to see what's up.
2006-09-27 04:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are not an idiot. Second, no-one can really help you overcome your shyness, except you. You may gets lots of opinions on how and what to do, but until you are ready to come out of your shell, so to speak, then nothing will work. I am very out-going and I don't meet a stranger, but some people are totally different. It is hard to make friends or join in when you are so shy. Just remember to be yourself around people. And at last, remember this, Shy guys are sexy. There is that touch of mysteriousness about them........good luck sweetie
2006-09-27 11:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and try to be bolder. I know it's hard, but trust me it'll work and after a while it won't be a big deal any more. You'll get over the shyness. Besides, some girls like a guy to be a little shy, I know i do.
2006-09-27 11:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by paige 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude here is what you need to do. Start working out, when your body starts to develope and you notice girls looking at you and making advances toward you, your shyness will evaporate. It wont happen over night and it's not easy. Nothing in life that is worthwhile ever is easy.
2006-09-27 11:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry you'll grow out of it .When it'd time to speak up.
join sports
that always start up conversation an the other person does most of the talkin.tellin you what they thought of the game.just join in if you like.
2006-09-27 11:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by MISSY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tip #1. Learn English.
Tip #2. Stop being a Goddamn ****** and grow some hair on your balls.
2006-09-27 11:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by Dick Richie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I! I like my men open. Shy guys are a lot of work
2006-09-27 11:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out more, socialize, ask your friends to critique your approach. I'm sure they know you better than we do and can offer better advice.
2006-09-27 11:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring a mutual friend with you,(must be a guy) and you will feel relax enough to talk to her
2006-09-27 11:43:06 · answer #9 · answered by ##$SoulStryker$## 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to focus on something else.
2006-09-27 11:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋