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I need help!!!?
I need some help, my bf wants me not to text him 10 times a day, but he is on my mind a lot, so how do i stop!! i want to stop but i dont really know how!! if i dont stop it will be the end! I want to be a nice, chilled gf but dont know how.... please help me!!!
So if i only text him once a day and say all the right thinks will he start liking me more?? See the only reason i am texting him so much is because i want to get some attention! I want to get him to text me first, drive him mad when i dont text back within an hour!! Do u get what i mean??? How do i do that, apart from not texting him so much!!!
2006-09-27 04:21:43 · 20 answers · asked by Simone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are going to make him feel like a prisoner in his own relationship. Stop doing that, you don´t need to send him 10 messages a day to make him think about you, that is if he really loves you.
You need to give him some personal space and let him be, that way he will know that you love him with all your heart and he will show you how much he loves you.
I used to be like you, and I know that is a difficult situation. I lost a gf because of that attitude, so stop before its too late.
Good luck
2006-09-27 04:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by alex_josue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf may be on your mind all day long. Just think of it this way.. w/o texting him all day long it'll give you more to look forward to when you see him at the end of the day. I think of my husband all day long but I don't call him or text him at all and vise versa. He might be feeling like you're just bothering him during the day with all the texting that you're doing. Try to hold off just a little. As far as only texting him once a day I'm not sure if he'll like you more or not. He may. He also may do something really special for you to show you how much he likes you in return. Just some info: when my husband and I were dating I used to call him all the time after work then I stopped all together just to see if he would call me first. Which he did but it drove him crazy that I didn't call him first. Hope this helps some. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-27 11:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound cruel or anything but you really do need to chill with the text mesages. What you're doing is smothering him, giving him a reason to end things.
No one likes a clingy partner or wants to be in an overly clingy relationship. That's how you're coming across to him by texting so much.
You're going to have to learn that you can't have all of his attention, all of the time. Though, if it really bothers you then tell him that. Explain to him how you feel where the attention aspect is concerned and go from there. I'm sure the two of you can come to some sort of understanding.
But for your own sake and his sanity ... put the phone away. Give him a reason to want to rush home and call otherwise you're going to find yourself asking us how to get over a broken heart real soon.
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-27 11:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by bluesie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something else to do with your time. You can't sit around obsessing and not keep texting. Go out with some friends or something. You want him to chase you then you have to run. You are too in his face. It's like -how can I miss you if you won't go away. Cut him off cold turkey- no more text at all. When he calls be nice but keep it short and always have something else going on. He will be more interested to get to know more things about you when he sees you with other people or doing things instead of waiting on him. He is taking your attention for granted so teach him a lesson. You will have him eating out of your hand in no time. Good Luck
2006-09-27 11:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems like he's a busy guy...I'm not one to play games but if you must you must.
So what I would do in find something to take up my time because not only will it stop you from texting or thinking about him so much but it will better yourself and show him that you can be independent. That should give him the space he wants and not drive you crazy. If that doesn't work let him go. he's not worth your time.
2006-09-27 11:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Yolanda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start by limiting yourself, to maybe one text a day. Or give up the texting all together. Sometimes when your partner feels like they are losing you they pay more attention. Right now you are making yourself too available. Make him do some of the work.
2006-09-27 11:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by arcadia_1977 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to hear it, but you have to stop texting him. For one you can't make him like you. That said.. How can he miss you and want to text you if you're not patient enough to let him. It may take days for him to text you, you're just going to have to wait it out. Nobody wants to be smothered all the time. If you don't start giving him his space, he may just leave you all together to find someone that's less insecure. You need to work on your self esteem and leave him alone for a while so he misses you. You can't miss what's never gone. My advise is to RELAX!.
2006-09-27 11:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how bout this...if you want him to text you first, then don't text him for a whole day or two....that way he will give you the attention you need. guys don't like us girls to be nagging them all the time. and from his point of view, you're definitely nagging, and making it seem as if you do't trust him. don't be clingy. so what you should do is not say anything at all....so you miss him, so you want to be with him, but imagine if he texts you ALL the friggin time (at work, asleep, in the bathroom, eating, at school, in the mall), it'll make it seem as if he doesn't trust you and isn't giving you your own space. so bring it down a bit.....one text a day, then one day, no text at all......see if he responds back....if not, try one text a day, then two days text-free...good luck...and remember: DON"T BE CLINGY!
2006-09-27 11:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by luscious_ladie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin once had a girlfriend like you...he dumped her and got another girlfriend. You can't be so clingy! Let him call/text you when he wants to chat! Only call/text when you have something important to say to him otherwise he might get a little tired of you.
2006-09-27 11:27:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lacking Daisies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to what he's saying. You can't have all of his attention, I'm pretty sure he has other cares and worries on his mind. Be supportive not obssessive, give the guy some breathing space.
2006-09-27 11:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by dsd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋