I have been in the dating game for a while but i atill insist on no to sex before marriage. Is it wise.?

Question

my decision has nothin to do with spriritual knowledge. its just something i think is right and of good morals to have sex with only ur husband. but am i just watsing mytime, cos i ahve lost people who really cared about cos of this no sex issue.

Answer 1

then they dont care for you if they did they would wait
if you feel you are right you stick to your guns and wait

Answer 2

If you think it is the right thing to do then stik with it. However I would caution you and everyone else against doing it - even those doing it for religious reasons for many reasons:-

1) Sex is a natural and enjoyable thing, it doesn't have to be dangerous or risk your health - just use condoms.

2) Sex gets better the more you practise it, I'm having better sex in my thirties than in my teens and twenties cos I know now more what I like and so do my partners.

3) No-one expects people to be virgins anymore - in fact I would be very intimidated if I found myself in bed with a virgin these days.

4) You might end up marrying in haste because you met someone you felt for and wanted to have sex with them and make a big mistake.

5) Some people just 'fit' better than others in bed. My ex husband was ok but my current partner and I 'fit' much better - I'm glad I tried a few more after my husband (he was my second lover).

6) For those abstaining because of religion be aware that these laws were made by men to keep women from enjoying their natural given right - to enjoy sex.

7) If its not about religion then why wait for a 'husband' - it is possible to have a commited relationship without getting married you know.

Answer 3

I believe in waiting to an extent for the real thing. When you have been dating for a while and trust him and are in love with him I think the next step naturally is to have sex. You get to learn so much more about him then, how he treats you and such during sex. I would never wait until after you're married to the guy to see if you truly connect on a sexual level. Its too important to know first before its too late. You cant expect a guy to hold back forever and wait to have sex. He wants to learn more about you too that way and whether you want to believe it or not most men cant go long without having some form of sex. And if you hold out he may begin to believe you are not interested and move on. Hope this helps!

Answer 4

U r a saint!!!!Stick to ur moral opinions because even if u deny that they r not coming from ur soul;the truth is they r constant messages to be aware from the universal infinite intelligence force ,help and intuitive feelings not only from ur soul but also from other advanced souls.It seems that some supernatural force is trying to help u get out of certain possibilities of a grave and serious danger ahead!Listen to it and don't ignore.It's the voice of conscious,of god,don't ignore at all costs.

Besides,U will only protect urself from getting damaged physically,emotionally and spirtually if u go against the constant signals of nature that r apparently going to show u the right way.Be patient.Ur strategy is the only best way to determine ur inner spirtual strength and in time everyone including those who simply plot to put u into danger will realise this.

Answer 5

If you feel this is the right thing then stick to it. But keep in mind that sex is natural and a very important part of life, it is something that can bring a lot of hapiness on many different levels. It helps to make you feel closer to your partner. Providing it is done with love.

Answer 6

you stick to your own values and wait, you not only have the respect of your husband you can have lots of fun discovering each others likes and dislikes, a sharing caring relationship is far more rewarding than (just sex), so think of all the years you will have together practising untill you both feel truly happy and and satisfied, trust yourself and be happy with your true beloved. and well done.

Answer 7

any decent man you meet will like you for you, and not for what you can give them, so don't you think he's worth waiting for? You won't have lost anyone or missed out on anything with them if when they found out about your no sex before marriage, they took off. Keep it up and don't give in to anyone for fear of losing them. If they expect you to put out, then they're not worth your time because they obviously don't respect your values. Keep looking, you'll find him in the end.x

Answer 8

I think you should go with no sex b4 marriage as you think this is right. I believe you would meet someone of like mind who would hold you in high regard for your stance on this.

I don't believe in this try before you buy attitude that lots have, it is immoral, selfish and believe me does not solve anything. Just makes us all unfaithful; disloyal and very very shallow. Lots do not value themselves or others as a result and the framework of family is constantly being ripped by our irresponsibility.

Answer 9

I personally think that this is the best approach. If people have left you for not wanting to have sex before marriage then they are not worth the time as they do not respect you and your wishes. don't worry you'll meet the right person who will respest you for this.

I just wish more people would think like you.

Answer 10

Me too - but my decision comes from religion, and I'm happy with it. Virginity is something very special and should only be given to your husband. If you give it to your past boyfriends, what special thing have do you have to offer your husband?

@ wthing5: A person should not have a 'try before you buy' policy.

My respects to you, and please stay with your decision :)

Answer 11

Well do not expect marriage or anything else to come your way. If you want to play the game forlife do it. But if you want to find someone you got to be prepared to show what is on offer. Oral Anal Dressing it up, shaving itr, outdoor the full monty. No one is going to buy untested. You sound like you could do with losing a few pounds too so shape up a little too.