What do you think if i 24 years old and i want to marry a man that is 45 years old?

Answer 1

go ahead if you truly love each other, do not listen to anybody but yourselves. To each their own:)

My parent's 20th anniversary was last year and they still love being together.

Answer 2

If he has kids, there are a huge change that they are as old or older than you.

Age IS a huge deal as you are younger. As a 14 year old, would you have dated a 35 year old? Probably not.

I'm not going to tell you that you're 24 and should be still in a party mode. That's not for everyone, and you could be different.

However, realize that if you have children, your husband would be dead before they hit 30 (most likely).

While you may feel in love and ready for marriage, if you have to ask for the blessings and opinions of others, you're questioning the age difference.

I would double think HIS true intentions. Is he dating you just to feel young again? How many times has he been married? Does he want chidlren?

You BOTH need to have a sit-down discussion about the future. How will you handle his children, if he has any? How will handle FUTURE children?

Also--how long have you been both been dating? This is a biggie, even more important than age. If you've been together for 4 weeks and call it enough, I question both your intentions and emotionaly maturity. If you've been together for 3 years and can honestly tell someone his flaws, then you're getting closer.

Love is not all you need in a marriage. Marriage is tough--there will be days where you can't stand each other. And that's fine! That doesn't mean you're going to divrorce. But saying "but I love him!" isn't a good reason to get married to anyone.

Answer 3

I think there was a song about that called "Cheating Side of Town" in which a girl talks about sneaking away from her older husband instead of saving her love only for "an old man with hands as cold as ice." And no it was not by Anna Nicole Smith.

I think that there will come a point in your life when your husband's interests are so far from yours that your life is very constricted. You will be about 45 and want to go out dancing at a club and he will only want to play checkers with the other 65 year olds at the senior citizen center.

It looks good now but doesn't stay as enticing as the years go by.

Answer 4

I don't advise it, but if it makes you happy....

The only thing I can caution is that you have to look to the future, not just in the present and make some conciderations:

1) Do you want kids? Does he? Does he already have some? Would it be fair to bring kids into the world knowing that he would be in his 60's (at least, and in possible poor health) by the time they finish high school? If he already has kids (which he might at 45), are you ready to be a step-mom?

2) Are you ready to be a widow (and possibly, single mother)? Odds are he will die about 20 years before you.... That's not meant to be mean. It's just math.

Now, I am sure that he has a stable job, and a home which can definately appeal to someone your age.... believe me, I am in your shoes, but you definately need to weigh your options before you get married.

It's a lifelong commitment not to be gotten into lightly. Love can blind you from the parts of life that can affect a relationship..... Now that's usually money, but in your case it could be kids and/or death......

Good luck in whatever you choose to do.

Answer 5

The numerical aspect of an age of a person is not directly proportional to the maturity level of that person. Two things to analyse - Do both of you share the same wavelength on various stuff. This is not to be confused with the statement, Do you both share the same views on everthing, do the same things, think alike etc.. As for me I believe you can be different in all of the above, and yet have the willingness to come half way to try and understand what the other likes or dislikes. E.g. u might love partying around, and he does not, dont expect him to tag along with ya everytime just bec he shld since he loves ya, but do expect him to once a while be interested in what is it that makes you love partying. Share experiences, interests not necessarily be compelled to participate in them. Secondly, will there be a willingness to learn about the other person, cos that is what keeps the relationship interesting, instead of just putting the claim on the window, that this is what you do or like and that you are not interested in what the other does or likes, as long as yours is understood and practiced.

Answer 6

If that 24 year old is mature and truly loves the 45 year old then great. My husband is much older than me and I am also in my early 20s

Answer 7

how long have you been together? if you were together since like 18 i'd say go for it. otherwise i think you should give it more time. i'd have to be with someone for like 5 years before i know if i want to spend the rest of my life with them. i've had many relationships fail at about the 3 year mark. also, i think you are too young to marry anyone of any age. you should at least wait until you are 28 or 29. if you are really serious about this, then you should be able to wait because you will want this to last forever, right?

Answer 8

I think you would be extremely foolish. Go find your dad and take a good look at him. You love him, right? Now look at your dad again and imagine being with him in bed sexually. Icky, right? That's what it would be like. You are a generation apart from him, and that is just not good. I know you are probably having feelings of being loved and cared for, but that is an illusion. You need to find someone nearer your age.

Answer 9

Its really up to the both of you. Your both adults and you can make your own choices. I do thinks its a little strange and maybe there is some other reason you are both together. It is really your choice. If you love him get married but if there is some other reason (example: dad was not around) dont do it. what ever you choose good luck.

Answer 10

I think you are not at the same stages of life and you may regret it.
I know when I was 24 I wanted diffenent things in life than at 30...Plus at 24 some woment look for a fther figure when they date much older men..he could be your father.
Now if you were 55 and he was 68 then it wouldnt make a differnce

Answer 11

I think he's a lucky guy ;*)

Such relationships can certainly work, though they pose special challenges (especially like 20-30 years down the road). Just make sure, through conversations with your counselor or therapist, that you have a good handle on just why you want this relationship - specifically, make sure that you're not unconsciously working through some unresolved daddy issues.

Good luck!