I've fallen hard for someone, and then caught them with someone else. They promised me it wouldn't happen again...then it did. So now we've separated. But before we got "involved", we were friends... so it hurts even worse to think that I'm losing a friend. Why do people have to be so...inconsiderate? Why do hearts have to break? Why fall in love?
2006-09-27 03:52:18 · 28 answers · asked by myspace.com/drinkmorecaffein 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you know as "Falling in love" is the infatuation stage of a relationship. The actual love part is built with mutual hard work.
If you want a relationship that will last, take full advantage of the infatuation stage to test your potential mate. You've got to make it about more than just emotion. Find out how they react to different situations. Are they selfish or selfless? That way, you can break things off yourself before they get serious and your heart is truly invested.
This is why it is so important to avoid sex durring the infatuation stage. Once sex is involved, all logic goes out the window. Commitments are implied, but not sealed through promises. Then they are broken.
Heart-ache is not inevitable if you're smart about things!
2006-09-27 03:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you get out of bed in the morning - you may slip & fall - that's life & love sucks but it can be so sweet also - so you gotta take a chance & never change the goodness in you - just don't be anyone's doormat - cheer up - better days are ahead.
Here's something to read by Rose Walker:
Have you even been in love? Horrible, isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens your heart and it means someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses. You build up this whole armor, for years, so nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...
You give them a piece of you. They don't ask for it. They do something dumb one day like kiss you, or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so a simple phrase like "maybe we should just be friends" or "how very perceptive" turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a body-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-
rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.
2006-09-27 04:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because "falling in love" and the circumstances that surround it are modern American myths. We hear songs all day long that talk about loving someone forever, being together forever, never letting someone go and that's just impossible. Even if you manage to hold on to old age with someone, death is going to take one of you first and the other will have to experience the loss.
The truth is that people can't be trusted 100%. Every one of us is tempted by something, and desires change and variety. You can be married to someone for 20 years with them being faithful and all of the sudden someone much younger that reminds them of an ex girlfriend comes along and maybe he has sex with her. People are something like snakes. Due to the challenges and temptations we face, we can be nice for a long time and gain a person's trust and all of the sudden bite one day for no apparent reason.
I think people should invest the majority of themselves into whatever spiritual path they choose so that they have a "rock" to lean on instead of depending on people so much. If we rely on people, most of the time we're going to get hurt.
2006-09-27 03:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ill bet there were signs way before hand you just chose to ignore them and love him was easier ..and yes it hurts so bad !! i know !!!! believe me and the dog couldnt be man enough and just say i want to be with someone else before doing it !!
but if you keep the frame of mind you have now you will nver love openly again ..it will take alot of work on your side but try to love again ..and dont let lust cheat you ..ya know yea we argued all day but all last night was so good ..thats not love !!
if a relationship with a guy with not sex involved doesnt work then it never will !!!
and if u have sex and thats the ony time you feel good in his arms then that is not love either ..just pay attention in the beginning if there are problems soon off break it and dont let your self fall in love with that person ok ..cuz yoll just set your self up again for heart break and ..if you do fall in love again dont be blind you can see when a man loves you with respect and care ( not in the bed) ok so good luck and i am so sorry ..i have felt what you are feelin and woman to woman man it sucks !!! youll be fine get to gether with some gals ok and cry its ok ..now dont go get drunk and fall in some sexcii mans arms either hahahah ..be a woman and let that man *** hole know what he lost !!!!
2006-09-27 04:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one will fall in love with the intention of getting separated after some time. Separation happens when expectation level is not met. Expectation is the main reason for separation. Its very difficult to be avoid from falling in love on something. We love on something when our frequency matches with that & we will have our expectation increases to have it consistent.
One should have less expectation from partner to avoid separation. This should be from both the side. It really works, but difficult to practise.
2006-09-27 05:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by Rajesh A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were made for love and would never rest until we find love. Love is the core of our being and because its so true and pure. When it bruised it hurts far worse the a physical blow.
No matter how hard you try, you will always give out and seek love.
But one thing you should believe, the one for you is out there.
I only hope you would notice when it comes to you.
Be happy
2006-09-27 03:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Point Blank 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love has no promises, love is probably the greatest and worst thing to ever happen to someone. i mean when you have its the best and you forget about all the bad stuff, but when its gone all you ever seem to remember is the good stuff and that makes you feel even worse.
but you gotta keep going, rolling the dice becuase rather you want it or not love will catch up with you again, you cant stop it.
2006-09-27 03:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's kind of like gambling. you get your cards, and there's that moment of anticipation and adrenaline between seeing your crads, and seeing the dealers. THAT is what gamlers live for. it's not about the money... it's about the feeling. That's why we fall in love. It really doesn't matter so much what happens in the end... we do it because being in love is one of the greatest feelings there is. and sometimes it ends, and it's miserable... but you always have the great times to remember.
2006-09-27 03:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love there are no guarantees the other person loves you so much too. You won't fall in love if you're too afraid of your heart breaking. Broken hearts are inevitable in some cases, but you can't help who you fall in love with--you just love them.
2006-09-27 03:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can fall in love and stay in love. Just because you fall in love doesnt mean that you are going to get your heart broken.
2006-09-27 03:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋